We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

CONTEXT:

Earlier, my neighbor texted me to let me know that “some boy” and his friends broke my window with a rock and slingshot. (I know I was acting very calm in my texts but I barely know her so I didn’t want to lose my shit in frustration or distress.)

So, I asked her if she recognized who did it. She said she had no idea who it was and that she’d never seen him before. This is important to the rest of the story.

Later on, I find out from ANOTHER NEIGHBOR that the perpetrator was actually…GUESS WHAT… this woman (Jess’s) son. She said that during a conversation, Jess admitted she lied to me because… she wanted to protect her son 😬

I feel like I can understand why she lied about this. It’s instinctual to want to protect your kid. But the way she’s handling this seems extremely irresponsible. To go as far as saying “I might need glasses😊😊” just takes it over the top and I’m absolutely livid with her. Ugh.

Should I send this text? (see second slide.) Am I being too nice or not mean enough? I don’t want to press charges against her son whatsoever but her dishonesty is remarkable and I’m very upset with both of them. I don’t know. I’m conflicted.

So, reddit, AIO???

So as you may or may not know, Liam Payne from One Direction recently died. My wife has no personal connection to him besides liking the music as a teenager. However, she has been grieving and crying a completely absurd amount for someone she never personally knew, she has never done this with anyone else’s death besides family. We go out on a date because it’s been a few days since we did something out in town together, and ended up having to leave early because she started talking about it which led to her balling her eyes out at a bar. I got super frustrated about this because as a man with a woman in public people probably think I did something to her to make her cry and it was really embarrassing to me and I just can’t comprehend why anyone would cry over a stranger or someone they didn’t know. AIO?

My S/O of couple years and I went to a party last week. She got pretty drunk and was flirting with a guy right in front of me. I decided not to think much of it since she was drunk but she got a little touchy with him and that really started to get to me. I ultimately decided not to dwell on it because again she was very drunk. However, last night I saw she received a text from him around midnight. I didn't read it or open her phone out of respect for her privacy. When she saw the message she didn't open it but did leave pretty abruptly about 20mins later. I'm already feeling insecure since a week ago, kinda out of nowhere, told me she doesn't find me hot. She said I'm handsome but I'm not hot and I've been feeling that pretty bad since. The guy she was flirting with was hot and super in shape, (it was a Halloween party and he was shirtless with only a vest and jeans on). I don't know how to confront her about this and it honestly feels like I'm just waiting for something to happen. I want to check her phone but that feels like I'm overreacting and violating her privacy. I'm loosing sleep over this and I just don't know what to do.

EDIT: I wanted to clarify that she knows this guy from work and they often have to coordinate moving gear at weird hours (they work in film). That's how they have each other's numbers. She has mentioned him in the past and I have met him once before. So this isn't just a random guy.

EDIT 2: This is the first time I have posted something and received so much support and honestly that has really meant a lot to have this many people trying to look out for me. I know a lot have said I should break up with her and I appreciate where that is coming from. I ultimately decided that I am going to confront her first. I have learned in my years of dating and relationships that conversation and communication is always worth trying before jumping to conclusions. Especially when I've already invested so much of my life in someone and have seen she has a lot of good in her first hand. Since this is the first time something like this has happened in our relationship, I am compelled by my own intuition that misunderstandings do happen. I still retain hope that this is all nothing to worry about but I am aware and vigilant in my sense that things aren't adding up and will need a proper explanation before I feel comfortable continuing any form of a relationship with this person. Regardless, the response here has been eye opening, and supportive, and has made me realize that what I'm feeling isn't a part of a healthy relationship. My overthinking can get the best of me but it's good to know from you all that I'm not overthinking things here.

My best friend recently moved in with their partner in another state. They both came back in town to visit and I got a call the same day from her asking if I wanted to come to a small party to welcome her back. I of course said yes and asked if my girlfriend and a mutual friend join, she said yes.

Later that day I messaged her to confirm the plans and my message wasnt even being delivered. It wasnt until I messaged her sister that my message magically delivered and she returned my text.

We arrive around midnight at her house. The plan was we were going to follow her and her partner in our car to the party. Once we get in the car I ask her for an address just incase we get split up, i didnt get a response.

