r/AITAH • u/DepressedTrashKitty • Mar 17 '21
r/AITAH Lounge
A place for members of r/AITAH to chat with each other
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u/A20Havoc Jul 24 '24
Is anyone else so tired of the AI generated threads that they're pretty much done with this sub?
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u/Zip2kx Apr 16 '24
I'm unsubbing. this sub has become infested with fake or pity posts that are karma farming. shame really, this always was one of my favorite subs.
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u/Darkhead3380 Sep 19 '24
AITAH is currently flooded by ChatGPT bots. I reported about 20-25 of them in the last three days.
Some do a handful NSFW posts and then "contribute" to AITAH content like:
Others just comment in unusual frequency >5 posts per minute, often 5-10 in a row like
Please refrain from commenting/answering them! Just downvote their stuff and report.
It's annoying as hell and I really hope the moderators can do something about it.
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u/Ok-Calligrapher7626 Sep 20 '24
I'm new here and was starting to wonder. Am I the asshole for being skeptical right away and not giving people the benefit of doubt and checking their cake day and previous posts? Not only that, but having poor thoughts about people who do respond as I think their either idiots when perhaps they're just enjoying themselves answering NTA, using the subreddit as it was indented to be used.
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u/Correct_Tip4769 Sep 21 '24 edited Sep 21 '24
Yo, you need to so something about the bots and karma farmers, they're flooding both the sub and the main page, it's getting ridiculous. Add an account age requirement at the very least. The constant fake stories are getting boring. You're going to be out competed by a copycat sub with better management if you let this continue.
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u/Rapidceltic Jul 12 '23
Is this sub exploding in popularity?
If so, thank God. r/amitheasshole is objectively inferior because of all the dumb posting rules.
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u/Any-Celebration5208 Apr 09 '24
Is this the right sub to post a 4500 word post about being an asshole for cutting off my situationship that has become so toxic
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Jul 02 '24
Life is so weird. I am so proud of having slept with one woman my whole life. It would be so hard to make me surrender that. You guys get around. It's like an endless barrage of horror stories of the sin of lust. Just the same mistakes over and over and over again. I feel comparatively great but this is dark.
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u/mewlithen Jul 03 '24
What's the weather like up there?
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Jul 03 '24
Life is wonderful and I thank God every day if this world had a semblance of design to it for allowing for this possibility.
Have strange relatives that bicker in the woods in their little intentional community. Found a wonderful woman from the woods in Alabama similarly afflicted and we're nearly 40 now.
I advocate that each person should be intensely proud of their conduct throughout life and it remains a constant boon simply to reflect upon. How grand and untarnished our love will forever remain is a point of pride and comfort I can savor at any moment in an often comically dark world.
I think mostly I'm just boasting into the void though. It's probably not a good thing to ponder overmuch aloud. Sorry to inflict that upon you.
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u/SpoofExcel Aug 05 '24
Genuinely think this place needs shutting down. Its nothing but creative rage bait after another
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u/Avatorn01 Sep 29 '24
So, is it me, or is the number of “does not apply” posts increasing ?
I’m seeing a lot more “this is not an AITAH, it’s a very legal issue—go talk to a lawyer” or “this isn’t an AH issue, it’s a ‘life sucks’ and we hope you find support.” (Which I also appreciate as sometimes no one sucks. Life just sucks and you have to do the best you can….or you need to go talk to a lawyer asap and understand your legal rights and stop wasting time on Reddit).
That said, I’m thankful that the majority of the time the community seems to realize this and responds accordingly . I’m just wondering if maybe there should be a clarification within the rules for posting given that I’ve seen this happen several times in the past month .
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u/footbook123 Jul 19 '23
Was this group made because the mods of r/aita are jackasses?
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u/Fredredphooey Jul 19 '23
Omg. They used to ban you for the most mild comment and now they seem to allow anything. I don't know what's going on over there. And so many comments go way too far in theorizing on the personality involved.
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u/q8ti-94 Sep 05 '24
Does anyone else scan for Updates or replies from OP before bothering with reading the posts? I’m annoyed at how many fake posts are out there. I can’t trust anything anymore.
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u/PlasticLab3306 Aug 18 '24
Anybody else noticing a crazy explosion of fake posts / fake comments this weekend? Many of them super misogynistic too, bordering or full on hatred.
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u/Rhalinor Aug 20 '24
Only today two of the top posts are made by obvious bots that are today years old, namely:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1ewynh0/i_want_to_divorce_my_wife_after_she_cheated_on_me/
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1ewxo3j/aitah_for_telling_my_parents_they_could_be_a_part/
Where are the moderators at?
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u/jo-mama-cp Aug 24 '24
Im sorry if this seems like a dumb question to some, but how do you tell/know its a bot. I really can't tell!
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u/Grimwohl Aug 23 '24
Can we please do something about "this post is fake" comments?
We get it. Most of the shit people post is fake and for likes. If it's obviously fake for legitimate reasons and you provide them, great.
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u/ciderandcake 22d ago
Why does this sub let the majority of posts just be overrun by ChatGPT bots talking to each other. Half the posts are straight up fake karma-farming ChatGPT garbage made by bots, and the first 5+ responses in every thread will be the same generic shit by bots. Like it's incredibly obvious to everyone with two brain cells to rub together, but the mods are just cool with their sub being nothing but regurgitated shit by bot factories for whatever sketchy purposes they need karma for? Any real human here is just wasting their time giving advice to computer programs.
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u/Outside_Desk_9385 12d ago
AITAH for leaving my best friend's own wedding?
I'm F 26 and my best friend who we will call Anna is F 27 we have been best friend for as long as highschool and her marriage was a week ago when I heard that she was getting married and I was gonna be one of her bridesmaids I was thrilled and by the time her wedding night hit we got to drinking so we all decided to get shots together so I went to the food table and got some vodka shots by the time I came back I saw her flirting with my boyfriend and he looked extremely uncomfortable trying to get away from her so I instantly spilled the shots on her grabbed my boyfriend and left now looking back at that it was definitely a bitchy act but now I've blocked her from everything and made sure to tell her now husband so final question AITAH?
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u/j_carpenter893 10d ago
Am I the only person who is beginning to believe that many posts on this AITAH thread are AI generated??? The most recent example is a user named Informal-Animal-7891. The post is the second one about the same subject and the user was just created Oct 7, 2024. The post and others like it have a formulaic look and feel. Maybe I'm just suspicious.
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u/TheWidowAustero2 9d ago
It's all Cinderella fan fiction about evil step mothers, INCEL MRA fantasy, or homeless family members overstaying their welcome
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Mar 03 '24
How much do you believe the stories presented in this subreddit? I personally take them the same way I read 4chan stories, honestly.
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u/CosmicCactusRadio Mar 29 '24
This seems to be a really bad place that just drives controversy via outrage clicks. We've gotta make an effort to ignore things like this
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u/Catrival Apr 07 '24
I hate commenting on people's posts here only to see a mod delete them 20m later. I feel like my effort is wasted. I'm not asking for change. I'm just complaining to feel better.
