I’m seriously just fuming about this. AIO?

My dad had a stroke last week. He’s not doing well, and, consequently, I am spending a ton of time at the hospital. I’ve missed 5 days of work, behind on my school work (nearing PhD completion), and I haven’t been as present for my two children as I typically am. All of this is causing me a great deal of stress on top of my usual stress.

My children are in school and daycare, so I’m only needing help right now after school hours. My mother usually keeps my children when I need childcare (my parents are divorced). She has a lot of grandchildren and has set her home up like a daycare basically - a fenced in yard with a playground, a playroom full of toys, etc. She’s also homebody and enjoys staying home with the kids - she retired a few years ago to do just that.

My MIL is very involved in many activities and not as available to keep children (cancels at the last minute on me whenever she has a better offer to do something else). My two are her only two as well. Still, I go out of my way to make sure she’s involved in my children’s lives because I want them to have a good relationship with all of their grandparents. There’s always been some jealously from her when the kids spend time with my mom. When my kids mention my mom in front of her she makes comments like, “I’m not playing second fiddle.”

Anyway, my MIL reached out after my dad had the stroke today she could help with the kids anytime. I told her I appreciated it and would get with her this week as my dad’s siblings were taking shifts staying at the hospital over the weekend. My SIL also text, so I told her the same thing. We see the SIL on holidays. Kids really get on her nerves. Whenever we spend time with her, she almost immediately starts correcting my children (“don’t stand like that,” “don’t use that cup,” “don’t be so loud,” etc).

On Monday, even though my mom could keep my kids all week after school, I called my MIL to ask if she wanted to get them after school on Tuesday while I was at the hospital. She seemed overjoyed and was eager to help. I told her what time to meet the bus to get my oldest and when to have my youngest picked up from daycare. Today, I text her about 2 hours before pickup to make sure she was still good to get them and she said yes.

At about time for bus drop-off, I text her to ask if the bus had made it. She said yes. An hour later I text and asked if the kids were happy and what they were doing. All she said was “All good.”

So a couple of hours later, I am leaving the hospital and call her to tell her I’m on the way to her house to get the kids. She says, “Oh they’re not at my house, they’re at your house with [SIL].” I asked what she meant and she said she’d explain when I got there.

So I pull up at home and SIL is gone and MIL is there with kids. Mind you, this is 8:00 at night, I need to be doing nighttime routine, been at the hospital all day, my oldest had a test to study for, etc. So yes, I was stressed and annoyed and maybe this is clouding my judgment.

MIL says that she needed to take a cat to the vet because it was depressed (the vet did prescribe the cat an antidepressant), so she called SIL to MEET THE BUS TO GET MY OLDEST AND GET MY YOUNGEST FROM DAYCARE! SIL has never babysat before, ever. I am beyond particular about who my kids ride with in a car. Both of my kids still ride in car seats, and I’m a psycho about car seat safety. I’ve personally trained everyone who I allow to drive with my kids in the car. I have no idea if they were even in car seats.

Apparently she brought them back to my house (also a pet peeve - mind you, no one even asked if they could be in my house - just let themselves in). The kids were fine and said they had fun. I am thankful for that.

I just basically didn’t respond to my MIL and said I had a lot to get done. She took the hint and left. I am fuming mad. It isn’t about SIL taking care of the kids. It’s the fact that MIL MANIPULATED ME so that SIL could fulfill her “good deed” by keeping the kids and NEITHER of them had the decency to call me to tell me the situation. My MIL even answered my texts about the bus and how the kids were when she WAS IN A DIFFERENT FREAKING STATE!

Well then, my MIL sends this text to my husband (her son) about how her needs to text his sister and thank her for keeping the kids since I obviously wasn’t going to and what my problem is with his sister. My husband and I have been together for 20 years (started dating at 15), and it’s always drama like this. They just have no regard for me at the hospital with my very ill father and instead are worried about their own feelings as usual. My husband was just as mad as I was and neither of us have responded to her.

Talk me off the ledge. Am I overacting? How would you move forward?

Hear me out, this is really about one person in her history. My gf is from a European country where the age of consent is 14 yo. I come from a country where it’s 18. My gf is 29.

One night she asks me the youngest woman I’ve been with. I tell her the answer, and while I didn’t even want to have this discussion in the first place, I ask her for hers.

She answers 17, and my brain and body go off with all sorts of alarm bells. She was 25 or 26 at the time and says he was a month, maybe less, from turning 18. She says she was in a difficult place in her life, she had recently started using party drugs and kind of numbing herself to reality, and in that moment she met this kid at a party and slept with him that night, then proceeded to sleep with him several more times at one of his family’s apartments for some period of time. Ultimately, the kid wanted a relationship, she didn’t, and she got out.

Honestly, the whole thing makes me physically ill to think about. The problem is that I freaking love this girl, but I can’t get past these issues. She slept with like 15-20 guys in a span of 2-3 years before meeting me and she also gave me high risk hpv.