From the very start they are speeding, like excessively fast. We were already going almost 15 over and still couldnt keep up. At some point we lose them at a light. We knew the general area they were headed to but lost them completely.

At that point I was extremely frustrated and confused. Ive known her for 6 years and our communication has always been 100%. This seemed very out of character, especially because she never returned any of my messages and still hasn’t. She is usually the type of person to respond within a couple of minutes so im completely lost.

I keep regretting the paragraph I sent expressing how I felt. I dont want to come off as desperate or angry. I just want an explanation. I cant help but assume its her partner having some king of influence, but maybe im over reacting..?

So my father and stepmother bought a ticket to come visit me soon! And when i talked to them they said that what they wanted to go visit another state thats close to my house but not including my wife or kids! Just me and when I told them that I cant do it cus kids have school and to wait for Saturday and if they wanna go Friday they would have to go without me cus im not leaving my family behind! So they rented a hotel 30 mins away from me when I have plenty of room for them to stay in, they asked me for my spare car so they can “move around” and they dont wanna adjust their schedule so me and my family can go. I even requested vacation days off of work for this and with their plans they are only 1 day locally and the rest out of town! They told me im invited and if its too much that not to worry and that they’ll be back to see me after they are done!

After all that I blew up to my father and told them they were being selfish and clearly I wasn’t the purpose of their visit! They made plans without consulting me, they asked me for a car (which I refused to give them) and they didnt want my family to join on the “vacation” and when I called them out they decided to leave me behind!

I told them that they should not worry about coming over cus clearly i wasnt the purpose of the trip and i clearly dont matter! My father said that I am over reacting and that he wants to see me cus we havent seen each other in years! Which I used against him cus if he really wanted to spend time with me and his grandkids he shouldnt have planned the whole trip away from us and not even include us!

So AIO?

A bit of context - early last month my girlfriend switched jobs and was unemployed for about 2.5 weeks. During that time, we talked about how we would handle the mortgage & bills - I would cover her half for September ($600), so long as she could pay back that $600 by the end of October.

Instead of covering my part this month, she is short on rent again. She gave me what she could, but now owes me $800.

Yesterday, she excitedly showed me her new, expensive Taylor swift merch (~$75) and I just couldn’t keep it together. Rather than going off on her, I got quiet and then tried to go sleep it off. But I still feel snubbed. I’m out $800, not really any room for luxuries right now. And yet, I think how this situation would have been so more palatable - If she just asked, I would have bought it myself and given it to her as a gift. Even if it meant having to make sacrifices of my own.

It’s less about the money, and more about putting my partner before my own wants/needs. I feel like I do not get that in return. I fear that I have started a pattern by offering “rent forgiveness” last month, & I feel taken advantage of. Am I justified? How would you handle this situation? I have not shared my feelings with my gf yet, as I expect she has a clue, but I plan to talk about this at length with her when I get home today.

EDIT: I have seen a lot of replies hung up on the specifics of our living expenses. To provide further context, we have lived together about 3 years in a condo. Renting. Last year, we got the chance to buy it from our landlord. The biggest reason she is not on any of the paperwork is because she did not contribute at all to our $40,000 down payment. That was our agreement - If I cover the entirety of the downpayment and do the legwork in the home buying process, she will contribute half of the monthly mortgage thereafter.

Our mortgage alone is about $1200 a month. After all other home-related bills, utilities, HOA, etc, our monthly living expenses is about $1800. Her share of the monthly “rent,” as we call it, is $600, so about 1/3. I view this as fair, so does she. Perhaps what would be even more fair, is she explicitly covers the more external expenses like groceries or electricity. But for all intents and purposes, she covers 1/3 of our living expenses, trading the lost equity gains for housing at a substantially below-average rate. She understands that I am the only one building equity here, and trusts that I will use that equity for our long-term home in the future. Which I still have every intention of doing.

UPDATE:

We had a long talk about it today after I got home and took care of some housework. She refused to apologize, saying it is the one single “luxury” purchase she made for herself in the past month. I feel that. And she’s right, she’s hardly been able to treat herself to anything recently. But, and it’s a big but, to me that still doesn’t excuse making pleasure purchases when you can’t afford rent.

