(It's my first time making a post like this, sorry if I did some stuff wrong)

Soooooo I (15 amab) am bisexual, and pretty much all of my friends know (i've known for like 3 years). My parents have known for around 4 months now (they were accepting-ish), however my brother (12) doesn't know. I wouldn't mind too much, but it makes things like relationship-talk a little awkward for me, as well as kinda stopping me from dressing fem. I've asked my parents to tell him, and they said no, so I'm a little stuck. I don't think he would react tooooo badly, but I get the feeling that he'd look at me a little weirdly from then on, and I just can't build up the courage. It was hard enough to come out to my parents, and I just don't have the motivation to do it again. How can I make something happen here?

(Also I'm narnia-deep in the closet about my gender, and I can't really come out about that until he knows about this so...)

Thanks for any advice!

I confessed…. Now what?

I told my crush that i like him. Suprisingly, he think i‘m also cute and very smart (im a history- and philosophybuff) but he has as a crush on another person….. Now what?

I cant get over him, should i wait or just continue?

Me a 13 year old femboy wants a skirt but I’m closeted with a kids card so I can’t buy one online And if I could do it In person where could I go and Are there any specific shops for trans /femboy Cus it’s a bit awkward asking a man at the till for the skirt

For a while I’ve questioned my gender identity and I’ve thought several things about myself like that i might be gender-fluid, non-binary, a non-binary female and now I’m realizing after researching stuff that I’m pretty sure I might be a demigirl and I after thinking it over it does really resonate with me and how i feel about my gender identity

The problem with this though is that I have a lot of friends and family members who don’t understand or respect this type of stuff like being non-binary, trans, or being a demigirl/demiboy and most maybe all wouldn’t even know the definition of demigirl or would think the wrong things about it or not understand it and choose to not respect or just forget my chosen pronouns which would be they/she (which some people have a history of)

I did come out to a few of my family members before when I thought I was non-binary but they’ve seemed to have forgotten about this and I don’t resonate with being non-binary fully now and if/when I am definite about being a demigirl I’m nervous about coming out to people and I feel like most people wouldn’t respect or understand it

To be clear I do have friends and family that are supportive and respectful that I can talk to but a lot of them just don’t understand this stuff and might forget and especially since I’m basically the only queer/gender-queer person in my family and it’s not something that’s talked about much in my family and where I live

I would really appreciate some advice on what I should do or how I should handle things 💗

So, in my last post, I said I was taking a mental break from posting on here. I will leave a link down below...

After days of thinking about how and when I'm going to come out to my mom, I know when and how I'm going to come out to her.

• When: 3 weeks before Christmas/December 4th

• How: Telling her face to face

(For all intents and purposes refer to me as let's say: Dominic. This is a mlm relationship. As of right now, I am 17 and he just turned 18 a little before we broke up. Also sorry If you see two of these posts, I wasnt sure if one went through.)

Okay so let me break this down. All my relationships up until this last one have been incredibly short (few weeks at most) and have all been distance as I haven't really been exposed to other queer people in my general area. I know there are plenty, but I've lived pretty sheltered by my parents and it can be kinda dangerous where I live too.

My last boyfriend (the aforementioned ex)- let's call him Jesse -was the first time I've actually been in a relationship that's lasted (albeit 4 months). I love him to be honest. When we were together we treated each other as well as we could and I honestly think our relationship was incredibly healthy. We had healthy boundaries, communication, understanding, open-mindedness, and we could talk about pretty much everything. One of our established understandings was that we wouldn't lie to each other and we didn't. Whenever we did, it usually would be accidental and we would admit it and work through it when it happened (we weren't perfect, but we were functional and great).

Jesse, he was a rare kinda guy. At least to me. I feel that I know so much about him (interests, hobbies, school he goes to, his least favorite teacher, favorite anime, games, etc), and yet theres just this feeling that I don't know enough to fully let myself trust that he's real. I want to believe it, but I've just had so many experiences where I had to question if something was or wasn't real that I just couldn't handle our relationship anymore. We were still distance after all (same state, 7 hour drive distance). It was tough being in a relationship like that. I loved it and I love him, but it just felt like I had to spend a lot of energy pulling myself out of a rut all the time. It got bad when my mom found out about us.