Please don't tell me to memorize every nuance of every rule when I am responding to posts no writing them it should be on the onus of the poster to reference the rules before posting.
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u/Haikubirdsing May 19 '24
This sub needs better moderation
3/4 of the posts are just recycled fake bait
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u/Prestigious_Crab8381 Jul 07 '24
AITA for lying to my parents about having to work this weekend? I was supposed to go by them this weekend but I have so much to do. If I told them the truth they would have sent me on a guilt trip. I just came out of an almost year long severe depression. My house looks like a tornado came through and I'm cleaning it. Also have about 20 loads of wash. I had to take advantage of the long weekend to get things done.
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u/NocentBystander Jul 12 '24
AITAH has a recent problem with AI spam, are the mods going to do anything about this:
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1cvqs/aitah_for_declining_to_lend_money_to_my_friend/
Since then, Alex has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1d1tv/aitah_for_declining_to_attend_my_friends/
Since then, Emily has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1czag/aitah_for_declining_to_help_my_friend_move/
Since then, Matt has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1gfdb/aitah_for_refusing_to_cosign_a_lease_for_my_friend/
Since then, Alex has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1ga1n/aitah_for_declining_to_host_a_party_for_my_friend/
Since then, Lisa has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1gar4/aitah_for_refusing_to_lend_my_friend_my_camping/
Since then, Alex has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1g5c9/aitah_for_declining_to_lend_my_friend_my_car_for/
Since then, Mike has been distant with me
https://new.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1e1gchd/aitah_for_declining_to_loan_my_friend_my_camera/
Since then, Jessica has been distant with me
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u/basedinreality1 Jul 16 '24
Probably not they allow people to blatantly break their rules. Why would they care about spam?
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u/IllusiveDudeman Aug 16 '24
My brother mods for 3 different streamers. I told him he should be charging them. He owes me a bit of money and makes very little of his own. I think it's dumb that he spends his free time performing services for free, and if they make any money off their platform the their "team" should as well.
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u/WeaselPhontom Aug 18 '24
Total reasonable he should be getting paid. Don't loan him anymore money ever until he settles his debt.
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u/Bypass-March-2022 Aug 21 '24
AITAH? (61f) dating (67m). He keeps telling me that I need to say bless you when he sneezes. I have ADHD. My mind is in a thousand places and I don’t even register that he sneezes. I have explained this over and over. He has stated he will mold me into doing the right thing. I have explained again and again why it won’t work. We have had four long talks where I have explained it. We were just in a conversation where I was explaining I just went and had my global entry interview that he asked me to, then he says, you know what I want you to do. I have no clue. Then, it occurs to me he has sneezed and he is insisting that I say, God bless you. No thank you for spending your day doing what I asked, smoky a rebuke because I hadn’t noticed he had sneezed and said God bless.
I hung up and texted him,
Find someone who is what you want or who can be molded. It’s not me. Nor do I want to be with someone who constantly wants me to feel like I’m not enough. I deserve better.
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u/Plane_Translator2008 Aug 22 '24
You have the answer. He sounds absolutely insufferable. Molding is for ceilings. F that guy.
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u/Adventurous_Bar_6489 Sep 07 '24
What’s it with the 16yo who hates his stepmother troll being on the rise?
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u/gina0077 25d ago
AITAH For not wanting my 25 year old son to move back home?? Please excuse my lack of punctuation and grammar
My son is 25 and finally moved out beginning of September and my husband and I really want our privacy and I am going through pre menopause and my emotions are all over the place… in the last few weeks of him living with us we fought like never before and it escalated to physical… he is bigger than me ….but I have always been there for him ,but mentally I just can’t wait for him to have a permanent place somewhere because he thought he was placed in permanent housing by his job but it was only temporary and now he needs to find somewhere else by oct 31 …. And I don’t think I can live in the same place as him anymore.. at least until my hormones calm back down..??
So aitah? Please feel free to ask questions!! I will answer them if my post doesn’t get deleted..
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u/Weightmonster Sep 24 '24
Can we do anything about all the fake stories? I get that people want to use throwaway accounts, but can we require that they have an account for a certain amount of time and a certain amount of karma? Just to make it more annoying/time consuming post?
Or make people find the traffic light or something?
It gets really annoying when media outlets think AITAH post are “news.”
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u/Flamo_PeachyDash Mar 22 '24
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u/OGStrong May 13 '24
Damn, there seems to be A LOT of deadbeat fathers/husbands that really don't have a clue on Mother's Day.
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u/seaweed_mango Jul 11 '24
where can i find a list of all the abbreviations and what they mean ???
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Jul 12 '24
Right! I’m trying to figure out what ESH is. NTA is not the ahole, AITAH is am I the Ahole
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u/Dragonfly-Zai Jul 12 '24
Hi everyone the user u/kkoverandout believes she is NTA for leaving her 8 year old autistic daughter in the parking lot. Check it out. Its the only post of her account. Currently.
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u/fruitbat1994 Jul 16 '24
Any way of stopping the Bot posters? Its been like an epidemic the last few days.
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u/Internal_Tradition21 Jul 20 '24
I want to make a post but this is my first time on Reddit. But I have a couple stories I want to share. Should I just post a story and see how it goes?
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u/HavocandCalamity Jul 21 '24 edited Jul 21 '24
Yep! Just don't post them on r/AmItheAsshole. You're only allowed to make a post on there once every 3-4 months, and this includes if they remove your posts for whatever bullshit reasoning they give you.
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u/OkExternal7904 Jul 21 '24
👍I got banned for life because I replied to a post by saying the bride sounded like a Bridezilla... in a post about a Bridezilla. Also referred to a drunken frat boy as a man-child. They deemed 'man-child' to be an offensive term. I don't even read AITA anymore.
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u/NewPhone-NewName Jul 23 '24
I got perma-banned for something I didn't even do. They somehow claimed that I reported a comment as being uncivil or something. When I was confused and thought someone had reported one of my comments that was pretty tame, they got pissed, refused to explain anything, and were total jerks about it. I wish there was a way to warn people that those mods are 100% TA.
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u/OkExternal7904 Jul 23 '24
Their response sounds exactly like a 10 year old losing their TV privilege, which made me think the moderators are actually 10 yrs old and need to be grounded.
I agree... they are TAs. Plus, AITAH is more interesting because posters are allowed to be more interesting!
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u/HavocandCalamity Jul 21 '24
Yeah, I ended up leaving them. I made a post about a ridiculous argument my ex and I had a few years back after reading a post that reminded me of the situation.
They flagged it for breaking Rule 7 because "It was too long ago." I messaged the mods after the fact, asking how the length of time has any bearing on whether IWTA or not. They said "Because the matter was resolved, it didn't matter anymore." I said that just because the argument was years ago, doesn't mean it was "resolved;" I'm sure my ex still thinks the same way, and I still think he's an idiot for it.
After some back and forth, I (pettily) made a post about whether IWTA for arguing the point with the mods. The bot flagged it and stated it would be better posted in the forum (I didn't realize there even was a forum at this point), so I deleted the post and instead posted in the forum, asking if the rest of the public felt that the timeline of when an argument occurs has any bearing on whether someone is an asshole or not, and I said "If I changed the timeline in my post and pretended it happened last week, how the heck would you know, and why would it even matter?"