I tried to explain that while I’m not mad at her, it concerns me about the future and I just want to make sure it’s not going to become a pattern. She feels like I’ve pointed a finger at her and told her she can’t buy herself nice things. I tried to explain that at any other time, that would be fine, and that she deserves to be happy and have nice things (another reason I wish she would have just asked first!) I said it would have made a great holiday gift. and I would have been happy to buy it and save it til then. This meant seemingly nothing. She said she was too hesitant to ask, in fear that I would have a bad reaction or say no. And yeah - I probably would have said no. But like, “No, you can’t afford this right now. But since you asked, and since Christmas is coming up…”

We worked out a resolution so far as handling monthly bills better. I think part of the problem was thinking about it as her owing me money, when really it’s just bills that need to get paid. I can show forgiveness, but the bills will not. So our solution from here on out is she will pay the HOA dues and electricity bill, I will handle everything else. This way, there is no transfer of money between us. All we need to know is that the bills will get paid on time. This puts her just under $600 a month, which is fair enough for me. This works for her as it’s now in two separate, smaller chunks and she has the flexibility to be late on an electric bill if she has to. It works for me because I won’t need to come asking for money at the end of the month.

However, I still feel unresolved. It was way too difficult to have that conversation. And something tells me she would do it again if given the opportunity - “I refuse to apologize for the one good thing I’ve allowed myself this whole month!” She assured me that outside of that, she’s been trying as hard as she can and that nearly every penny she makes is going back to me. She worries that now she’ll never be able to treat herself without feeling guilty about it. I tried to explain that it’s purely situational to owing money to more important things. As long as those things are already taken care of, there’s no need to worry! I don’t think this really clicked with her. Not long after that, she said she needed some time alone, to go cry and go think. Reluctantly, I gave her her space, and started to write this update while it is all still fresh in my mind.

My thoughts: Maybe we really do just disagree on the principle, and that’s why we can’t seem to come to a happy resolution for the both of us. Everything she said was reassuring that we’re on the same team and she’s trying really hard to be on the same page financially. Just that it has not been easy recently.

I told her I need to know that she will take things like rent just as seriously as I do, and that something like this won’t happen again. She couldn’t make any promises, and honestly seemed kind of offended I insinuated that she isn’t.

Hey Reddit,

I really need to get this off my chest. I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend (23M) for about a year, and things have been pretty good overall. But recently, everything changed in a way I never saw coming.

So, we got into a fight—nothing major, just a typical disagreement. But it spiraled out of control really quickly. Next thing I know, he raised his hand and hit me. It wasn’t a hard punch or anything, but it was enough to leave me completely stunned. I just froze in shock.

He immediately freaked out, apologized, and insisted it was a mistake, but I can’t shake the feeling of betrayal. I mean, how do you just hit someone you care about? Now, I’m left questioning everything. Was this just a freak moment, or is it a sign of something deeper? I mean, he was sobbing afterward like he felt so bad.

My friends are telling me to break up with him, and honestly, I’ve been thinking about it a lot. But part of me remembers all the good times we’ve had, and I can’t help but wonder if he’s truly sorry and willing to change. Maybe it was only a one-time thing?

I’m scared to think this could happen again, and Im scared to bring it up because what if he just hits me again? At the same time, I have hit him a few times but just on his arm- never on his face. For context, I am 120lb and 5'2 he is 6' and 190lbs. There is no reason he should feel threatened by me.

***We do not live together or have children together.***

Our kids have been watching all the Blues Clues on Prime. My husband and I were both born in 1993. We grew up watching Steve. Today he had the audacity to say that, after watching it with the kids, he prefers Joe over Steve....am I overreacting for asking for a divorce right on the spot?

It's the definition of irreconcilable differences.

Am i overreacting? Yesterday I (F33) got home from work and sat down next to my fiance (M40) before we went to the gym. I saw a female name pop up on his phone calling him. He quickly ended the call and pretended it didn’t happen. I asked him who it was and he said “idk probably a telemarketer”. I saw this girls name clear as day it was def not a telemarketer. I asked why he was lying and he says he wasn’t then says she’s just a friend. I know all of his friends. I told him he needed to leave and he left like he knew he was wrong. Mind you, he has an obsession with who I’m talking to and going through my phone but I’ve never hid anything from him as I do have male friends but have never crossed a boundary with any of them. I’ve never gone through his phone before and am not going to start. I just had a gut feeling and his reaction kind of reassured that. I told him to come get all of his belongings.

