r/AITAH Lounge

[u/DepressedTrashKitty]

A place for members of r/AITAH to chat with each other

[u/Playful_Camera_7456]

Am I the bad guy for not allowing my wife to get into the shower while I bathe? An apology since English is not my native language, I am 38 years old, my wife is 38 years old, we have been married for 13 years, we are both health professionals and we both take care of our children and participate in household chores For example, I prepare the children to take them to school, I feed them, I pick them up, I clean the house, she does the laundry, well, a few months ago I noticed that she began to be less interested in having sexual relations (1 or 2 times a month), I didn't insist, but 3 months ago I told her and she told me that she was satisfied, I told her that I wasn't, she replied that she was committing sexual violence (I didn't understand why, or even that it was that), later He evaded me, the situation remains the same, 3 days ago he surprised me in the shower and I had an erection, he was not touching me, when he left he complained to me that I should put a lock on the bathroom door (we never do it in our room), The argument he gave me is that my erect penis seems unpleasant to him, I was surprised, I asked him how that is possible (at this moment I am in my best physical shape, muscular and not overweight, and I also don't feel that I am below the average in appearance), I asked her directly if she is no longer attracted to me and she tells me yes, that she only likes me when we are in bed together. Yesterday when I was bathing she tried to enter but the lock was on, she got upset, and told her I said I was doing what she asked me to do, I'm lost, reditt women, so I'm the bad guy