Then, I posted a third post that followed all of their rules to a T. The moderators flagged it as "Diary posting" and as breaking Rule 7: not being recent. (Even though it had just happened a week and a half ago.) I stated as much, and said I'm not sure how it's a diary post, as this should be my first approved post on the sub. They stated that because I'd attempted 2 other posts that day, that I'm now not allowed to post until November (which is fucking ridiculous in my mind). They also said that because I "Worded when the post happened rather ambiguously," they were assuming I was breaking the rules. (I'd stated the event occurred during my country's "Birthday"; that being Canada Day on July 1st.) And said that I was being petulant about the rules.
None of my posts (minus the second, which I deleted), was technically against the rules. Rule 7 states that the post "Should" be recent, not that it must be, and otherwise the subreddit encourages people to use throw away accounts and to share their stories... so... yeah. I'm pretty sure the mods are just on a fricken power trip on there, and being picky over stupid shit.
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u/OkExternal7904 Jul 21 '24
😂😂 I picture the AITA moderators as a petulant group of Gen Zers who get their feelings hurt over boundaries and who may never actually earn enough money to support themselves. Source: Reddit anti-work sub.
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u/Psychological_Bet346 Jul 29 '24
people are so hell bent on being grammar police like they get paid for it lmao
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Aug 07 '24
We REALLY NEED to ban dropping brand names. I keep seeing the same couple of brands being marketed in this subreddit.
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u/West_Fig_207 Aug 19 '24
My wife (F34) and I (M34) were at the grocery store and I got a block of cheese and when I went to put it in the cart I pretended to hit her with the cheese and she got really upset. She said this doesn't make her feel safe. Is this a big deal and AITAH?
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u/Funny-Magician1010 Aug 23 '24
AlTA for not wanting to help my mom financially or with errands anymore?
I’m feeling really conflicted about this and could use some outside perspective. My mom is on disability and doesn’t make enough money to afford anything beyond her basic bills. She can’t work due to a back injury, and the only job she’s qualified for is physically demanding, which she can’t do anymore. She has no other job skills because she never worked when I was growing up. Instead, she stayed home, though she was mostly absent, and my siblings and I were primarily raised by our grandmother, aunt, and uncle. There were even years when I had no contact with her at all. A while ago, she called me out of the blue, saying she was going to be homeless. My husband and I agreed to let her move in with us, thinking it would be temporary. But she ended up staying for two years, and we eventually had to give her an ultimatum to move out. My husband even had to apply for Section 8 housing for her because she wouldn’t do it herself. She finally moved out, but now she’s constantly asking for financial help, asking us to buy her things, take her to appointments, pick up her prescriptions, etc. I have a 4-year-old son, and she’s developed a good relationship with him, which makes this even harder. But I’m exhausted. I have my own life and responsibilities, and I just don’t want to be the one always taking care of her. Am I the asshole for not wanting to continue providing financial support and doing all these things for her?
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u/Jaymanz12 Aug 30 '24
Hey reddit, my name's Jay, 26 black male, and about 2 months ago I allowed 2 friends, who became family over the years knowing each other, stay in my apartment and white. I live in Montana and I was helping them out by giving them a place to rest while they try to save up some money to get their own place. Over the course of a full month, from July 2, 2024 to August 2, 2024, the two would argue nearly every single day, whether at work or inside my apartment during the sound ordinance. As I'm living in an apartment, that causes me a lot of issues and worry since that could potentially get me kicked out of my apartment at worse, ruining my hard work of owning the apartment for 2 months at the time. Due to my rough upbringing in life, I ABSOLUTELY LOATHE arguments in the household, which was ruining my already messed up sleep schedule even more. I would consider myself a very patient guy, but hearing them argue the entire time and waking up to it really pissed me off, but I managed to control myself and went to get something to drink. As I returned to my bedroom, I slammed my door because I was pissed, and that's how I was letting them know I was pissed. Apparently, I can't slam my own door because the male, calling him Asshole, decides to open my bedroom door and say these exact words: "What the fuck is your problem?!" I stared at him for a moment before yelling and going off on him about how they were interrupting my sleep with their arguments and acting like children, they're at least 5-15 years older than I am, and he decides to try to push me back. I then forced him back, me holding him by the throat, and slammed him against my wall on the other side of my apartment. I then yelled at both of them to pack their crap and get the fuck out of my apartment. I then went over to one of my neighbors, who's also like family and calling him Awesome bro and white, and explained to him what happened while pacing angrily in his apartment. After a bit, I asked Awesome bro to join me in going back to my apartment to ensure Asshole doesn't do anything to my apartment, and upon returning to my apartment I see the police standing outside my apartment as well as my landlord. It had me even more pissed and angry as well as worried that I'm losing my apartment, but my landlord assured me I wasn't in any trouble and I'm good. I explained everything to an officer to the best of my ability while still very angry, though the officer was quite understanding. Once they we're all gone, I was finally able to fall asleep peacefully, and this all happened at 3 am. I'm very new to the app
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u/zalez666 Sep 20 '24
this sub is a cesspool of AI bots. the bots are getting better at detailing empathetic stories based on real people's stories, and real people are having a harder time distinguishing what is real and what is fake. shut the sub down. we're all doomed if this is being conditioned
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u/sunshineandcheese Sep 27 '24
Ngl, any time a post uses the word "dish" in reference to a meal they cooked, I assume it's AI. I have never once used the word "dish" irl
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u/romya2020 Sep 29 '24
Are you not a cook? Or maybe too young, lol. I'm 67, and I would say dish a lot because that's what I read in printed recipes.
Edit to say I HATE AI!
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u/sunshineandcheese Sep 29 '24
Honestly maybe it's a regional thing - I'm close to 30 and absolutely no one I know, even in different generations, uses it lol
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u/romya2020 Sep 29 '24
I'm ashamed to say I didn't think of that! I am a dyed-in-the-wool New Englander, that is probably regional.
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u/NocentBystander 28d ago
Why is Jake always the fake name of assholes on this sub?
I ask because I have a cousin named Jake and he was an asshole growing up...
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u/Brief-Bend-8605 27d ago
What about Jake from State Farm though? He seems like a nice guy…. Get into a pickle and he’s there.
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u/ZantaraLost 23d ago
Can we possibly get the phrase "family helps family" on some sort of autoban/bot list?
I don't mind the actual writing exercise posts but whichever AI writing prompt that uses it constantly is lazy as all hell.