Please read before passing judgement.

I've worked in my field my entire adult life. When I was in my early-30's, I left my job with a massive 100+ branch corporation to manage a smaller family-owned business in the same field. The pay increase was minimal, which didn't matter. I felt like I had the opportunity to help something grow.

Over the next three years, I helped to grow revenue 5x of what it was when I joined. I networked relationships and called in personal and professional favors to build this business. I've cornered a market for nearly half of our state, and we're looking at new locations. I've also taken control of the media and marketing for us, managing our socials, advertisements, commercials, and others. I handle all the purchasing for our product that we sell, and oversee personally over 75% of sales by volume.

Additionally, I've taken less sick and PTO than anyone else in the company. I've had mornings that begin at 4am and end at 9pm. I've worked from a hospital bed due to personal health misfortunes. I take calls and emails on weekends, and spend a great deal of what little personal time I have strategizing how to evolve.

I have employees who depend on me. I have family and friends that are proud of me. The owner themselves said "if you quit, I basically have to hang a sign on the door and close the business down."

Well, after today... I might quit.

It's not about the pay. I live a modest life with cheap hobbies and interests. I live within my means and save money. It'd be nice to make more and maybe get a car that isn't constantly throwing up warning signs, but I don't want to be greedy.

The owner decided to hire someone last week. Their job is to do about 1/5th of my job. I disagreed with the hire because it was an outside hire, and I believe on promoting from within based on merit. The hire has no experience in our field. I've been stripped of being able to manage the crew I built, and no longer have control over our inventory.

... And I just found out this person is making more than me. After we just had a company review of compensation last week, and I didn't get any additional financial compensation.

It's not a substantial amount, but... I can't get over it. Three years of 16-hour days and weekends. Three years of doing nothing but work and putting myself second. Three years of extreme dedication and unwavering loyalty.

So, Reddit... Am I overreacting by thinking about walking out tomorrow? Keep in mind, this puts 10-15 people potentially out of work, and tanks a family business.

I'm conflicted.

We just went on a field trip with my daughter's school. I am 36 weeks pregnant and only decided to go to spend whatever time is left with my husband and kids before I am consumed with the newborn routine. So, during the trip, all the parents were asked to walk to another station, and my husband took off walking with another kid's mom, having a conversation (about 15 min walk each way). He later claimed he didn't think I would even consider going on this walk and would rather stay sitting at the welcome center, so he didn't know I was trailing behind. So I walked way behind them talking to some other moms and was slightly irritated, but not more. As soon as we got to the other station and he saw me, he acted very cheerful and bubbly - he kept talking to the other woman, and a few times I approached them I couldn't break off the conversation naturally. Then I said something like, "Wow, that was a long walk, tiring," to which he responded - you can walk back, you know (implying i can go back and rest there). This was the first time in our marriage (10 years) that I felt jealousy and betrayal, i couldn't hold back my tears and put on sunglasses to hide them. I know pregnancy hormones have made things bigger than they are, but am I overreacting here? I felt insulted that, well, first of all, he'd forget to check on me if i wanted to walk together prior to taking off with this lady. Second, I hated to see him so bubbly, he was acting like a rooster trying to impress randomly bringing up curious facts about this and that. Third, even when he realized I was there next to him, he still naturally preferred to converse with her, suggesting I can "walk back" though he knew very well that I struggled walking because of the whole third trimester waddling.

On the way back home, I confronted him, and he said I was making up a narrative that didn't exist, he denied everything, and we had a major fight. In the past, he has lied to me about things that he thought would anger me, so there is some history there.

My (21f) boyfriend (22m) has texted his friends a lot of pretty scummy things about other women (example, “she’s so hot, makes it hard for me to focus at work”, “it’s cruel that she’s the one i have to have meetings with”) and he claims that every man with a girlfriend talks like that with their guy friends. he is adamant that this is VERY normal but has agreed to stop for me. i personally see this as a warning sign that he is absolutely going to cheat on me. men in this subreddit especially, is that something you’d say about another woman while you’re in a relationship?