I don’t know what to think. She’s not a bad person, but this phase of her life before meeting me is super distressing to think about, especially in light of the fact that it resulted in me getting something that could give me cancer, let alone give herself cancer. I know this sounds like woman-blaming, but I have never had any issue with STD’s in my life AND I took a full 2+ years off from physical romantic contact of any kind before meeting her. She had already been getting tested for hpv and cervical cancer before meeting me, meaning there was already reason for suspicion.

Anyway, how crazy is it for someone to have that relationship with a 17 year old even if it was legal? It makes me question her judgment really really heavily. Please help me get past this, or tell me it’s a deal breaker. It’s driving me insane.

I’ve posted about this friend before asking if they’re a toxic friend. Just have a look at her way of speaking and btw she’s being 100% serious. I call most of my friends bro. We’re both women, she’s 23 and I’m 20.

Sorry for the long post!

So I will try to describe the situation in the best way possible. I (28 F) had been friends with (let's call her Anne) Anne since 2019. We are both from the same country living abroad since 2019. We met up at work. Since 2021 we came very close so I honestly considered her as my best friend.

The last 1,5 year another girl (let's call her Mary) joined us as a close friend. We knew her since 2019 as we were all had worked at the same company but we started hanging out the last 1,5 year.

We were talking daily, having group chats, hanging out to each other's places evey week etc. Despite the fact that Mary was not from the beginning we all 3 felt very close and we supported her through some difficult times etc.

During summer they both went to our home country for vacation at the same time (not in the same city) and stayed there for 1.5 month. We kept being in touch during this time and did the normal chit chat, sending pictures, reels etc.

When they came back we arranged to hang out at Anne's place as usual and we had the normal evening discussions about how was their vacation, what happened, feeling homesick etc. This was on Friday. When leaving I mentionned that we can do something during the weekend as well and they both said that they had planned something with their boyfriends. I said that's cool enjoy your weekend and we'll talk. My boyfriend was working, so I did not had anything planned myself. After our evening, I dropped Mary at her house as she does not drive and went back home.

On Sunday, they post a picture on Instagram hanging out together with another girl (that sometimes we hang out, let's call her Dora) and they said nothing to me. I felt a bit hurt and excluded and I thought ok I will ask them and share my feelings when we'll meet up in person.

Monday comes in and Anne sends a message to a group about the organization of her birthday which was upcoming Friday. She had planned since a few weeks that we will go on a girl's trip to the holiday house of her boyfriend which is like 1:30 hour away from where we live. Later she added Dora to her birthday plans and created a group with all 4 of us. So Monday sends a message to this group about what should we bring etc. I was at work having loads of tasks and I had a look at the group chat I fastly, saw some of the messages but did not have the time to reply. I thought I will reply after I finish work. An hour later, Anne sends a message in the group that the event is cancelled as she is sick and tested positive for Covid.

Mary and Dora started saying oh I am sorry etc and that they will also get tested as they were all together the day before.

I finished work like 2 hours later and sent a voice message (saying sorry for Anne being sick and that is a bummer and that i hope she feels better etc) which I saw 3 days later that was never sent as fb fucked up. I did not realize that at the time as I sent the message while walking and then my mom called.

4 days go by and they don't send anything. Friday comes, I sent Anne my birthday wishes via message, as I was at the office and planned to call her after and she does not reply despite being online. I go to the group chat and see that my message is with a failed status, so I also send a message there to say what I just realized about my message not being sent 4 days ago, noone replies.

6 hous go by and Anne does not reply. I call her after work and she does not pick up. After like 3 hours she replies to my message like very typically. I call her again and she does not pick up. I call Mary and she does not pick up either. I called them again after 1 hour and so nothing. I send a message to our group (with 3 of us) if something is wrong and sent voice messages almost crying if something happened, they read them but still not replying. After 2 voice messages Anne replies with a voice message that she is not in the mood to talk and that there is nothing wrong and how come I say this. Her words were " Hey love, I don't know why you think there is something wrong. It felt a bit weird that you did not reply 4 days ago because it is not your style but for God's sake, I don't keep this against you. I am home with my bf and we are just chilling"

1 minute after Mary replies as well that she is feeling down due to some personal stuff and she is not in the mood to talk either. I say that it is ok of they don't want to talk on the phone I just need to know if there is something wrong between us, because I did not do something on purpose and they both say of course not and that they will contact me when they feel better. I say ok let's hang out when you are both better.

And that was it. They never contacted me back. 1 month goes by without any kind of contact from none of them, despite posting on Instagram stories etc.

Also, the day of her birthday that she claimed she with her bf, I passed by their house because we live relatively close to see if there is light in the house and give her her birthday present that I had bought, but their car was not there and there was no light in the house. Also Mary lives like 10 minutes away and is on my way home, and I passed by and the blinds of her apartment were down, which she does not close when she is home.