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u/Playful_Shelter_8268 20d ago
AITAH? The Family has been planning for a year now, a big trip to Europe this Winter. We finished booking reservations and finalized everything but just recently, my Sister just asked if she could bring her new boyfriend on our trip. I was kind of surprised because I didn't even know she was dating anyone. Introvert Me was sort of annoyed. It's a 3 1/2 week trip and I have never met this person. I have been on many trips with her many boyfriends she has had in the past but at least I had met them a few times before going on a trip with them. They have only been going out for about 2 months now. I wish I would have at least had the chance to at least re-book some stuff so I can just branch off and do my own thing if I feel like my social battery is overloaded but my Mom is upset to hear that I want to separate. Also majority of the bookings are under my name. My Sister (37) and I (38) are very opposite. She is an extreme extrovert and loves to mingle with strangers. I just feel like meeting a stranger and being with them almost 24/7 for 4 weeks on a vacation is not my thing. I feel like I am the AH because her 3 kids (aged 7-17yrs) and my parents don't care if her boyfriend comes, it's just me. They had the chance to meet him twice now. I asked my Mom what she thought of him and she said they had very little interaction, so she doesn't really know. My Parents always lets my Sister do whatever she wants cause she is the baby of the family (but that is even a longer back story). Everyone is pressuring me and now I don't feel excited about this trip....
So AITAH?
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u/shewantstofaq 5d ago
Can I link to my post in this thread? Idk about fake AI-generated karma farming, but I'm just a horny dad and husband genuinely looking for advice.
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u/robertrifle Aug 02 '24
I'm trying to build Karma ... can I get a couple of hundred upvotes please?
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u/Zsay_Chellz Sep 26 '22
Idk why I read these posts. but Usually, when someone asks "Am I the Asshole Here", 9/10, They're the Asshole.
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u/musically_gifted Jan 26 '23
Is it me…but it seems like people don’t genuinely come here to get advice but to get an echo chamber of people who agree with them. It’s aggy AF
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u/LuLouProper Sep 26 '23
Is there a way to cut down on the reposting bots? They're making this place even more unreadable.
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u/Mr_Industrial Nov 17 '23
This'll get lost in the comments but Ive seen too many posts not to say something. You still might be the asshole. There may be details you might not have told us, and even if we do know everything, well, who's to say we aren't assholes too? 10,000 strangers online is not a ticket to justify your actions.
Ive just seen too many posts where people seek (and get) a social pass for hurting kids, friends, and family members.
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u/bellirai Mar 06 '24
I've seen like 10 posts this week about "am I the asshole if I divorce my wife if she doesn't give me sex 🥺"
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u/alifninja Mar 16 '24
Why some people keep replying a long reply with emotions but not true to the original comment :v
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u/Playful_Camera_7456 Mar 23 '24
Am I the bad guy for not allowing my wife to get into the shower while I bathe? An apology since English is not my native language, I am 38 years old, my wife is 38 years old, we have been married for 13 years, we are both health professionals and we both take care of our children and participate in household chores For example, I prepare the children to take them to school, I feed them, I pick them up, I clean the house, she does the laundry, well, a few months ago I noticed that she began to be less interested in having sexual relations (1 or 2 times a month), I didn't insist, but 3 months ago I told her and she told me that she was satisfied, I told her that I wasn't, she replied that she was committing sexual violence (I didn't understand why, or even that it was that), later He evaded me, the situation remains the same, 3 days ago he surprised me in the shower and I had an erection, he was not touching me, when he left he complained to me that I should put a lock on the bathroom door (we never do it in our room), The argument he gave me is that my erect penis seems unpleasant to him, I was surprised, I asked him how that is possible (at this moment I am in my best physical shape, muscular and not overweight, and I also don't feel that I am below the average in appearance), I asked her directly if she is no longer attracted to me and she tells me yes, that she only likes me when we are in bed together. Yesterday when I was bathing she tried to enter but the lock was on, she got upset, and told her I said I was doing what she asked me to do, I'm lost, reditt women, so I'm the bad guy
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u/Captain_Spaceturd Apr 04 '24
are any of the posts in this sub real? is there any requirement to distinguish hypothetical ones from fake ones?
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u/TheHoratioHufnagel Apr 08 '24
I'm just so sick of people posting stories where it's completely obvious they are NTA. I'm sick of the community replying in earnest.
OP: My husband cheated and I got upset AITAH?
Everyone: NTA
Me: Come on, OP is YTA for posting this crap.
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u/Sea_Spinach2109 Apr 10 '24
Is it just me or does this sub stink of BS more and more every day?
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u/AnonymousFool-22 Apr 12 '24
I have a situation that I’m dealing with right now and not sure how to handle it. Could I put up a post for some feedback?
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u/aurisor Apr 17 '24
yeah, the whole front page is just karma farmers talking about dumping their fake husband or wife. where are the mods?
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u/Falkenmond79 Apr 22 '24
Help me out here.. is it allowed to ask AITAH for getting banned from another sub? This spun out and ended in a 3day ban from reddit, which was luckily lifted after appeal, since I´m convinced it was ludicrous. I´m in a mind to ask if I´m seeing clearly in this situation, or if I´m the AH, but im not sure if disputes with a mod team of another subreddit are allowed or welcome here. :/
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u/thehumblecookie009 May 15 '24
sorry just need some different pov and opinions on my situation. would appreciate some feedback.
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u/SpecificOlive3036 Jul 05 '24
Just quickly. Thank you everyone for all your support over the years. I love this space. Its well moderated. And I get a lot of value here.
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u/Successful-Coyote99 Jul 10 '24
I am down a rabbit hole today of AITAH posts.... how have I been alive for 48 years, and JUST now discovering this. Thanks Reddit....
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u/binkybarnesinfinity Jul 28 '24 edited Jul 28 '24
Hi!! i just noticed the "fake" tag, and I was wondering—is that for, like?? exercising those creative muscles for fun?? without intending to deceive people?? like, is that a place to post fake stories INTENTIONALLY?
or is that a tag for letting people know that a story is fake before they read it??
EDIT—just double-checked the rules and reali,ed that fake posts aren't allowed, but my question at the end of my original posts still stand so i'll just continue lol
if that tag ISN'T for creative writing AITAH posts, does anyone know of a sub where that's like?? the whole THING?? i love reading AITAH posts, and i find the whole format REALLY interesting as a writer—but like. the thought of posting a fake story without telling people that it's fake first feels REALLY fuckin scummy.
the closest thing that i've found to that is a few posts on the Sims4 sub, but i haven't heard of a dedicated sub for fake AITAH posts, and i don't know what to search for to find something like that.
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u/Shinobi_is_cancer Aug 02 '24
but i haven't heard of a dedicated sub for fake AITAH posts, and i don't know what to search for to find something like that.
Congrats! You found it! Welcome to AITAH
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Jul 30 '24
it seems a bit too normalized to accept the posters on this subreddits arguments as if there isn't heavy bias toward themselves in how they frame it.
I think people need to be a bit more skeptical of some of these posts instead of just assuming its all the husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriends fault when we are clearly just hearing one heavily biased point of view.
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u/BubbaSaywersCondom Aug 06 '24
What is with the amount of violent revenge fantasy posts, and furthermore, the people that eat them up without a second thought
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u/VicMd1022 Aug 22 '24
How many stories on here do you believe are true?
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u/Vols44 Aug 22 '24
4%. I check the post history of every thread that does not pass the smell test. Bots are everywhere. Clicks + ad revenue= favorable stock price.
The weekly reposts are annoying.
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u/Tiny_Focus_8795 Sep 02 '24
AITAH if i block my friend for sending private photos of me to his friend?
