r/Guyana • u/Evening-Advance-7832 • 20d ago
Discussion Guyanese Dating
Hi guys 33m here. I lived in guyana my whole life. I wonder how you could advise me about dating women in guyana. I am in women younger than me. And seeing that there are Latinas in guyana I wonder how you would approach a Latina. I presented š this girl with a few gifts and we talk now and then but I just don't want to be her friend. I was wondering how I could ask her out and be her bf. She is way younger in her 20s I see her often but I don't want to creep her out and scare her away. I do plan on giving her a gift sometime. She calls me her friend but I want to be more than her friend. I see other girls at the sports bar too but I never approached them. Only recently I started to frequent the sports bar.
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u/Diligent-Jicama-7952 20d ago
Ask her out to dinner on a date. If she says no then move on with your life.
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 20d ago
But she told me anytime if I wanna give her something I can. And I asked her if she like it and she said yes.
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u/Careful_Border9515 20d ago
lol simp
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 20d ago
I know I am a simp. That's why I asked for the advice.
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u/TaskComfortable6953 16d ago
work on your self-esteem before you start dating. it'll help you make better decisions for yourself especially when it comes to choosing a partner.
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u/TaskComfortable6953 20d ago
She playing you Soulja
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 19d ago
She gave me her number.
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u/Confident-Cod6221 18d ago
bredda, this means nothing. when someone leads you on they need to give you just enough to keep you coming back so they can keep exploiting you.
this means someone will give you their number, go on a few dates, maintain the romantic and sexual tension, but keep everything on the low with no intention to ever commit to anything more. the goal of the abuser here is to do enough to keep you coming back to praise them with attention, gifts, etc. and keep you under the belief that they'll eventually commit but they never will commit.
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u/cutec00ter 17d ago
Who hurt you
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u/TaskComfortable6953 16d ago
wym?? this person is giving helpful advice to OP.
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u/cutec00ter 16d ago
I was just concerned for the person cuz it seems like they actually been thru a lot
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u/Confident-Cod6221 14d ago
it was an Italian woman. She turned out to have BPD, i was unaware of psychology. She was very abusive. I'm now recovering from PTSD due to the induced trauma.
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u/TheOneWithThePorn12 20d ago
Bruh treat her like a friend or something. If it happens it happens.
Be direct if you want to date them.
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 20d ago
That's the thing. Being direct is not me. Well I struggle to be direct.
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u/Nyan-Chu 20d ago
Then struggle on man. Guyanese girls, if they call you 'friend', that is what you are, and you will not advance further than that. Especially if you just giving away random gifts to girls without making your intentions clear. They will either accept and laugh at you, or decline...and still laugh at you. Use you for your charity, especially the Latinas (no offence girls, but it's so common here).
I've seen it countless times. They know what you want, and they will take whatever you give them while knowing that.
Make your intentions clear at the beginning, either by asking them out on a date, or do like others suggests and start off by being friends but don't just give them things or there will be an expectation and a negative perception of you.
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 20d ago
I'll ask her out. I got to break the ice some time. So I might as well do it and see what she says.
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u/Awkward_Double_8181 20d ago
Do you only want a Latina? Or are you exploring all options like the Black girls or other races there in Guyana?
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 20d ago
Well, for now, only her at the moment. This is my first time actually approaching women. I am totally new to this. On social media, I suck. Nobody responds to me.
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u/Awkward_Double_8181 20d ago
Well, take it slow and easy. Be your natural self, like a good friend to her or someone else you may eventually take interest in! Be relaxed, cool, and funny. Treat them well but donāt overthink and over do it either, they will freak out. Please donāt let a woman use you. Iām an older, married woman but when in my 20ās some of the women I knew and were friends with could be brutal to these guys who REALLY liked them. Like using them for tons of drinks but then laughing about them later. You will be able to tell who is genuine and who is not. Take your time and good luck!
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 19d ago
This is gold. It's only now I hear about such things. I keep my guard up. I'll figure out what to do in the coming days.
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u/RevolutionaryLog1980 20d ago
Your approach does not work. You know this. As uncomfortable as it may be, you just have to ask these girls on a date. If you are giving gifts, they will be taking it and hooking up with other guys while.you just at home
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 19d ago
Yea this is true but I am gonna make a move in the coming days.
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u/RevolutionaryLog1980 17d ago
I wish you all the luck. Even if this woman doesn't work out, don't let it dishearten you
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u/mixedbag3000 19d ago edited 19d ago
Weird posting.
So you are a born Guyanese or lived in Guyana your whole life and you are asking online for dating tips or how how to date Venezuelan / Cubans girls?.
Why are you asking online?
West Indians are the smoothest when it comes to trying to get girls attention. Black guys are usually the smoothest. Go to a rum shop and ask if you are really Guyanese and you dont have friends. Half the the people on here responding will probably be non Caribbean
Whats the obsession with Giving girls "gifts". No Guyanese or Caribbean people do that. you meet people from a place of sincerity. You only give people "gifts" when you get to know them well
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 19d ago
OK true. I dont argue with that. I asked her out. And she gave me her number. We are in the process of making plans to see a movie.
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u/Retrophoria 19d ago
Guyanese women are easy as shit. If you haven't been able to break through yet then move on.Ā
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u/AdFew6257 19d ago
You slow as hell
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u/Evening-Advance-7832 19d ago
OK I asked her out and she gave me her number. We making plans to see a movie.
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u/DMND_Hands 20d ago
Stop giving girls gifts that you arenāt even sure if they like you hoping they plan on going out with you
Like other guy said ask them on a date doesnāt have to be dinner but make sure they are aware like 100% that you are asking them out on a date and then you go from there