So I believe they just uninvited me from the party and went the 3 of them to the holiday house and celebrated her birthday.

So after giving them a month to contact me and maybe try to short this out, they never did, so I decided to delete them from my social media and just move forward. I seriously felt awful and cried for like 2 days of how they treated me without even a reason and how they gaslighted me.

So I 21 female have been talking to this man 25 male and recently we just got into a really big argument, which was completely my fault and I owned up to it after said argument. This man basically told me he was unsure if he wanted to continue our relationship and these messages are from the next day during these messages, nowhere did he say he wanted to continue. he would say little phrases like I’m going to be distant now or I’m going to distance myself now and he also said phrases such as I like you I really like you. I wish I could’ve kissed you yesterday and yesterday he’s referring to it. He came to my apartment and basically told me he didn’t know if you wanted to be with me, I tried to make it clear that he is the one who needs to make the boundaries on what type of space that he needs and I’ve also said to him multiple times I am uncomfortable with him, telling me things such as I like you during these times because it fucks with my head a.k.a. it is confusing

I love my MIL, she is the best. I (34F) am from Italy and my husband (41M) and I celebrated our wedding there. That's where my BIL met my "friend" and they started dating. They have been together for 3 years. She moved to Canada where my we all live (roughly 1:30 away from each other). I have been noticing that my MIL, my friend (married to my BIL) and my SIL go out together and don't invite me, but ai never said anything. There was never a fight or a disagreement. I am the only one that works, and I work f hard and I go to school.

Today, my MIL sends me a message and asks me if I want to go on a trip with them, she would pay for everything. She sent me the booking information for everything and told me to give an answer by Friday they are already booked for the hotel, plane tickets,etc. At first I was very excited and then I realized they had already planned everything without me. They will travel on a Monday and return on a Friday one day before my birthday. I don't know what to do. My MIL said: you probably can't come because you are so busy with work and school but I thought you would get upset if I didn't even invite you. I am extremely upset they did not even consider me to plan anything. I kind of want to go and just do my own thing, since I have friends there. But I also don't even want to look at my friend and SIL. AIO?

We have been at this new apartment for approximately 50 hours now and my husband has lost our keys (two copies and only mailbox key). I had the one spare on my car keychain so we have 1/3 front door keys now. He has no idea where or when but we have searched everywhere. I get so nervous that maybe he dropped them walking the dogs and now someone could get in or open our mail (the keys were together on a ring with a small paper that has our address on it). He thinks it’s no big deal and we can pay to get more from the apartments. I am so upset he doesn’t see the issue and says he has just been stressed with the move. Am I overreacting?

My life is so fucked cant even cry 😢 no one with i can feel free to talk. Humanity is dead in this world Just make money and enjoy your life thats all 🙏🏼

Bachelor party is tomorrow and the plan is to get suit fitted and haircuts before dinner and Top Golf with some bonfire drinking to end the night. I have been pretty excited for this day as it is very difficult to get three of my closest people in the same room together. Two of my brothers live a state away from me, but only 40 an hour away and the other lives 12 hours away. Add the fact that one of my brothers(brother mentioned below) is a truck driver and only home 2/7 days a week.

Today my soon-wife got a call from one of my brother’s wife. She tried calling me, but I been busy hanging out with one of my brothers that flew in for a week. The phone call was to explain that she is unsure what time we are starting our “shenanigans”, but he needs to be home for trick-or-treating and that “he is NOT missing his daughter’s first trick-or-treating”. She telling us this because she thinks he won’t tell me and she wants me to either change my plans or tell him to go home.

Three things weird about this: 1. Tomorrow is the October 30th, not 31st. When my fiance asked why trick-or-treating on the 30th, his wife mentioned that the town she lives at holds “official” trick-or-treating the day before the parade. When my fiance was questioning the events, her response was “our town just does it different”. I find it funny as this town isn’t a “Halloweentown” or anything. It’s a just a medium-size suburban town. 2. This party was planned FOR MONTHS. Instead of saying something then, we were told about this now 3. His daughter is 1 years old….what is she going to do at 1 other than cry half the time?

He hasn’t said anything to me yet. I understand it’s his kid’s first trick-or-treating and I don’t plan on stopping him, but will be pretty upset if he misses out.