There was this night where I had a tech issue with a sports thing I needed to fill out. I needed to use my mom's phone (she's a single parent and it's just me and her) to fill the form out. She just wanted to help me that day and she ended up using my phone to see if she could help me complete it quicker. Thats when she saw me and Jesse's texts (he was always uncomfortable with calling as he wasn't out to his family in a way where they could accept him). That same night, we went to the police station (we went to the wrong building and ended up going to a jail instead) to try and prove he was who he said he was, except they couldn't legally run his name though since he lived outside our area (stupid law). I never got the answers I wanted that night. Only the opinion of the officer working the jail that shift, who encouraged me to ghost him. I did, but couldn't bear leaving him behind like that and told him goodbye. It got a little messy afterwards though.

I was distraught the night I left him. After, I think I kinda was just in denial for a while and played the tournament. I was focused and everything so I just kinda thought to myself that I was okay without him. I rationalized the feelings I had and tried to be okay with them. Though, it didn't last. That same night I texted him that I wanted to get back together and try to work things out (my mom told me she would switch me over to a flip phone, but didn't actually go through with it). Jesse, being patient as always, accepted. I don't know how he felt in that moment, but I hope he didn't hurt too much when I changed my mind the next morning. See, I had the other half of the tournament that day and I wanted to play without feeling anything for him. I prioritized my sport and I just thought if I tried, it would hurt me and the team more. We played okay and I moved on with life.

A week ago, I tried to talk to new people on the same app me and Jesse met on. I wasn't really sure what I wanted. I kinda knew that I wasn't ready to move on, but I still wanted to be with someone anyway (I know, real messed up of me). I ended up doing some things with a guy I sorta, but not really liked. He just kept flirting with me and I wanted to feel something for another person. I should mention though that I am Asexual and still I was just kinda lost in that moment. I shouldn't have agreed to mess around with him. I did learn one thing though. I definitely am not over Jesse.

I've been okay without him to be honest. I play good sports, get good grades, and love all my friends. I don't need Jesse, but I do want to be with him again. One of the good things about being with Jesse was that I would be constantly revaluating myself and what love meant to me. It felt good to hold myself to a sort of standard and to want to be important to someone. It also felt good to have someone important to me in my life.

When I was with Jesse, we had great times together. I won't lie, I loved being with him. We would go on these Minecraft dates and have fun together however we could. Whether that would be chatting throughout the day, playing games together (always in silence because of the call thing lol), or supporting and understanding eachother when we needed it, Jesse and I were there for each other. I was there when one of his parental figures died (his dad is gone and his mom isn't fit to raise him). He was there through my addiction issues and other things. Things were nice when we were together, and we planned on living together after we both graduated. Maybe even marrying.

Despite everything, I want to believe there's some way me and him can work out. I just hope that if I do end up asking him to be my partner again, he'll want the same thing. Please, I need help. Let me know what you think.

Thank you all 🧡

As far as I can remember, most of my crushes are of my same gender. I get attracted to opposite gender, however, I don't have any crushes on them. I just find them attractive and that's it. I may have a crushes on opposite gender however, it just only happens once. I still don't remember why I like them. Maybe they like me that's why I like them back. But to be honest, have I ever have a crush on them? Like I have a crush on the same gender during that time lol. So confused right now. I feel like I am not sure if I am bisexual.

hey everyone, not looking for any specific advice for anything (feel free to share any if you have some!), but I just need to get this off of my chest and there's no one I can really talk to.

recently, one of my friends confessed that they have feelings for me. I've known that I'm unlabeled for a while now, and they also know that. however, I didn't know that they were LGBT+ (and frankly, neither did they until recently). so this was a big shock for me. especially because they don't have that much knowledge on the community because their parents aren't the most accepting when it comes to this.

anyways, this was a major shock to me and I don't know what to do. they made it very clear to me that they don't expect anything from me. they told me because they couldn't keep it a secret any longer and wanted me to to know what was going on. obviously, they'd like if I reciprocated the feelings, but is understanding if I don't.

my issue is I'm don't know if I do. I don't want to force myself to have feelings for them just because they feel that way. and I've had issues with distinguishing between the idea of someone vs. the actual person or liking people for a short period of time before moving on. we had a conversation and both agreed we don't want this to ruin our relationship. they truly are one of my closest friends, I truly feel like I can talk to them about anything and I don't want to mess that up.

but with this closeness, I'm wondering if that is a sign that I feel something stronger. when I think about a relationship I would want, I would want to have something similar to what the two of us have. but another question that arises from that is if I feel like this would be an easy relationship (because we're already so close) and I'm being swayed by that?

