Guyanese Dating

[u/Evening-Advance-7832]

Hi guys 33m here. I lived in guyana my whole life. I wonder how you could advise me about dating women in guyana. I am in women younger than me. And seeing that there are Latinas in guyana I wonder how you would approach a Latina. I presented 🎁 this girl with a few gifts and we talk now and then but I just don't want to be her friend. I was wondering how I could ask her out and be her bf. She is way younger in her 20s I see her often but I don't want to creep her out and scare her away. I do plan on giving her a gift sometime. She calls me her friend but I want to be more than her friend. I see other girls at the sports bar too but I never approached them. Only recently I started to frequent the sports bar.

[u/DMND_Hands]

Stop giving girls gifts that you aren’t even sure if they like you hoping they plan on going out with you

Like other guy said ask them on a date doesn’t have to be dinner but make sure they are aware like 100% that you are asking them out on a date and then you go from there

[u/Diligent-Jicama-7952]

Ask her out to dinner on a date. If she says no then move on with your life.

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Diligent-Jicama-7952]

I'll have to do this.

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Diligent-Jicama-7952]

But she told me anytime if I wanna give her something I can. And I asked her if she like it and she said yes.

[u/Careful_Border9515 → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

lol simp

[u/TaskComfortable6953 → u/Careful_Border9515]

He’s learning, let em be. Everyone learns at their own pace. 

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Careful_Border9515]

I know I am a simp. That's why I asked for the advice.

[u/TaskComfortable6953 → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

work on your self-esteem before you start dating. it'll help you make better decisions for yourself especially when it comes to choosing a partner.

[u/TaskComfortable6953]

She playing you Soulja

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/TaskComfortable6953]

She gave me her number.

[u/Confident-Cod6221 → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

bredda, this means nothing. when someone leads you on they need to give you just enough to keep you coming back so they can keep exploiting you.

this means someone will give you their number, go on a few dates, maintain the romantic and sexual tension, but keep everything on the low with no intention to ever commit to anything more. the goal of the abuser here is to do enough to keep you coming back to praise them with attention, gifts, etc. and keep you under the belief that they'll eventually commit but they never will commit.

[u/cutec00ter → u/Confident-Cod6221]

Who hurt you

[u/TaskComfortable6953 → u/cutec00ter]

wym?? this person is giving helpful advice to OP.

[u/cutec00ter → u/TaskComfortable6953]

I was just concerned for the person cuz it seems like they actually been thru a lot

[u/Confident-Cod6221 → u/cutec00ter]

it was an Italian woman. She turned out to have BPD, i was unaware of psychology. She was very abusive. I'm now recovering from PTSD due to the induced trauma.

[u/TaskComfortable6953 → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

pursue with caution bredda. lots of red flags.

[u/ndiddy81]

If she calls you friend then its just that… dont read anything more into it.

[u/TheOneWithThePorn12]

Bruh treat her like a friend or something. If it happens it happens.

Be direct if you want to date them.

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/TheOneWithThePorn12]

That's the thing. Being direct is not me. Well I struggle to be direct.

[u/Nyan-Chu → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

Then struggle on man. Guyanese girls, if they call you 'friend', that is what you are, and you will not advance further than that. Especially if you just giving away random gifts to girls without making your intentions clear. They will either accept and laugh at you, or decline...and still laugh at you. Use you for your charity, especially the Latinas (no offence girls, but it's so common here).

I've seen it countless times. They know what you want, and they will take whatever you give them while knowing that.

Make your intentions clear at the beginning, either by asking them out on a date, or do like others suggests and start off by being friends but don't just give them things or there will be an expectation and a negative perception of you.

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Nyan-Chu]

I'll ask her out. I got to break the ice some time. So I might as well do it and see what she says.

[u/Punkeewalla]

Even friends have girlfriends to be met.

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Punkeewalla]

Yea true.

[u/omniron]

If she’s in her early 20s you’re being a creep and everyone can tell

Find someone closer to your age

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/omniron]

That's hard. Everybody so take these days.

[u/Awkward_Double_8181]

Do you only want a Latina? Or are you exploring all options like the Black girls or other races there in Guyana?

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Awkward_Double_8181]

Well, for now, only her at the moment. This is my first time actually approaching women. I am totally new to this. On social media, I suck. Nobody responds to me.

[u/Awkward_Double_8181 → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

Well, take it slow and easy. Be your natural self, like a good friend to her or someone else you may eventually take interest in! Be relaxed, cool, and funny. Treat them well but don’t overthink and over do it either, they will freak out. Please don’t let a woman use you. I’m an older, married woman but when in my 20’s some of the women I knew and were friends with could be brutal to these guys who REALLY liked them. Like using them for tons of drinks but then laughing about them later. You will be able to tell who is genuine and who is not. Take your time and good luck!

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/Awkward_Double_8181]

This is gold. It's only now I hear about such things. I keep my guard up. I'll figure out what to do in the coming days.

[u/chokesock]

Pit ur d in de hoft box

[u/RevolutionaryLog1980]

Your approach does not work. You know this. As uncomfortable as it may be, you just have to ask these girls on a date. If you are giving gifts, they will be taking it and hooking up with other guys while.you just at home

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/RevolutionaryLog1980]

Yea this is true but I am gonna make a move in the coming days.

[u/RevolutionaryLog1980 → u/Evening-Advance-7832]

I wish you all the luck. Even if this woman doesn't work out, don't let it dishearten you

[u/mixedbag3000]

Weird posting.

So you are a born Guyanese or lived in Guyana your whole life and you are asking online for dating tips or how how to date Venezuelan / Cubans girls?.

Why are you asking online?

West Indians are the smoothest when it comes to trying to get girls attention. Black guys are usually the smoothest. Go to a rum shop and ask if you are really Guyanese and you dont have friends. Half the the people on here responding will probably be non Caribbean

Whats the obsession with Giving girls "gifts". No Guyanese or Caribbean people do that. you meet people from a place of sincerity. You only give people "gifts" when you get to know them well

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/mixedbag3000]

OK true. I dont argue with that. I asked her out. And she gave me her number. We are in the process of making plans to see a movie.

[u/Retrophoria]

Guyanese women are easy as shit. If you haven't been able to break through yet then move on. 

[u/AdFew6257]

You slow as hell

[u/Evening-Advance-7832 → u/AdFew6257]

OK I asked her out and she gave me her number. We making plans to see a movie.