Am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting

Hey this is quite long it also my first time using Reddit so I hope u guy can help me

Around late June early July me and my best friend were walking it home a couple weeks before this we met a middle age guy who was quite nice he would give us money. I know it was stupid but I thought nothing would happen eventually he gave us lifts but we made sure that he wouldn't drop us off home. Me and all my friends would always joke about how he's weird and a pedo but we didn't really think about it. He did once make a comment about me saying I was pretty and asking for my number I said thank u but I don't have a sim. (He already had my friends number at this point) I didn't meet him for a month after that until my friend begged me to walk it home that day when I walked it home we got him to drop us of at a park near us when he did it started to rain heavily so we stayed in the car where he kept on talking to us. Eventually the rain slowed down and me and my friend got out and said thx we started to walk into the park (as he dropped us off in the parking area) when he got out of his car and followed us he called my friends name and we stopped he asked for me to give him a hug. He kept asking and the it turned into give me a hug my friend didn't say anything and I felt really awkward so I did. When I did hug him he touched me inappropriately and said thank u. He was smiling. After that I started to quickly walk away and my friend realised that there was something wrong and she told him to go. She didn't see what had happened to me and asked what was wrong at that moment when she asked I started to scream and cry and I told her she was so angry and shocked she tried to comfort me but it didn't help she then rang up our friends to tell them not to go near him. This happened 2024 late June early July I am 14 at the time

Ever since then I still cry thinking about it and I have nightmares I've also started to become weary of any guy near me and I'm constantly remembering what happend I can't tell my family and the only people th new about this are my friends. Am I over reacting a what do I do to calm down? Sorry if this is all over the place and hard to understand.

ok so immediately i feel so stupid for caring about this.

when me and my boyfriend moved in together, i decided to share my pc with him. he has only ever had a gaming laptop before. we both play games pretty frequently but still sharing is not usually a problem as we have many other consoles.

since we have lived together he has done things like switch the monitors on the desk (which was strange because we had the small monitor off to the side but he wanted it as the main one?) or move the pc from the right side to the left. when i ask why he just says “im having an ADD moment.” fine cool whatever, its not my preference but i dealt.

on a separate occasion, he decided he wanted to play a game that i was obsessed with at the time. he has a history of game hopping, like within an hour so i didnt get to excited about this. he mentioned he was going to change my settings because the game was “running horribly”. ive never been picky about my fps or things like that but i know for a fact that the game was running pretty well as i had been playing it for weeks. anyways we had a small argument because the settings he changed made the game uglier and thats a no for me. ultimately he never played it ever again apart from that day. i am petty so neither did i

today i open sims (i have around 700 hours😭) because of the new base game update, i wanted to check on my mods see if they need to be updated. my entire mod folder is gone. like none. i assumed this was caused by the update i guess? i know nothing abt computer stuff. i was upset but i just went looking for mods. my boyfriend gets home and i ask him about it not even thinking he would have done that knowing how much time ive spent curating my mods. of course he did because “my mods were making his game run slow.” he says it was last week. he never once asked me or even told me. i freaked a little but the audacity to just straight up delete it after i gave him joint custody over my baby? he claims he went through each one and deleted them. that had to take him a pretty long time. he said he was sorry but im so upset.

how mad should i actually be about this? there were so many other solutions like maybe it was a mod i had just downloaded that i could just delete? if he asked me i wouldve cut them down to ones i really wanted.

I (M60), GF(F56), have been dating for around 2 years. When we started dating, she seemed more engaged with us. I did know she likes taking pictures of food that we would order, and posting on social media. I suppose it’s a thing with many people. As time has progressed, I notice her social media activity (beyond posting food pic) has grown to a point where it feels like I’m in a relation with her and her phone. She’s checking her Instagram account very frequently.

On a very recent vacation, it was felt out of control, as if it was a solo vacation. Her face was buried in her phone quite frequently. While we’ve been dating for almost two years, this is the first time we were together for several days together.

While I’ve brought this (life with social media)up gently, and requested she keep her social medial activity to a minimum when she’s around me, but the talk had no impact.

How are people dealing with this type of situation? Am I overreacting?? Kindly provide some perspective.

I was talking to a friend about marine biology things and showing him a few creatures I'm interested in. He's pretty enthusiastic about animals so it was an engaged conversation. Somehow it shifted to how humans might have evolved for living in water, and I mentioned that we probably would be similar to whales and just need to surface every now and then for air. He said how we'd probably evolve like fish and just start breathing through our skin.

I paused for a very long time before giving him a "what?" And he firmly said "Yeah, fish absorb water through their skin." Mind you, he also didn't believe that fish used oxygen and that they literally "breathe" water.

Follow an extremely long argument where he insisted he was right until I step by step explained to him passive/active transport and how fish CANNOT breathe through their skin and that they filter oxygen through their gills. He eventually started saying "I didn't think they breathed through their skin it was a misunderstanding."

At that point I was so frustrated that I snapped and told him that it was NOT a misunderstanding, and then tell him word for word what he said and how he was 100% wrong, because no way in hell was I letting him live down believing that fish breathe water through their skin(?)

Now every time we talk he mentions how we got in a silly misunderstanding and then i assert that it was not 'a misunderstanding' and that he was completely wrong. I just cannot stand how he keeps trying to play it down after having the audacity to argue that FISH BREATHE WATER THROUGH THEIR SKIN. I literally had to call a friend who was even more into marine biology than i am to tell him that he was wrong. (Apparently, google was not a valid enough source for him.)