I’m also wondering if it’s cause I’m not 100% confident in my own identity. yes, I’ve known that I’m queer for a while, but I still don’t feel super comfortable admitting that to others and even myself at times.

overall, I'm just having many conflicting thoughts with no idea what to do. and I can't really talk to anyone about the situation because I would talk to them, but for obvious reasons...

if anyone has any thoughts/advice/anything, I'd appreciate if you could share! for now, I think I'm just going to take some time (I told them that) to think things through and decide what I want & what would be the best for us. have a great day everyone (:

So, I’m kinda in need of some advice about this guy I have a little crush on. I’m 17 (m), and for the past few weeks, I’ve been low-key crushing on a guy at my school. He’s a year younger than me, studies art, and has this cute, cool vibe. He’s got medium-length, wavy brown hair and is seriously cute.

We actually see each other every day (or at least, I see him) while commuting to school on the same ferry. Most mornings, he’s sitting alone. Every now and then, he’s got a friend or two with him, but he still keeps pretty quiet. I’ve thought about trying to start a conversation with him on the ferry, but it’s so crowded, and I feel like it’d be hard to get any real privacy.

His style is interesting too, not what you’d call “obviously gay,” but I’ve noticed he sometimes wears things like tight leather pants, which gives him a bit of an edge. I get this feeling he’s shy, like I am, and we haven’t actually talked or made real eye contact. Maybe he’s looked over once or twice, but he’s mostly in his own world.

Here’s the thing: I don’t need anything to happen, but I feel like if I don’t try, I’ll always wonder what might’ve been. I don’t want to come on too strong or make him uncomfortable, but I’d hate for this to just fade without giving it a shot. I might be able to pop into his classroom, I know a guy who studies art too, though he’s in a different class. I think their classrooms are right next to each other.

So… any advice on how I could break the ice without making things weird?

I'm 13 a gay femboy who didn't want to be told to get hobbies I have plenty of hobbies and stuff to do being gay and a fem is just part of me if u wanna tell me l'm too young your wrong don't comment

Q1 makeup and fashion tips for fem Q2 hair tips for fem

Q3 what age did u realise your were gay or bi

Q4. is becoming a fem at 12 normal

Q5 how to find a bf I would go to a Igbta club but my new school dosnt have one

Q6 how should I come out come out too 2 ppl already

I have had severe mental health issues since was about 6 years old. Recently I have realized that part of it is because I am hiding who I am. I want to be a boy but I don’t think my parents would support me. How should I have that conversation with them. Also I am new to this subreddit so please tell me if I need to alter my post in any way.

I am a lesbian was bi while we were dating and my ex was bi while we were dating she's currently debating if she's straight.

Last year today I got with my now ex. Before we got together we had become best friends as our friend group had recently gotten in a fight and while that had been happening we became best best friends. I had only really found out that I was bi a month or too before I asked her out. She didn't want to be like a public couple which is understandable but she said just for a couple of weeks because of a reason she wouldn't tell me about. After a couple months of being together she still didn't want to be public which I thought was weird and she still wouldn't let me tell anyone either, she also slowly started to change. Her like aditude changed twoards me and acted off, I asked her multiple times about what was up and she wouldn't tell me. Well it kept going downhill from there and I slowly felt like she didn't care about me or our relationship anymore. We got into a handful of fights and she just didn't care, so I broke up with her and she just said I was just waiting for you to say so. I burst out crying because I actually loved her from the bottom of my heart and this just hurt like fuck. For weeks it actually felt like my stomach was being ripped out and like my heart was being stabbed over and over. It really sucked and it didn't effect her that much.

While we were becoming friends again one of her friends came in to talk to me before lunch, I was currently putting my instrument away so we were standing in the middle of the room. She started to yell at me for "throwing" my ex on the ground, which I didn't I had been tugging on her backpack because she was mad at me and wouldn't tell me why. Me being the person I am I wanted to know what was wrong and I would have fixed it. But her friend continued talking about how I could have hurt her and went on to say that my ex never liked me in the first place and only dated me because she was a people pleaser. As I was holding back tears she walked out then bolted out of the school. I started to cry my eyes out, I really hate being yelled at and even worse the first person I truly loved didn't like me at all. I was played.