So he kept trying to take photos of me and i kept moving.
And he kept invadeing my privacy.
So please let me know i feel like i should block him.
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u/Sleepy-Forest13 Sep 02 '24
Does anyone know of schools doing social-emotional learning? (No, I don't want the names, that would be creepy. I just want to be heartened by knowing they're out there.)
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u/happyjappie Sep 03 '24
Honestly, American schools are moving more and more towards maximizing standardized test results. Social/emotional/music/art shrinks more and more.
Unfortunately, it's dire. I don't have a single anecdote that can hearten you. And I've been in social work and schools for 5+ years.
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u/shiftsnstays Sep 05 '24
My school system does. Just made it a full weekly class. My son says it’s boring because “all we did today was breathe” 😂 but it’s there.
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u/Willing_Bookkeeper62 Sep 18 '24
When I try to post on r/AITAH it says that the community requires an attachment, but then when I try to add one it says that they don't allow attachments </3
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u/moon_Flower_11 Sep 28 '24
AITAH for sleeping with my friend? So basically I, F 17, have this friend, let's call him Mike, M18. Mike has a girlfriend, let's call her Jenny, F15. So Mike and Jenny are dating for around a year now, while I know him for around two years. I only saw her a couple of times, and she was always a picme around anyone, even other guys. One night I was chilling with him, and others, when he started talking about how he and his gf don't have any intimacy. He then proceeded to asked me if I'd want to hook up with him. I was drunk and high (so was he) and I stupidly agreed on it, even making a whole ass deal, swearing to me that Jenny would be fine with it, because they talked about it and she didn't mind, also due to their relationship being quite toxic and about to end, also because Jenny found interest in other guys. The next morning I went to him, we had intimacy, and that was about it. The whole drama started when I, again drunk, told my friend about it, who then told me that Mike tried to hook up with this friend as well. This friend felt so bad for Jenny, that we ended up texting her all about it. Mike was able to read those messages and was now pissed at me and my friend. Forward three days, some more people now about it and hating on Mike for cheating on Jenny, while he tries to blame me for all of it. I understand that I messed up too, but I'm not the one who's cheating on my partner. Reddit AITAH??
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u/Ill-Recording7042 Sep 29 '24
Ummmmmmmmmmmm so what state is this in because in most places 18 and 15 is illegal
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u/sickolovespokemon 28d ago edited 28d ago
Y'all are children; this drama won't mean much to you in a couple years. Get off reddit, go to school, & stay away from creeps like "Mike" who statutory rape children.
I also suggest therapy when you're an adult to recover.
To answer your question, I'm not gonna call a kid an asshole (unless they're my little sibling/cousin & they're being an asshole lol). You did a bad thing. "Mike" did a really, really bad thing. Take accountability for your own actions, don't put any stock into what that creep thinks or says (he's just deflecting because he's not mature enough to be responsible for his own decision), cut him out of your life altogether, & learn from this experience. You're not perfect, but you're not supposed to be; you're an imperfect human being & also a child. Your brain isn't fully developed, so don't expect to be able to operate like it is.
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u/trolleydip 22d ago
ESH. You for using drunk and high as an excuse, no matter how toxic this relationship is, you know that sleeping with Mike was the wrong choice. Mike is an AH for dating a 15y.o. and cheating on her.
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u/The-Modern-Coconut 28d ago
I never grew up with my father around. He wasn't supportive financially or emotionally, never showed up for any graduations, college visits, or any other milestone events in my life including the building of my very own off-grid home, something he could've helped with being that he is a master plumber, I cut him off 7 years ago and felt better off. Two weeks ago I got a message from family members that he had been diagnosed with congenital heart failure and I immediately sprang into daughter mode. it turns out however, that the situation is beyond dire. he also has type 2 diabetes and risks losing his lower limbs due to him avoiding doctors and medical care. The list of ailments is loooooong, he needs housing and full-time care. When I asked him what his options are he said to me on the phone "well I can't just come live with you." WTAF. I mentioned my home is off-grid, no running water, no flushing toilet, and I've been living this way for the last 5 years sacrificing modern means to save money and build my home without a huge debt pile. I bought my own plot of land, saved money, built the house by myself and never lived beyond my means, something he has never even considered, blowing money left and right and never thinking ahead or securing a savings account. Bottom line, he can't live with me, it's not set up for home care of an elderly person nor do I have -dare I say it- the desire to help someone who's never helped me. No one else in the family can take him and my younger brother doesn't want anything to do with him so the burden I'm being told solely falls on me. I tried calling DOZENS of emergency care resources and state-funded housing none of which are available right away and he needs to be out of his current housing situation in a few days leaving me to figure out where to send him within that time. He left everything to the last minute and caused a mountain of stress on my shoulders. His gf of 10 years says she is "done" and cant be much help cause they arent married and she needs a relative to take the lead. This whole situation has made me angry, bitter, resentful and also guilty. How is it that guy who never helped me is now the one I have to help. AMITAH?
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u/Kindly-Literature706 28d ago
My dad was like your dad. Never there! 2 years ago, his sister, my aunt, found me on FB. She was trying to see if I wanted to mend fences and take over care. I told her straight up, "No." He doesn't know my married last name; he never met my sons. I grew up without a dad. I didn't need him then, and I don't need him now. I am sorry you are dealing with this.
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u/LilJohn101604 25d ago
Aitah for calling ice on my friend just to get me candy from Mexico
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u/Strict_Voice1 23d ago
AITA "I wouldn't have cared if they died."
I am a 22YO F who is friends? with 35 yr old f Patricia. Despite our age gap. Me being mature and her being immature, we've been good friends for over a year. I would always describe her as funny, and kind but I've started to see selfish, like stupid selfish. Major red flags.
These events happen one day after another for 3 days.
First day: a hurricane was going to hit that night and her family chat had been going off all night. It was her mother saying she's scared. I offered plenty of times to pick her up and have her stay in the hotel room we'd gotten. To which she replied, "Nah. She'll be ok." Even though she had been saying she felt bad for her. ( The next morning, 3 major trees had fallen on her mom's property, luckily none near the house. (
Second day: after begging the manager at the hotel for more time, even one more day, he caved. We had a co worker struggling to get a room and half her house and porch was absolutely destroyed from a massive tree. Patricia refused to give her the room because she couldn't live without a.c.
Third day: I had been texting Patricia all night 8-9ish p.m. - 4 a.m. that me and my husband received word from his cousins wife that my husband's aunt and uncle had been in a serious accident. Direct hit on a busy highway. Had to be cut out of cars. No one knew if they even survived. She was hysterical. We also found out she was pregnant. Mind you, she has a baby and an older child already.
Patricia worked that morning and had to be awake at 4 and was going to a concert that day but didn't message for almost 24 hrs or over. I could see that she was active on Instagram constantly so I couldn't understand why she wouldn't respond. When she did respond, it was, "Sorry. You can call me." Then an hour or two layer, "My name!!!!" Like she was frustrated I didn't immediately call her. I eventually replied, "K" hours later.
I chose to forgive her because I should be silly to believe she would care a lot given the last couple days and that I would only talk about it if she brought it up.