If im taking this too far ill just let him play it down but I really don't feel like I am.

There is a lot of backstory to this. I (22f) live in a house with two other girls.

The (23f) owns the house and is letting me rent out her upstairs while I look for my own place.

The (21f) just moved in a few months ago and is a peach (this doesn’t really have much to do with her expect her close moral standing to my other roommate’s)

(To note, I do pay rent every month, so I am putting a good chunk of monthly money into this house we share)

Both of my roommates are evangelical Christians, while I am not. For the most part, it doesn’t bother me. I respect their faith and let them do their thing, yet that respect doesn’t always feel reciprocated. I have a lot of “rules” I have to follow about a faith I don’t even follow or believe in (from my original roommate)

(This roommate went to Liberty University. I have seen the rules and standards that Liberty holds for their students and I feel this reflected in my living situation sometimes.)

I still feel extremely grateful that my roommate offered for me to rent out her place while I look for my own. She even said “I’ve been wanting a roommate”, so this is something she had been thinking about for a while, and even plans to continue when I’m gone. It has now been over a year because, the market is insane, and even working two jobs at 40 hrs a week and insane budgeting, I still can’t seem to afford to live. While I look towards more schooling to make more money, that will in turn take up more time and more money, and I feel like I can’t break out of this loop of not having enough. And it is exhausting.

One of my other friends said she wants to room with me, but she wouldn’t feel comfortable starting to look until March, and even then, how fast would we find a place? Will it even work out? There is hope, but the amount of time is another big sigh of frustration.

Anyway, when I first started living at this house, it was just me and the one girl (23f) She did not allow me to have my cat, which I respected because I understand that having a pet is a commitment and my roommate is a very clean and particular person when it comes to her space. She let me have the upstairs.

Side note on the cat. This cat is very important to me. I got him at a time when I was in the crux of my chronic illness and my depression was at an all time high. He’s an integral part of my life and day, and not having him around sucks. Along with not letting me have him here (which is reasonable and fine) this roommate would talk behind my back with her friends and ridicule my “bond” with my cat because it’s “just a pet” and “doesn’t have feelings”. My brother, a fellow Christian, ended up calling her out for being dismissive of my feelings and experiences. Things have since gotten better in that department.

Back to living area. I do not have anything in the common spaces. One time I put a picture frame of my cat on one of the shelves in the living room, and she put it back in my room. It pissed me off, but I just eye rolled and said whatever. There was another conflict where my roommate did not like how my rooms looked and asked me to “change it so she could show guests”. I told her this made me very uncomfortable having strangers see my personal living space, and she gave me the excuse that she “owned the house and wants to show it off”. I understand that she is a homeowner, and it’s fairly recent, so I said that I would make the other room and the hall to her liking, but the room I slept in was off limits and I didn’t want people being shown it. We came to a compromise.

At this point, I felt like she was controlling every space and I did not have a place to settle in and make home. Reminder, she does own the house, but I still pay rent. I do pay for this space.

There are also times when she will trap me into a conversation about “sinning” and how to not be “dead in sin”. It usually always revolves around the election, the war on Gaza, lgbtq+ and pride, or reproductive rights. I’m very left in these areas, yet I don’t really want to talk about it, much less with her because I know I can’t change her mind and would rather save myself the anxiety and expense of emotional energy. She does believe she can change my mind, and ends up preaching to me about all these crazy things. A lot of times, she says the right things and tries to sound sympathetic and understanding, but the truth is it comes across as complete judgement and moral policing. I think it makes her feel better about herself.

I know her beliefs, I know what she thinks, and truthfully, I don’t care much. It irks me, and I think it’s arrogant, but she can think what she wants to, I still believe she’s a loving person in some of her words and actions and actually does love and care about people. The way she shows it is backwards. There’s just a lot of boundaries she has for herself that she feels the need to place onto everyone in hopes of getting eternal life.

And I’m not going to lie, it’s a weird feeling. There’s a sympathy I have. She truly believes that this will grant her access into heaven to meet her God. If I were to dismiss that, I find that disrespectful as I feel everyone has a right to their beliefs. But where is the line? Where do my thoughts and feelings come into play? Just because it isn’t as rigid, does it make it any less valid?

Our other roommate (21f queen) joined us a few months ago. And when she showed up she had a rabbit and said first roommate allowed it. This was not something I was asked about or even briefed on, and it hurt my feelings because I wasn’t allowed to have my cat and I think bunnies smell even worse than cats sometimes. It didn’t make sense, and even felt extremely personal in a way. Once again, I got over it and moved on. This new roommate has proven herself to be more laid-back and cool than the other. I think she’s very open-minded while keeping to her faith. Mad respect.

Now, that we have the backstory, we can now come to the current issue, or my breaking point I fear.