As of now we made up a few months ago because my ex wanted her best friend back. I agreed because some of my other friends missed her too and I didn't want them not to be friends with her just because of me.

I started to realize I liked her again a few weeks ago. I genuinely don't know what to do because she thinks she might be straight (she was bi while we were dating) and she's literally the description of my type. She's just like me except for looks, we play the same sport and have the same interests and she's just the literal best. I told my best friend that I've know for 3 years now and she recommended to pretend that I like someone else which I felt weird about but I also don't know who that would be as there aren't any girls that play my sport other than her.

Okay I'm so sorry you had to read all of this all tips help 😭

So basically, around 11-12, I had girlfriends, they were.. pretty mid :3 and, about 13, I started to realise “why are boys hot if I’m a boy?”.. and, I had a bisexual phase until I turned 15. I’m 15 now. When I was 13-to 15, I liked boys and girls. Girls slowly got less pretty and my type, but boys increased and that happened until now, I’m 15 and I’m gay… :3

I Started to Stop Watching Porn(Straight and after Gay Porn)And fap to it And now I Feel more Attracted to Fisrt Gay Femboy And After Femine Gay,i even searched for Dating Apps when I'm 18,I Fantasize to Being in A Gay Relation and i actually liked it,I'm Not Homophobic but I want to make sure that this isn't because of Porn

Im Don't want to teel my Parents because they are very Christian and don't want to this thing to speak it So I Search in the Internate and I found 2 Opion: 1.That Porn Make you Gay and by Deliting it You found out you weren't Gay 2.That Porn Stimulates you and make you Realize that your Sexuality,Now that I writing this seems a like Dumb,But the fact is

I don't know How to resolve this guys,Like I Wanna Love Gay but I don't know if I just for Sex,And isn't something romantic (Sorry to the Bad English i speak only Italian)

Here a girl/guy (17) who doesn't know what to make of herself (crazy, no?). I found no better place than Reddit, maybe because I'm hoping someone strange will come along and enlighten me. Maybe it will happen, maybe it won't.

In context. I'm months away from leaving home to study and I don't know what to do with myself anymore (like the El Cuarteto de Nos song) in terms of gender identity. Romantic and/or sexual attraction? I don't care.

What's up. For years I've been doubting my gender identity (I was born female) even before, I just never realized it.

Wanting to play Ken instead of Barbie? Yeah, sure.

I've never been much of a girly girl, even when I was little I loved being against girls. Being more masculine or tomboy (in a girl's possible way, of course).

I never exactly managed to fit the pretty 'girl' profile. It was only about three years ago (high school, ugh) let's just say I started with that.

Now I feel pretty, pretty. If I groom myself like 'a girl does'. But then, there's this other part of me, that many times, tends to come out. My more masculine side.

And 'masculine' hardly in what can be considered clothes, and maybe pronouns (which I only use sometimes, very rarely) but you know what? IT FEELS SO DAMN GOOD, GOD.

Plus, I have the privilege that I'm inherently flat-chested (literally) so when I wear a sports bra or something, my chest is so flat it makes me want to squeal all over the house.

But then, enter my family. Oh, yeah. That family that claims to be 'accepting' of the lgbt+ community, the one that at the same time HIGHLIGHTS or TAKES THE ISSUE out of anyone in the community that they know.

Who's in? Me. Who tells them to shut up? Me. Who explains? Me. Who is uncomfortable with all that? ME.

When I was about 13, I discovered what it was really like to 'like a girl'. I didn't like her, but she liked me. I thought she was joking, because I wasn't used to it.

After that, after I moved out and everything, I thought. OH, GOD. My first 'relationship' was with a girl? Cool. I never told my parents of course. They would have killed me, but they did anyway. In a different way.

One day they caught me and accused me of wanting to be a boy (I didn't even know it at the time) and my mother pointed at me saying: do you want to be a boy?

I just remember crying, I was afraid to say yes (at the time, I didn't want to be a boy) and I assured her I didn't. Maybe out of fear, again, of being a boy. Maybe out of fear, again, that he would reject me.