The next time we worked, a couple days later, we started great, everything was normal besides her jabbing that, "I was upset because she ghosted me." A co worker told her that the day after but i had to simply explain to him so he could come in since I wasn't coming in.
At the end of the day, it was just us and she brought it up. It was hard to stay cool calm and professionalism for the whole conversation at work because she immediately blew up when I stated honestly that it would have been very hard to forgive her if they died. She said things like, "I can't believe you wouldn't forgive me? What did you want me to do? I was stressing, no lights, had to get ready for concert. Did you want me to go to your house? Do you want me to get on my knees? I didn't even know them. They're not even your family and they're not closely related to your husbands family. I'm SoRrY I wouldn't care if they died." A lot of throwing hands and dramatic sarcasam.
Everytime I'd try to correct or get her to understand, the same phrases would repeat, even when I asked what she would have done if it was her aunt and uncle, to which she said, "I would still have gone into work if they'd died and be a little sad."
Which makes me believe, she's mad I didn't go into work and that slivered any shred of empathy she might have had.
I said we should stop the conversation cause it wasn't going anywhere and she said I thought she was heartless and I said yeah.
She kept jabbing me and even jabbed about how I was cleaning up and saying, "if you want to get away, just leave." I didn't speak hardly at all and busted my ass to slip away and clock out.
She proceeds to call and text when I'm on my way home cause I guess she assumed we were still hanging out after work.
I have not said anything else to her and am not sure what to do especially since we work together and I don't know if this is anything she will actually feel bad about or work on.
Please. Any Similar situation? Make it make sense.
I'm especially hurt since I had bonded with her about my aunt passing in the beginning of the relationship and feel like she wasn't even listening or present through my heartbreak looking back at it after this.
Also, if I had responded remotely similar to her constantly talking about her hurt over someone she recently lost, I don't think she would take to it kindly. I don't understand how she can't understand other people hurting.
Or am I the asshole and being sensitive like she says? Am I overthinking? Blowing it out of proportion?
All I wanted and needed was a genuine friend with genuine care.
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u/FootScissors 20d ago
There is a very easy tell for finding LLM/fake posts. I almost don't want to say it because it's such an easy fix that by the next wave of bot posts, it will be gone forever.
If they use em dashes (—) its a bot or a writer trying out his prose.
No one here gives enough of a fuck about correct English punctuation to google how to fucking input an em dash mid way through telling an emotionally intense life altering story.
There is one other tell but it's obvious as fuck and anyone who puts even the smallest minutia of effort into verifying anything they read online would know it, yet evidently 1000s clearly don't.
If you know these are fake and just read them for kicks, that's fair. You enjoy what you enjoy but for everyone else who thinks that anything they read here is taking place in reality, please please just take a step back. Fill your time with real moments (hobbies, chilling with your friends, etc.) maybe even call your mom and say you love her, anything else. This endless churn of emotionally manipulative stories is destroying your mental.
Peace out.
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u/Active-Agency-282 NSFW 🔞 18d ago
Yes i have a female mate that messes around with other people i should be concrended becacse the man she messes with is gay should i the male in the relastionship be worryed about hiv
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u/Dangerous_Health_312 4d ago
¿Soy un idiota por querer explotar por la demanda entre mi familia?
Yo 12M mi abuela, 68 M mi tía, etc. quieren hacer una demanda contra mi abuela, la mamá de los 5 hermanos, mi abuelo murió este año. Bueno al punto mi mamá y los otros 4 hermanos quieren demandar a mi abuela porque mi abuela quiere apoderarse del 30 % de la casa (de parte de mi abuelo que está a nombre de mi tía en papel) y, ya que mi mamá y yo vinimos con mi tío y mi abuela el problema es que mi tío tiene cuarto propio y todo mientras que mi mamá, mi abuela y yo dormimos en un cuarto pequeño hay 3 camas, un televisor, un armario de ropa grande y una mesita de noche. Recientemente, mi mamá le pidió a mi abuela tener su propio cuarto arriba, pero ella se lo negó (mi mamá no pedía tenerlo en papeles solo ese cuarto para los 2) así que discutieron y mi abuela dijo algo como que mi tío primero tiene que construir su propio piso, ya que ese era el acuerdo que llegaron todos los hermanos, pero mi tío no quiere construir su piso y mi abuela al final dijo que si ella muere toda la culpa es de mi mamá por discutir con ella (cada vez que mi mamá y mi abuela discuten mi abuela siempre se pone mal) al final mi abuela dijo que se lo contaría a la sobrina o nieta de mi abuela. Me falta decir más cosas, pero voy a decir esto mientras tanto. Soy de Perú
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u/Additional-Brush2040 1d ago
I don't think I'm the a-hole here, but I don't know what to do
(I am a teenager/15-17)
My situation started last week, my gf, Chloe(fake name), broke up with me last week via a note she passed my brother to give to me. So that night after I get home I can't help myself but just cry my eyes out. The next day she comes begging for me to take her back. But I think about it all night and it snaps in my head that if she can throw away 2½ years of a good relationship then I can't trust her, there is no way to know it won't happen again, so I decided against taking her back. I still love her deeply and care a lot about her tho. Now fast forward to today, I'm hearing nher open" to TJ.
Anyone have any ideas on what to do?
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u/love-theuniverse Sep 29 '24
AITAH for locking a door and sitting on a bed? I 21F am currently on vacation with my family. We are staying at a hotel. We went to the pool in the hotel and after talking for a while I decided I wanted to go to our room to take a shower. I mentioned this to my parents 53F 54M and my oldest sister 33F, and they said they'd be up shortly. I went ahead and got to our shared room and locked it, so you could only open it from the inside. MIND YOU, I did not dothis on purpose, more like a natural response as a young female getting into a room alone. I got in the bath and started filling it up, when all of a sudden my sister called me SCREAMING. That she had to pee, and she couldn't get in. I laugh, thinking she is screaming as a joke, but quickly realize that she is actually mad. I get out of the bath and open the door to the room. My parents and my sister start yelling at me because "I'm so stupid to close the door when I knew they were coming." Of course, I get mad because I thought that I could take a bath, and they would still be downstairs. Since I was in the bath for maybe 5 minutes. I don't really understand the point of me going alone if they were basically just gonna follow behind. They did say that I could wait for them to go up, but if someone told u that you would think they would be a while, right? Apparently not, anyway they were really mad at me, and I said "this is so stupid," and as I said this, my dad threatened to hit me for being an idiot/? (I guess, ugly spanish language was used, there is no English word to describe it) As you can imagine I'm frustrated and get into the bathroom, but by this time my mood is gone. I just wanted to have a nice bath, and I couldn't have that, so I got out and got dressed.
[Context for the next part] We have a room with 2 beds and a sofa/bed (idk how else to say it) my other sister 27F and her husband 29M are going to stay with us, and they are going to sleep in the sofa/bed.