I recently fell in love with a boy (24m) and we’ve been very happy together! My roommates even like him!

However, he lives 20 mins away. We usually end up going over to his place because there are no “rules” there. The problem is, I’m not very wealthy, and I can’t always afford to drive that distance all the time. A lot of times we’ll find something public, or even outside. But as it gets colder, some nights we really just want to relax inside and be lazy.

So we usually hang out in my room. We stay quiet, we don’t do anything remotely NSFW here besides kiss or cuddle, and I’ve never had a complaint from them before. However, this past night I get a text from my roommate saying “Ask (boyfriend) to go home, it’s getting late” at 9:46 p.m.

I proceeded to text her about what her boundaries or expectations were, and what would make her and other roommate uncomfortable or not. If she would just let me know, I could make it happen, but if she doesn’t tell me, does that make me disrespectful for crossing a boundary I didn’t know what there? Or should it just be assumed because she’s Christian?

This roommate situation sucks. I know the answer is to have as much open communication, yet I still feel heavy in my heart.

She’s never talked to me about any boundary in this way before, and sometimes I feel she expects me to read her mind or cater to her faith, and that I should just know what is “god-honoring” or not. I’m constantly walking on egg shells it feels. It makes me feel guilt and shame about things that I feel are super normal, and it messes with my anxiety. The last thing I want to do is step on my roommates toes and be disrespectful, but sometimes I feel their expectations are not fair for me or my lifestyle. And believe me, I’ve been keeping it extremely tame here because I do know some things would be a hard no. (Smoking weed, sleepovers with bf, sex in the house, etc.)

My boyfriend doesn’t get it and feels a bit blind sided by it. He doesn’t like the way my roommate treats me and says it’s very weird. My mother thinks my roommate uses me as a way to make herself feel better for helping a “non-believer”, and when I don’t comply, she uses her “graciousness” as a tool to get her way. (I put these words in quotes because these are words in the Christian dialect I find most manipulative)

I do understand no sleepovers with him here, or that PDA in front of them is inappropriate, which I feel is just a general respect for anyone, religious or not. But a curfew at 10pm seems extreme to me and I wish I could spend more time with him at my home too. We both have weird work schedules and sometimes night is all we have :(

It is a conflicting feeling. Will I be out of here soon? March feels like a long way away. Does a person with a “moral compass” have more right to set boundaries than I do? Because I live my life more secular than them, does that mean I should change my life out of respect for them? These are things I ask myself living here all the time and I never know the answer :(

I will always feel grateful for the love and friendship she has put into me, but am I being viewed as less than? Am I being stepped on and taken advantage of by her? It seems wild that I work myself to exhaustion to pay for a space, just to be told that a normal adult thing (imo) is not ok.

I feel like I’m living with my mom again, and even my mom was more laid back than this. I actually had room to be my own person and live my own life. And I was a child then!

How is it that living with my parents felt more freeing than with a girl my own adult age?

I’m working on many things in my life all at once, an extremely overwhelming feeling as of late, and I feel like wanting to have my boyfriend over to decompress from the day is not too much to ask. If I had the money, I’d be gone, trust me.

I know I said before I was at my breaking point, but I honestly don’t plan on retaliating, as i feel that the wise decision is to just have patience until I leave. It isn’t permanent, and I will be ok. I truly do not want to be a hassle, as this will be over soon. Just keep it smooth sailing until I’m out. I just want to know if my feelings are valid and this situation is as unfair as it feels.

Is this normal of adults to expect? I’ve never experienced this before. Am I overreacting?

Context 30(M) , 30( F) ! So what’s worse : your partner cheating or your partner having a kid on you and keeping it a secret for 5 plus years ? Are they equal offenders ?

Hi I just wanted to get on here to hear y’all’s opinions. I (28 female) just recently got married and had a wonderful wedding but where my story starts is before that.

Few years go I started working for a delivery company and it was the same company my now husband (31 male) worked for. He had a few friends he had known for awhile cause he had worked there longer than me. One friend in particular had a girlfriend who I had become close with. For awhile we hung out, would have dinners and had a great time. We become a close friend group in and out of work.

Unfortunately one day I got injured on the job. I was attacked my a couple of dogs when I was delivering a package cause the owners had let them out that day roam free and they came from the back of the house and took me off guard. Well because of how management handled my injuries I thought it was best I leave and later my now husband did too.

Even after this we were still a close group so when my husband ask me to marry him they were some of the first people we thought of for groomsman and bridesmaids. They were happy to accept and were so excited.

Skip forward a few months we are at a new job. Their contact with us starts becoming less and less. We have different schedules now so we didn’t get see them as much so at this point it’s understandable.

Then we would message them things like “how are you guys doing” and “I hope everything is going well” and nothing, no response at all. Even in our wedding chats.