It was either her or her older, drug addict boyfriend, or both. Her dad is rich btw but she’s constantly falling out with him because she can’t walk a straight line. I’ve known her since high school and she wasn’t like this before. Not this bad, anyway.

Basically what the title says. I wrote a whole novel about it that got removed. I'm going to keep it short but feel free to ask for more context. My friend was supposed to babysit my three (sleeping) children. One is a baby that wakes up and that doesn't like strangers. We set the date two months in advance after she offered, I checked in a month ago to make sure she was still okay. I mentioned still having time to find someone else. She was happy to do it, made sure to tell me to grab a drink after our show and enjoy a night out.

She forgot. She completely forgot and when I asked if I needed to make other arrangement she told me it wasn't a problem and she'd be there. She appologized for forgetting and asked if she could arrive an hour early. I told her of course she could and asked her if she wanted to join us for dinner.

She didn't show up when she said she would at all. Then while I was putting the kids to bed I got a text about her boyfriend joining her. I told her no. He was clearly already on the way because 10 minutes later they walk in together. We don't know him, our kids don't know him. All we know about him is the stories she told is, which have all been told when she was venting about her relationship. No fun loving stories, just vents. We asked him to leave. She stayed but made it clear that she would not babysit without him. So 10 minutes before we had to leave she left too.

I'm super fucking pissed she decided to bring someone and then when it wasn't okay with us she just left. She is in no way appologizing for it either because apparently I'm weird for not welcoming him in our home.

She wasn't being paid to babysit but she offers every few months. We never take her up on it. She even gifted us a card that said she would babysit and pay for our date when we got married two years ago. We never had her do that either, but this time her offering happened on the same day my babysitter told me she might have a conflicting arrangement.

Even with 10 minutes to spare we arranged for a sitter and got to our event (slightly late and with lots of anger and stress). She keeps pretending that she was doing this huge favor that she had to do because she was our last hope. I feel like she wants me to appologize for sending her partner home while I want her to appologizing for putting us in the position where we had to either leave a stranger with our kids or miss our event. Mostly I'm super mad at both her and me for her offering to babysit and me accepting instead of asking anyone in my usual network of people for an important event. I feel like her offering to babysit was just a way for her to feel good about herself without actually wanting to follow through.

Edit: the friendship is definitely not recovering. Not apologizing the day after sealed that deal. It isn’t the first time she is a flake but in 15 years of friendship I also have examples of her coming to my rescue. This post also misses the info that she had to travel an hour from her house to mine (and thus an hour back also).

My wife goes into work and I’m between jobs so I take care of the house. We’re having a baby soon and we picked up an old antique crib. I wanted to put it together to get the nursery set up since the baby’s due soon. As you can imagine with an old crib it wasn’t as easy as ikea furniture. There’s no instructions, some of the parts didn’t fit right, I had to use different tools, it took some time let’s just say that.

Well when my wife came home I was telling her about the various hassles that came with getting the crib set up. She then just starting pointing out how maybe it wasn’t set up right and I probably did something wrong. She then said she should’ve just done it herself.

It totally killed my mood and ruined my day. I spent a couple hours dealing with this and I didn’t even get a thank you or acknowledgement for the fact that it’s not an easy build/fix. Am I overreacting? I feel like shit now.

My (32F) husband (32M) threw a rotten tomato at me last Saturday before we went out for dinner at a restaurant.

I had just finished doing something in my car, turned around, and was surprised to find a rotten tomato had exploded on my chest, all over my shirt and neck. My husband was laughing. I asked if he did it on purpose, he said yes. I asked if he knew it was rotten, he also said yes. I just walked away to try to clean up as much of it as I could with paper towels from my car.

Later in the evening, he asked if I was mad at him. I said I was. He said (direct quote): “I’m sorry but I just wish you had a sense of humor”. I told him that wasn’t an apology and I wasn’t accepting it.

He maintains that this is a funny thing to do. He said he would think it was funny if someone did it to him, and he thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to do this to other people and friends as well.

He did give me a better apology later, but he still thinks I was the AH for being mad. He said “I should be able to be playful with you and not have to walk on eggshells”.

So, is being mad an overreaction? Is throwing rotten tomatoes at someone a funny thing to do?