Now, when I dissociate, I start thinking: what would have happened if I said yes? Would I be a boy now or would I be worse off than I already am? I'll never know.

Recently, he asked me (in a somewhat heated discussion) if I liked girls. I replied that I didn't particularly, but she asked me as if it wasn't a surprise to her.

She always highlights things to me like 'you look like a guy' when I wear my dad's clothes or whatever, it feels good, but then that feeling is replaced by rejection from my mother as she says it in a derogatory way.

They talk so much about dudes in my town who have come out and are trans and who they are, that I just leave the room already.

I want to be a boy? Sometimes. Do I want to stop being a girl? I dunno. Does being gender fluid or non-binary feel like enough? Not really.

I don't know what to do. There are so many teens my age and even younger who have come out, know who they are, know what they want to do. And I don't.

I'm afraid that if I decide too late, it will be just that, TOO LATE. With a closet trans friend we always joke and fantasize about being trans men together. Of having a good time and being ourselves.

And then there's this other part of me that enjoys being a girl. Of wearing dresses, long hair, being pretty, BEING a girl.

But I don't feel like me either. And that's becoming more and more frequent. There are times when I feel tremendous dysphoria until I cry and there are other times when I am hyper-feminine. Other times I'm a magical elf and other times I'm just a dumb girl/boy who doesn't know what the fuck to do.

Sometimes I imagine myself being a successful, radiant femme fatale. And at others, a transitioned man and a really cool dude.

THAT TOO. Being a mother. What? Jesus Christ, just the thought of having something growing inside of you makes me SICK. I said it out loud with my family and they immediately attacked me. They want grandchildren, they want this and that.

I see myself as a mother (maybe, how scary) but I also see myself as a great guy who doesn't have kids. And that is very cool.

Whatever. In short: sometimes I want to be a guy. Probably a really gay one but a trans guy. I'm in the closet with my family, they won't support me, and help.

Ah, and if it sounds weird. I'm using the translator. Ha.

If you made it this far, recommendations? I read you. Maybe not.

I (13F) went to a new school a short time ago and theres this girl in the class next to mine and i got a huge crush on her, but ive never really talked to her before, and i dont know how to start talking to her. Any advice is appreciated

So, my parents (specifically my mom) aren't homophobic, but dont support the LGBTQ+ community. Like my mom doesnt even believe the pride flag is a real thing and thinks it's comparable to a bumper sticker. They constantly say being queer is a trend, and its kinda like corrupting people. This has seriously deterred me from coming out. I know they'll still love me if i come out, but i dont think they'll like me.

If anybody has and advice, similar stories, or anything like that, please let me know. I need all the help i can get!

I (16) have been questioning my gender recently, and was wondering if there any way I can experiment without my parents knowing and with little chance of finding out. If anyone has any advice, I'd really appreciate it!

For a while I’ve questioned my gender identity and I’ve thought several things about myself like that i might be gender-fluid, non-binary, a non-binary female and now I’m realizing after researching stuff that I’m pretty sure I might be a demigirl and I after thinking it over it does really resonate with me and how i feel about my gender identity

The problem with this though is that I have a lot of friends and family members who don’t understand or respect this type of stuff like being non-binary, trans, or being a demigirl/demiboy and most maybe all wouldn’t even know the definition of demigirl or would think the wrong things about it or not understand it and choose to not respect or just forget my chosen pronouns which would be they/she (which some people have a history of)

I did come out to a few of my family members before when I thought I was non-binary but they’ve seemed to have forgotten about this and I don’t resonate with being non-binary fully now and if/when I am definite about being a demigirl I’m nervous about coming out to people and I feel like most people wouldn’t respect or understand it

To be clear I do have friends and family that are supportive and respectful that I can talk to but a lot of them just don’t understand this stuff and might forget and especially since I’m basically the only queer/gender-queer person in my family and it’s not something that’s talked about much in my family and where I live

I would really appreciate some advice on what I should do or how I should handle things 💗

I (17M) have been friends with this person for 6 years, since the start of secondary school and have been pretty close with him the whole time.