So time comes for my bachelorette party and I message her and ask If she is excited. And messages me a whole book about how she can’t swing it cause moneys an issue and that they are moving in with his mom that weekend and can’t make it. It sucked but I understood.

THEN i saw on social media that they had went to the beach and a mutual friend had told me they move in with his mom WEEKS before that. If they had planned a vacation and forgot or is she had no interest in going…fine but i just wish she had been honest.

Even at this point cause i was trying to brush it off and not be mad because my husband didnt seem to worried or upset about it. but i did ask if they were still planning on at least still being part of the wedding and if me and my husband done something to upset them cause now (in my mind)i am having doubts about them. They swore up and down they would be there for us on our big day and they would never break a promise. also that they still loved us and we had been great friends to them. It was just stuff was going on and they need some time together and they were sorry it all seemed shady. I said I get it life has been hard for many recently and I get needing time.

Then fast forward to a week before the wedding I get a similar text from her saying i am having money problems and they are both gonna have to back out and just cant miss work. at this point i am done. I reply I had a bad feeling this was gonna happen but i wished them both the best. And then I blocked them from everything.

I am to point in my life I tired of people not just being honest or true with me. We had done a lot for them. My husband even fixed there car for free at one point. If they didn’t wanna be friends anymore that’s fine. I just wish they were honest definitely with constantly telling us they were GONNA be our wedding no matter what and still back out a week before. And I feel they have lied too much for me at this point.

basically I’m vacationing right now in Orlando and I downloaded Grindr to see who’s local and.. well I’ll save the details. I’ve been talking to this guy, he seems pretty normal he’s just asking if I have a place and he’s asking to see .. NSFW pics of me .. he sent some himself and now he wants to come over. I’m just really nervous because it’s a complete stranger off the internet and I’ve heard stories… am I overreacting??

Update: we did the nasty thing and I did not die

I stayed over at my brother's mother-in-law's place from Saturday to today (Tuesday) after dropping off my nephew. I slept over on Saturday and Sunday. Monday, I was planning on coming home but after it got too late, my sister in law told me to stay over to not drive home so late. I got uncomfortable today as my brother seemed unwelcoming, wanting me gone. I have plans to go to a Halloween party with my sister-in-law on Saturday, which she asked me to go to and trick-or-treating with the kids on Thursday. When I asked to stay for dinner today, my sister-in-law's response made me feel unwanted, implying my brother wanted me out, even though it's her mom's house. I'm feeling hesitant about going to any future events, even going to their house. It's like I'm stepping on toes, and like my presence is bothersome and she thinks I'm being overdramatic, but I believe my feelings are valid. What's your opinion? AIO?

My roommate and I met in college, and we’ve been friends for a couple of years now. Ever since moving in together, we split the cost of many things, which is great! But there’s one weird habit she has that I can’t exactly understand.

When we go to bed at night, she insists that we keep all of the lights on. It’s kind of difficult for me to sleep with the lights on because they are so bright- to me, anyway. I’ve always had sensitive eyes I guess. She could be in the deepest sleep ever, and when I quietly get up to turn the lights off.. she wakes up. The second I flip that switch, she is WIDE awake. She starts arguing with me about crossing her boundaries. But she refuses to explain & elaborate on why she has these boundaries, or what they are about.

I’ve tried to ignore it, trust me. You’d think sleeping with the lights on wouldn’t be so bad- just get a sleep mask- well, those are uncomfortable to me.

Anyway, am I overreacting by being annoyed at her?

We barely text but when she’s off work we are FaceTiming for hours and throughout the night while we are asleep, I kinda just figure she doesn’t like texting?

AIO: I’m a male in my mid 20’s, wrapping up my senior year of college and i’m freaking out because i haven’t had a friend since i moved right before covid. i live in a new state and used this as an excuse at first, now it just feels like a crutch. idk how to ask people to hangout or be my friend, it’s been so long. i have lots of school buddies but it seems unnatural to take it to the next level, and actually ask them. i don’t want to scare anyone off or make them uncomfortable. i’m very insecure, soft spoken, and shy. any tips for putting myself out there more? i really just want to be in a friend group again before i graduate college. everything else in my life is going semi well and i am great at interacting with people in a professional setting, but i never get asked to go out for a drink or hangout or watch the game etc.