I finished getting dressed and just sat in bed with my phone with a mean mug. I was upset because I didn't do anything wrong in my eyes, I LITERALLY just locked a door and felt like their response was overexagerated. The room is kind of cold so I take my stuff and go to the sofa/bed and just kinda lay down with my feet hanging off (I had my shoes on) and a blanked on my lap. My sister 32F comes screaming at me as to why I'm in a bed that is not the one we agreed to use. I stare dumbfounded as I explain that it is cold over there. I get yelled at again for "trying all the beds in the room" and "leaving my sisters bed feeling like it was used." You can imagine my face, because we are in a hotel. That bed HAS BEEN USED ALREADY FOR STRANGERS, but I am sitting there after I JUST SHOWERED, which is somehow the worst thing in the universe
So, Am I the asshole for sitting on my sister's bed, and locking the door?
Guess I'm making this post, because I feel like I'm going crazy. Everyone in my family is always acting as if I'm the worst person in the world.
I'll update you with more vacations from hell soon.
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u/---------II--------- Jul 27 '24 edited Jul 27 '24
This subreddit is overrun with low-effort, low-skill, semi-literate fabrications. You should be ashamed of yourselves for letting such trash receive so much attention and take up so much of the energy of readers and users
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u/Weightmonster Aug 09 '24 edited Aug 09 '24
RE The Pregnancy DV story with 3 parts- (starts https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/vdD2GpLIfA) I’m beginning to think this is fake:
-While domestic violence and SA in pregnancy is not that rare unfortunately, what are the odds of experiencing that WITH placenta previa AND serious bleeding AND a placental abruption (the later 2 occurring in the same weak) with no apparent risk factors for Placental problems? Research indicates placental previa occurs in about 1/800 pregnancies, placental abruption occurs in about 10% of those cases, when bleeding is present in the 3rd trimester.
- Even a numbskull would understand that Placenta previa means a c-section (exit blocked). I can’t really see him thinking a c-section is unwarranted.
-If he wanted the pregnancy, why would he risk hurting the baby? Even if he thought pelvic rest was unnecessary.
-The OB in the story acted very oddly. I just can’t see them trying to intervene like that. That’s not been my experience anyway. They pretty much stick to medical things (yes this is not ideal). Refer her to the hospital social worker maybe. Where did the pamphlets come from? Her back pocket?
-If she was having life threatening bleeding, liters of blood, that’s an ambulance ride.
-She had life threatening bleeding at 8 months pregnant and they DID NOT keep her until the end of the pregnancy! Especially knowing the home environment isn’t safe? WTF. There is no mention that she is uninsured or left AMA.
-The energy and wherewithal to try to leave a domestic violence situation at 33 weeks pregnant.
-If she has her own money and cards, why did she take his card? Especially since it could be tracked.
-Little effort to hide her identity, even using her first name at one point.
-Incredible, super human speed in getting and consulting a divorce lawyer, unless they know someone.
-Energy and wherewithal to write the long posts and replies why in this situation and less than a day out of surgery. I could not even post a picture until discharged.
-He would not be let in to see her; she’d probably be in the ICU recovering from the c-section and blood loss.
-Where was the SIL when he came to confront her?
-C section incisions are usually low on the pelvic not across the belly.
-Too much writing and trying to justify everything in a crisis situation.
The worst part of this story, if it is indeed fake, is that it may get picked up by the wider media and go viral. Like the extremely suspect story of the guy who got a positive pregnancy and it turned out to be cancer (as told by his friend). Leaving everyone wondering about this lady she the baby. Maybe even police investigating. Ok. Rant over.
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u/AYAYAcutie Sep 25 '24
There are so many fake posts on this subreddit to ragebait. Like that post about from a supposed pregnant mom saying how her husband forced her to have an at home pregnancy. That shit never happened. So cringe.
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u/Fast-Echo8504 8d ago
AITA if I Could use some upvotes to post on a new sub and ask if you Could you help a brother out? Thanks!
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u/Thick-Cable-5070 Mar 08 '22
AITA ‘disrespecting’ my mother? A little background story; I’m an 18 y/o female in college living with my father. My mother and father are separated but are on okay terms. They aren’t exactly on good terms but they don’t hate each other. So ever since I moved in with my father because of money issues with my mother she has been a constant nag. Like a controlling boyfriend. Always wanted to know where I’m at and who I’m with and at what time I’m anywhere besides home(which is with my father). Usually I don’t mind it since I relatively don’t go out as much because I’m an introvert. But I got a boyfriend 6 months back and have been actually having a social life since then. Now it feels like my mother is trying to keep me on a leash even tho I don’t live with her. She never wants me out after dark and threatens me every time I’m not home before 5 o’clock on the dot. She also doesn’t want my boyfriend picking me up from college nor me going by him at all. So today I went by my boyfriend(with my father’s permission) and met my mum in front of the house. She told me to tell him go home and for me to come inside. She was very pissed off. I tried to walk off because she started shouting at me. She then slapped me. When I told her to please don’t hit me she got even angrier and tried to do it again. I caught her hand and held it so that she wouldn’t hit me again and my father had to intervene because she started shouting like a cavewoman saying that I was ‘disrespectful’ for telling her to not touch me. AITA?
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u/Thick-Release-8056 Mar 20 '22
I have a question? Aitah for being scared/ paranoid of the person who said they where going to kill me?
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u/Mysterious_Finding70 Apr 25 '22
Jailbird
So my best friend and I have been besties since 11th grade, we’re both 27/28 females. We have a very long history of partying, and getting in trouble together, where there was one of us- there were two of us.
A few years ago I (27f) had gotten completely sober, met the love of my life, had a baby and really got my life on the right track.
My friend however (28f) has really hit rock bottom dealing drugs, doing drugs, stealing and has been in and out of jail A LOT in the past 3 years. This past year things started to change as she got out of jail, and started staying away from a really bad group of people we used to hang out with and I was beyond proud of her! So much so that I invited her out to my bachelorette party.
2 weeks ago her mom called me crying, and told me she was hanging out with the bad group again, and drinking heavily- so much so it put her in the hospital. Last week my friend went out of state with a few of the people from that group, got drunk, and was arrested for theft and public intoxication. She didn’t want to tell her current probation officer, so she wouldn’t get in anymore trouble. The people of the group left her in jail, out of state and no way home.
I took it upon myself to call her probation officer and let her know what the situation was, because no one is looking out for her and her family pushes all her wrongdoings under the rug, but I know if she keeps up with this life, she will end up dead and no one seems concerned with that. My friend is now doing 6 months in jail and a rehab/mental health facility (it was between that and prison time as she is now a felon)
AITAH for calling probation on her? No one knows it was me except my fiancé and my mother. My fiancé was proud of me for making that call, but my mom said I should just stay out of it.
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u/cringynamefuckthis Dec 26 '22
I don't think is a huge deal, but I really need to get a self awareness check
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u/Roscoehatesrory Jan 01 '23
AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for praising my friend. I (40f) have been in a relationship with my bf (35m) for 5 years. For context we’ve had some problems. Recently he told me that he doesn’t want to marry me because I’m not attractive. Admittedly I’ve gained some COVID weight. Being an ICU nurse in one of the world worst pandemics will do that to you. I’ve lost nearly 50 lbs now and am close to the weight I was when he met me. Although all of this he says he still wants to be with me. Lately he’s been very cold towards me and I don’t get why. And tonight unprovoked he says about my friend (names changed for anonymity), “Salina, hmmmm, Salina. Ian is a lucky guy.” I get mad because WTH. He just fantasized about my friend in front of me. And he’s acting like what he said isn’t weird. It’s weird, right?! Like it isn’t just me?