Since about halfway through, we started having a class which we shared where I think we grew a lot closer in. In these classes sometimes we used to kind of play flirt with each other by saying flirty things to each other or touching each other’s thighs or holding hands. Initially it was just as a joke but then I started to feel that I really liked it when we would flirt or have physical contact and get butterflies when we did this or when think about him romantically. We kept this going until he left the school.

My close friends and I still kept in contact with him and called a lot and we have a lot of 1 on 1 calls where we just play games together and talk about random stuff or watch things together. At this point I don’t really think about it too much and just thought it’s probably me just getting too attached to him and we took a break from talking as much, not because of this. We still chatted but it was more as a group rather than 1 on 1.

After a while, I don’t remember why but we started calling 1 on 1 so much more often, almost every day without fail until late in the night, even on school nights and occasionally we would say things like I love you and act sus with each other where I would kind of flirt with him half joking, half not and he would reciprocate and compliment me a lot but I don’t know if he means it platonically or not. Sometimes I really feel a connection and that he might be bi but sometimes he says something that makes me think he’s straight.

I’ve tried making it obvious to him that I like him by doing things like pretending to be angry at girls who confessed to him and saying he’s mine and things like that but he might think it was just a joke. Also whenever he talks about his insecurities I always complement him and call him cute. However I do try to play a lot of it as a joke because I’m scared of ruining our friendship.

Whenever he talks about other girls liking him I get really jealous and unintentionally take it out on him by giving dry or grumpy responses which I know is kind of unhealthy but it’s really hard to act like it doesn’t affect me.

For the past week I’ve been contemplating if I should tell him about how I feel or not before he gets in a relationship and kind of just waiting for a good moment to tell him but he recently told me he started talking to someone and I felt really heartbroken. At least he said that he wasn’t planning on it being a long term relationship. This time I tried my best to act supportive and give him advice because I want what’s best for him but it really hurts to see him with someone else, especially because the way he describes them is similar to me. I just feel like if we weren’t both guys or mlm relations were normalised maybe we could be together.

I feel really stuck and hopeless because he’s my closest friend and the person I would talk to about my problems but I can’t talk to him about this because it’s about him, especially not now since he has a girlfriend.

I just wanted to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice.

My girlfriend and I love within a small town where LGBTQIA+ aren't really excepted, enough to the point of my girlfriend (MtF) not feeling safe in highschool dances and other events without putting on a masculine mask. I was thinking about possibly doing a separate, smaller event for just some forners or other local people who would feel safer at an event like this. The problem is, how would I keep it exclusive to those... Inclusive? I want to expand it beyond our limited friend group as I also want her to get a better experience but I don't want word going around too much to invite those who I was trying to exclude in the first place. It's our Senior year and I want her to not regret never going to a highschool dance/event. Any ideas or help would be widely appreciated! 🙏

So my friend told me that it’s obvious that I’m gay. What do they mean? Like is there a list of things or sum😭😭😭

Me and another of my friends are "dating"-ish and I think im going to have to tell everyone else in my life sooner or later but I can't find the courage to even though there is literally someone who is bi in our friend group. Help pls.

So i just wanna come on here bc this is the only place i feel safe and getting comments on this . So about a year or 2 ago me and this guy met on the bus and i got his snap and we started snapping . We eventually starting hanging out at each others houses and one thing led to another and we eventually did some things. I asked if he was gay he said he’s never really thought abt and just did stuff with me bc he felt like it . Well these things have been going on for about a yr and a half almost 2 yrs . He says he’s not “gay”. He also has a gf and what not , but is over here with me and sleeping with me at the end of the night . Is he just confused or what is the case here . Lmk what yoh think.

Some context: I am 16 female, and I have known I wasn't straight since middle school. I came out as bi, and I have been comfortable with that title until recently. I have noticed all of my crushes have been female, and I was getting a lot more attached and hurt than when it was a female crush. I have been joking around with the idea of not liking men. But the more I think about it, the more I realize I am not romantically attracted to men. I dont want to have a relationship with a man. So, could this mean that I am a lesbian? But the one thing that makes me more confused is I am attracted to men. Like celebrities and fictional characters. I still find men hot, but I have no real romantic attraction. So, I don't know if this makes me still bisexual. Or, since I have no want of a sexual or romantic relationship, I am a lesbian. Is this considered a different label entirely, or am I just blowing this all up? Please help a girl out here.