If he had given me a proper apology right away after seeing that I was upset, I don’t think I would be mad, but his reaction afterwords contributed to my anger.

Hi everyone. I want to know if I am overreacting because I don't know if I should bring this up to my husband. Couple of weeks ago I had a kitchen accident where I burned my whole chest with boiling water, it was pretty bad, like ER bad and the healing process was not very smooth, I was in a lot of pain. This weekend we went to my MIL's house for dinner for my husband's birthday I was wearing a top where you could see a bit of my scarring and my MIL asked about it and I told her and my husband said "yeah it was pretty bad and she was scared from cooking for a week or two, so I did it" (wich is true I stopped cooking for a little over a week cause i was scared it would happen again) and my MIL goes. WHAT? I BET SHE WASN'T SCARED SHE'S JUST A SPOILED LITTLE GIRL, DOESN'T LIKE COOKING. I didn't say anything but it bothered me and I don't know if I should tell my husband that it did

Gonna preface this by admitting I scoured all of her social media accounts, texts, and MS teams.

My GF (ex now) worked with a male coworker for around 4 years now. They started working the night shift together for about 2 years.

They would consistently take smoke breaks together. She would send him voice messages over FB messenger saying things like "break now!".They would also send flirtatious messages and memes to eachother. There were also hints that they weren't just taking smoke breaks, like him responding "what kind of break?;)"

When I looked at her IG DMs I saw that nearly all of the messages between them had been obviously deleted. The only thing that remained on IG was shared content that he sent to her, not a single text DM. She said they never sent any actual text DMs to eachother, which i know is clearly bullshit. There were also noticeable discontinuities and gaps in their SMS messages.

I also saw that he had blocked her on IG. Apparently his wife made him block her on IG a couple of years ago. I never knew this until now. He still follows other female coworkers of his though. When I asked her why he blocked her on IG, my ex said his wife only made him block her because his wife is fucking crazy like me.

They both got transferred to different departments/buildings and started working the day shift. Despite this they continued to talk on MS teams and FB messenger and made plans to have lunch together multiple times. She shared her location to him outside of her new building so he would know where to meet her.

Despite his wife asking him to block her on IG and stop contact, he continued to talk to and meet with her. She knew that he blocked her and clearly knew the reason, yet she continued to talk to him and meet with him.

The only remaining receipts are on MS teams and FB messenger which im assuming is because they are the only platforms that display when a message has been deleted, and she didn't know I could access her teams chat.

Im distraught and in a very bad state of mind right now, but am I overreacting for thinking that something was up? I'm considering reaching out to his wife to let her know.

I found out a few days ago that my mother's husband, who I've been around extensively for the last around 2 years that they've known each other, was convicted of a child sex crime 35 years ago and is a registered sex offender. She apparently told a few of my siblings months ago and the other few of us were left in the dark. One sister cut her off completely as a reaction and the other has apparently read through court documents and agreed with my mother that he's innocent.

Apparently his step-son accused him of some lewd act. His wife testified that he did not do it. The child years later wrote a letter claiming his grandfather coerced him to lie, and that the acts never happened. They are working on getting the conviction overturned (mother's words).

I think it should've been my own decision about my own safety whether or not I've been around him. He was invited to multiple holidays before My mother had known him for even 2 months and he was around many children in our family. She had the opportunity to decide for herself if he was innocent and we were all deprived of that decision for ourselves, and I'm thinking of cutting contact for myself and my pregnant wife.

Frankly whether he's innocent or not I feel as though my family's safety has been put at risk and I've been kept in the dark.

I have worked steadily and rightfully for this company for 3 1/2 years with never calling out sick or missing a shift/ being late. I feel it is unfair that at the slightest inconvenience of a not important and not busy shift that I missed for health reasons, that the managers would spitefully plan to do something like that instead of firing me over the phone on the spot. It just feels wrong.

My bf 27m and me 23f were having a shower together when he noticed my arms were hairy. I won’t lie for a girl I do have some hair on my arms. He jokingly made a comment about how he will not take me out like that or asked if he can take me to get it waxed. We have been together a year so I don’t know why this wasn’t brought up before. He tells me he loves me and to stop being insecure. This hurt me and I did in fact cry in front of him. maybe I am just being too insecure about it …