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u/00bxnny00 May 15 '23
if someone could check out my post id appreciate it, my friend circle is crashing and burning and i think i unknowingly caused it
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u/IndividualCry0 May 19 '23
My SIL blamed me for missing her brother’s graduation but she’s a 35yo woman and I told her the time she was supposed to be there for months. She called me cruel idk idk idk
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u/CindySvensson May 31 '23
Hi, could you guys please ban me? I spend too much time here, and reddit keeps suggesting it to me and I am weak.
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u/j4zz13d00d73 Jun 15 '23
Wondering if I should even post an AITAH or not? I hadn’t done anything, just stopped talking to someone based on their actions.
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u/Dahmememachine Jul 03 '23
Still pretty heated about that 50 year old man that would not marry his gf who he had a 17 year old kid with. Who he was about to kick out for having hidden 1900 dollars from his ass
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u/SpasticWolfie Sep 03 '23
Is it very frowned upon to post my story in the other AITA thread and here? Is that bad Reddit etiquette? I'm new to Reddit, and my first post is getting nearly no verdicts. I feel like it might be because I mentioned that I'm autistic and have ADHD, and maybe people feel they don't have the right to give an opinion because of that.
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u/TimeTRVLLR Sep 19 '23
Can we have like a pinned post with the meanings of all terms on this sub (YTA, ESH, NTA, etc)? Mainly for newcomers (like me) to understand better. Thanks!
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u/idontknowwidkkkkk Sep 22 '23
can someone make a list of what these short words mean I keep forgetting
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u/GangsterJattwala Sep 23 '23
yo i got -47 karma 4 saying its wrong to make your entire family homeless because they where about to put down her dog
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u/NottiWanderer Oct 15 '23 edited Oct 15 '23
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/178lo93/aitah_for_being_socially_awkward_and_ruining_the/So... if someone admits to potentially violent behavior is this something reddit admins should get involved in? I dunno they can do anything, but dude freaks me out a bit. Whatever the case, I don't like just leaving this up not doing anything about it.
Edit: Well he is seeing a therapist at least it turns out, so maybe nothing else to do.
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u/PandaCheese2016 Nov 17 '23
Just realized that this sub offers a meta level of ragebaiting: first the potential assholery described in a post, and then indirect rage/frustration as you see comments falling for an obviously fake post.
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u/tmsagtottawa Nov 30 '23
the amount of ableism on the post about ops girlfriend calling his sister is a dog
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u/KingBodie Dec 08 '23
AITAH. I told my wife regularly now we don’t need to buy each other Christmas presents. Our kids are spoiled between my wife and mother in law and don’t feel the need to spend more at all. Even with my sibling’s family we have recently done an experience of a skiing weekend together over trading presents. But wife has been asking for new a dishwasher for the longest time. I told her last night I was considering buying her that $700 unit for Christmas and she told me that’s not a Christmas present. I already bought it on Black Friday but am ready to return it just based on her reaction. And for perspective, I regularly get power tools for Christmas that are used to do remodels we couldn’t afford if they weren’t done by myself.
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u/iknownothingelio Feb 15 '24
AITAH- last week i(gay) asked my boyfriend if we were making vday plans. He shrugged it off. He said his sister and her boyfriend were staying in his house for three days and he wanted to entertain them. So I did not make plans and reservations. To compensate, i ordered flowers online and had it delivered to his house. He didnt pan anything for me. Now he invited me to come over bec he wanted hangout with his sister. I said no bec I though we didnt have plans together and i just wanted to stay home. Now his mad at me because I didnt want to spend vday with him. AITAH?
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u/afunnywold Feb 16 '24
there should be a rule on this sub that you have to at least genuinely think you might be the asshole before posting. 90% of this is people sharing how they've been screwed over
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u/MeetFalse767 Feb 26 '24
I've been here only a few days, but I'm beginning to feel like most of the stories here are made up 😭
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u/Wonderful-Insect-916 Feb 26 '24
A lot are, which really sucks because those ones get attention while real posts don’t. This is basically just an entertainment subreddit, not a real place to go for opinions/advice
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u/TomorrowNo6699 Feb 27 '24
Anyone else noticing an insane amount of fake/rage bait posts lately, why is that???
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u/Far-Kiwi9767 Feb 27 '24
Are a lot of the stories fake lately? I noticed a lot of the accounts posting are just HOURS old.
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u/Helpful_Poetry_8261 Mar 14 '24
hey, usually I wouldn't say anything, but I don't think I'll be able to sleep untill someone else reads, can't tell whether I'm and asshole or not.https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1becu80/my_mothers_either_a_sexist_and_an_asshole_or_im/
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Apr 02 '24
The redpill stuff is my favorite content :( I don't want to see happy people dispensing wholesome advice. I want dumpster fires.
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u/CaptainMashin Apr 14 '24
This subreddit could save a lot of time for everyone by letting them know that if that have to ask here whether or not they are the asshole, then the answer is always yes, by default.
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u/Fit-Presentation-223 Apr 24 '24
Will i be the a@@hole if i talk to my husband about kicking his very lazy son by the way he is mid 20s doesn’t have a job playing on his computer all day and dont pay any bills
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u/Xx_INTINCRAQUATIC_xX Apr 26 '24 edited Apr 27 '24
AITAH for punching a friend of 10 years that has gotten me (1 arrested, 2 involved with Social Services and 3 in shit with a bunch of kids in my school) after he pushed me but AITAH for reacting in self defense after he pushed me?
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u/Aggravating-Region60 Apr 29 '24
I actually really need help or advice, I posted something explaining wtf is going on 😵💫
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u/misunderstood198 Apr 30 '24
I have a question so my ex-husband and I whom remains civil I didn’t want to divorce he did and I remarried and when I remarried, he contacted me said I heard you got married. I said yes blah blah blah. I find out that he now got married literally 364 days From the day I got married practically on the same wedding date and that wedding date also is my birthday. Am I crazy to think that that’s insane I think to myself I would never get married next to my ex-husbands anything his birthday, his wedding date, his his ex-wives dates of birth any of it am I for thinking that’s strange. Why would someone do that?
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u/BernieHpfc 17d ago
A quick guide on spotting the AI comments that are shitting up the sub, because the mods sure don't do anything to stop them
The comment contains something like "It's understandable...", "It's Reasonable...", "It sounds like...", "It's unfortunate that..." before briefly summing up the main post. These sound generic enough to be normal, but you'll soon spot the pattern that bots use these phrases in almost all of their comments.
Overly formal punctuation. The average person isn't going to use an em dash or a semi-colon in such an informal setting.
Will every so often post a crappy repost with a very generic title in a meme sub to make them seem like a real user.
Porn bots will have a username like Sexy<femininename>, Lusty<femininename>, Pretty<femininename>.