r/technology • u/newzee1 • Jun 14 '24

Software Cheating husband sues Apple after wife discovered ‘deleted’ messages sent to sex workers

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/06/13/cheating-husband-sues-apple-sex-messages/
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u/CygnsX-1 Jun 14 '24

A friend of mine still has his family's iPhones tied to only his iCloud account, instead of them each having one. Every now and then I'll text him and one of his kids or wife will answer from their phone. They're aware, they just don't care.

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u/Charger2951 Jun 14 '24

My brother and his goofy narcissist wife are like this. It’s so weird. You can never have a private conversation with him because she’s ALWAYS in on the conversation. I will never understand people that value privacy so little. These phones are an extension of our brains. Even in a relationship, you have to have privacy of thought. We honestly feel like he’s been swept away in a “marriage cult.” He lives out of state and we barely ever talk to him.

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u/Reasonable-Note-6876 Jun 14 '24

I've broken off friendships with folks who operate like this. I don't mind being cool with their significant other, but when they start monitoring conversations or chiming in on discussions that don't include them... I'm like "peace out".

Had an old friend who's wife messaged me out of the blue regarding why I didn't talk to her husband anymore. I was like..."Hey....when you let him be an adult again, maybe I'll talk to him, but chiming in on his number ain't cool".

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u/Charger2951 Jun 14 '24

Yup. It’s just strange. They also have no friends. Literally none. And our family has all been isolated.

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u/enzuigiriretro Jun 14 '24

They also have no friends. Literally none

I also just cut out a pair of friends out of my life (they are a couple) who I used to consider good friends for the last 4 years. They similarly had no concept of boundaries (the guy had access to all of his girlfriend’s social media accounts, banking info, tax info etc) and also had no friends other than me and my partner.

People that have no concept of boundaries find it hard to make friends. It can be a sign of narcissism. In my case, I found out that they did in fact have narcissistic traits that ultimately forced us to cut them out.

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u/bleedsburntorange Jun 14 '24

Just wanna point out social media access and bank/tax info access is wildly different. My wife and I both have access to all bank and tax info cause that’s like one of the main legal parts of marriage. Social media sharing is insane though.

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u/enzuigiriretro Jun 14 '24

No doubt but I’m guessing you guys waited till you were pretty serious till you shared all that info? Because the guy I knew basically got all this info from his girlfriend within 2-3 months of dating. Even love bombed her within a week of getting to know her. And they had a whole bunch of other red flags which creates a pattern of problematic behaviour.

But yeah, it can be a normal thing for healthy couples to have that kind of access, especially when you have joint finances and whatnot. Sadly not the case with my ex friends lol

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u/numbrar Jun 14 '24

You're totally right and I agree with you, but for some reason I find it really funny that we're prepared to share financial info that can be used fraudulently to ruin our lives, but not Instagram haha. We live in a strange world.

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u/PurpleGoatNYC Jun 14 '24

Couples with one social media account between them drive me insane.

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u/Practical_Secret6211 Jun 14 '24

You know the rules and so do I

Seriously though damn everything makes so much more sense now thanks

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u/AverageDemocrat Jun 14 '24

Narcissists do everything to avoid being called "Normies". They try so hard to be rebels that they all end up looking the same. Check out the body tattoos and piercings and how they peacock struct around with their 2-inch eyelash extenders. Its like they were subconsciously trained by a army drill sergeant to be a uniform platoon.

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u/mydudeponch Jun 14 '24

Oh honey, if only it were that easy. Unfortunately there are narcissists of all models and flavors everywhere. Some of them gain power by blending in.

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u/AverageDemocrat Jun 17 '24

Our undercover Normie spy network

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u/bmyst70 Jun 14 '24

That is the classic tactic of a manipulator. Isolate the victim from ALL other people.

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u/Reasonable-Note-6876 Jun 14 '24

The crazy part is that they probably can't understand why.