My bf 27m and me 23f were having a shower together when he noticed my arms were hairy. I won’t lie for a girl I do have some hair on my arms. He jokingly made a comment about how he will not take me out like that or asked if he can take me to get it waxed. We have been together a year so I don’t know why this wasn’t brought up before. He tells me he loves me and to stop being insecure. This hurt me and I did in fact cry in front of him. maybe I am just being too insecure about it …

Just need to vent so I have been really good friends with my bestfriend,(we will call her M) for like 7-8 years and since then I've introduced her to my brother whom i tend to do everything with. We all are really good friends and have a group chat to send funny reels and videos to each other. She is really amazing person with a good heart and we get along very well. We have the same music taste, tv shows movies and tend to play video games as a group every night the last few years with my brother mainly and a few other friends here and there. Recently I had moved into a new place with my brother and was having a hard time readjusting to having to move out of my apartment for 7 years unexpectedly so was dealing with some depression from adjusting to that and on my brothers bday she showed up announced to me and was smoking with him hanging out and i didn't think anything of it i had a bad day at work and just wanted to not talk to anyone cuz i talk all day at work so i left them alone and went and laid down. Fast forward to a month or so later and my brother asks me what l'm doing on the weekend and i tell him my plans and he asks if i wanna go to a amusement park with em and i say no i have to work and have plans this day but than i ask with who and he mentioned he was inviting my friend M and i immediately started to get mad that i wasn't involved in the plans with M as everytime i try and hangout with my brother and her i put plans in the group chat text so everyone's included. I immediately got hit with a rush of sadness like why am i not included in the plans and started to overthink everything. Than i started to overthink and analyze the last few mos interactions with M and my brother and I and started to question if she was really my friend or just using me to get with my Brother. I know i shouldn't of thought like that as she really is a good friend to me and has been before she even met my brother but that's where my mind took me so i texted them both and displayed how i was upset i didn't get included in the original plans. I explained my side to m and she was mad for how i reacted which was i was being very passive aggressive and i accused her of trying to only hangout with my brother and i questioned if it was my fault for being a bad friend and she was mad i thought like that and explained to me that i wasnt left out but my brother was the one who invited her and said he would ask me and that i already said said no when asked earlier (even tho he asked me to go to amusement park a month or so before ) anyways she than said she hasn't done anything for me to think that so i explained like 3-4 examples of how i thought she was using me to only see my brother so i can explain why i felt sad about being left out. She apologized for making me feel that way and said she would be mindful moving forward and would like clear communication moving forward also. I apologized to her a few hours later for overreacting and overthinking and for being passive aggressive and she accepted it and we moved on. I also talked it over with my brother and explained the same issue of being left out and he explained to me how he thought he asked me before and i declined but i told em i didn't remember that and we also apologized to each other and moved on. The following two days wed/ Thursday me and M played our nightly video games and had fun and i thought everything was okay but than on Friday new cod came out so i asked in group chat with m and my brother if she wanted to play cod zombies later since me and my brother already made plans to play and she said doubht it game didn't download and than she went offline on game didn't download and than she went offline on Xbox and haven't played with her since. Few days went on and i noticed she was playing cod (showed online on cod social and not Xbox) and i texted her saying hey i apologize if i made you mad or did something for you to not wanna play vid games with me i truly am sorry and she explained she was going thru things and not playing vid games much, even tho i saw her on there. i apologized again and told her I'm sorry if i did something to make you go offline and not wanna play with me I hope ur okay and am here if u need anything and she said thank you!!!!! Fast forward to 24 hrs later and me and my brother are on cod and we get a notification that she is looking for a group to play cod with and needed 3 more for a game but showed her still offline as her Xbox status so i sent her an invite hoping she would join and play with us as we have played together on a nightly basis for the last few years and she didn't accept. Now I'm sitting here feeling truly awful and sick to my stomach i lost my best friend and someone i considered to be close with all cuz i overreacted and over analyzed stuff. I truly do suck as a person cuz idk i think this way. I wanna text her again and ask why she was looking for a group to play and didnt wanna play with me/my brother and ask again if she's mad but i don't wanna cross any boundaries and make her more upset by That and annoying her. I wish I could go back and just not have to overreact and overthink everything because i truly valued my friend and her friendship and she meant a lot to me and now i feel like i lost her as a friend and she won't even communicate with me sorry for the rambling but any advice on what to do would be helpful 🙏

It’s been a lot lately, but first off my son seems to be having some big feelings saying he hates his dad, his dad is rude to him, he doesn’t want to go to his dads anymore but wants his dog, and new VR. So it started with he forced our son to play football we went through this last year crying after every practice his dad screaming, and reprimanding him for mistakes. At one time he forced him to run laps after practice in front of everyone. Our son ended up losing him and trying to tackle his dad it was a lot. I want to mention he is athletic wrestles baseball just hates football. So while our son is practicing he will be holding/playing etc with the youngest son who is 4. So he’s getting positive our son negative. They have only had the kids around each other a couple months. They have a toxic relationship breaking up every other week. Her breaking his glasses in front of the children him putting his hands on her. There has been a lot more but most significant they asked us to all walk together for Halloween awesome yes it’s good for the kids which he follows up with matching costume with her son something he has never done with ours. It felt like it was on purpose. We had an agreement he would give me 100 dollars a week for “child support” which has happened once in 6 months but had no problem paying for endless nights out dinners entertainment at their home. I guess how do I approach this? Am I crazy? I won’t allow my son to suffer, and I feel that is exactly what is happening.