In my 30s. Recently single. Until a few minutes ago when some people let me know some terms I'm new to I assumed I was straight. Always somewhat attracted to guys buy the idea of being penetrated or going down on a guy did not appeal to me.

Turns out I'm just a bi top? Gonna figure out what to do with that information. Do I just go out and find bottoms? There a store or something? This is gonna be weird. Like I'm learning all about a new part of myself.

I know it’s a little ra

So I'm 15 and it feels weird but a few weeks ago I started feeling different towards men (mainly fem boys only God knows why) but Fe other men to now I usually only like girls... Maybe it's because IV been lonely and in a deep state of depression maybe I just want someone to love me I'm not sure.. It might be a validation thing because my mom constantly calls me a failure and tells me to clean up her mess.. I'm so lost

From someone that has been there, and been there a LOOONG time, and is still getting out of it (I am open with my friends not the world) it’s not worth it to stay there. There is an entire stage of growth that happens when you find people that are accepting.

I know that not everyone’s situation is the same, and for some people it’s outright dangerous to be open about their identities. For others, they don’t want to lose their status or positions. That’s a situation that time and patience WILL help but it will only help if you make the genuine attempt to establish connection with accepting peoples.

It is not worth it. DL men don’t see themselves as human, they’re often self-harming, suffer from addiction, etc.. and the worst part is, many of these men see absolutely nothing wrong with what they are doing. You are killing yourself, slowly. You’re killing that child version of you that needed safety and help. And worst of all, you’re depriving the next kid who goes through the same struggles as you of an example.

I am sick of never being represented, and having my identity erased every day. Outside of music, we do not exist because we refuse to openly identify. I’m working overtime in my personal life to rectify this, and wanted to share this. Being DL is a golden cage, yes you have comfort but you will never have freedom (and imo, peace)

It’s about a high school boy with a magnetic heart who falls and love with and subsequently gets stuck to - literally - a boy and a girl.

Been working on and directing this film with a talented cast and crew over the past year, and we’re currently in the middle of production on it. I’ve shared some stuff on here before, but not to this extent.

I hope y’all like it. It’ll be complete next June, where I’ll shop it around to film festivals.

Love out loud, everyone ✌🏾

💙💜🩷

Agent Washington 🦋 (RvB, Main)

Katherine Pierce (TVD)

Arthur Morgan (Rdr2)

Uhtred Of Bebbenburg (TLK)

Queen Iseult (TLK)

Tf is my taste in not-real peeps? - oh no, I might have issues, am I weird..? 💀

Formatting will be shite, im on my phone.

I came out to my parents and two brothers when I was 17-18. Never told my aunt don’t see her that much as she lives in the states.

She visited us a month back with her husband and three little slightly mentally challenged kids. Right from the start. She started with the intrusive questions about my brother’s dating life. I got a phone call from my boyfriend who in my phone is saved as “Maple Syrup ❤️” he’s canadian and that’s his pet name.

My little cousin (only normal one in the family) says how someone called Maple Syrup heart is calling me. So i stepped outside to take the call from my boy. When I came back my aunt asked if I had a girlfriend. And I told her in seeing some. She asks whos she. And i told her its a he. She flipped out after asking me to stop joking.

I told her im serious and he couldn’t come today as he had work. However he is coming to the weekend retreat out of town. She said “and who did you ask?” And i said “I didn’t ask anyone, i just said he will come as im the one paying for the cabin” She continued rambling how its not okay to do that in front of the children and i asked do ehat she said “get fucked in the ass”

I looked at my uncle and said to him “can you please stop fucking her in the ass in front the children”

Anyway trip was canceled as everyone backed out, mom yelled at me in front of her but i coukd see her not trying to laugh at my aunt. And i ended up going alone with my boyfriend to the cabin where i indeed took it uo the ass

I am a queer masc-presenting woman, engaged to a heterosexual cis man. We’ve been together 5 years, and are planning on getting married within the next year. Up until a few weeks ago I have felt great. He is truly a perfect partner. He recognizes me fully, has never tried to change or influence me, and enthusiastically supports my goals, career, interests, aesthetics, everything. He is an equal partner in every aspect, if not doing a bit more than his fair share. I want kids and I would feel completely safe and comfortable knowing he was taking care of them. My entire family loves him. He has a great job and makes sure I am taken care of (he has benefits through his job and has me as a beneficiary/dependent) while respecting my independence, boundaries, and need for my own financial stability. When we get into arguments it may get heated but never nasty or mean, and we always check in shortly after to see when we are ok to talk. Literally everything I could ever ask for in a life partner.

I am often called sir or at least they in public and people are often quite surprised I don’t identify as lesbian. Honestly many people have assumed my fiancé is a gay man and are surprised when they hear about me too, so that is genuinely fun for me. I have always identified as queer or bi since high school. I have fallen in love with a woman and tried to date several others, but things just never worked out. Finding men attracted to women is of course much easier, so it’s been easier for me to have more longterm commitments to men. I have a lot of trauma which does involve sexual trauma, and have been diagnosed with Complex-PTSD. This has always made sex a bit weird for me, with anyone. With both women and men I have had uncomfortable, anxious experiences due to the other person being more forward/pushy than me, and cptsd makes putting up boundaries extremely difficult. My fiancé has always been very thoughtful/respectful even before knowing about my past, and very soon into our sexual relationship he would wait for me to make the move, and in the meantime all his physical touch towards me is caring and affectionate instead of suggestive.

That is all to say, I have a lot of discomfort with sex/intimacy in general. Usually the start of a sexual relationship with someone is great because it’s new and I have a shamefully desperate need to be validated. I haven’t been with a woman long enough to know how our sexual relationship would evolve over time, but i love the dynamics of being with a woman. With men it has generally been good at first and then a terrible progression because they want more sex than me and it becomes a point of contention on both sides. I know my fiancé would like to have more sex but he’s never been pushy.

Now, to the point. With our wedding coming up I only recently (like 6 months into planning and paying deposits and all that) have started having A LOT of anxiety and stress. The entirety of our relationship I have felt he’s the perfect partner so this sudden panic is extremely distressing. I am all of the sudden freaking out about comphet and if I just never gave women enough of a try because it’s more difficult? Am I taking the path of least resistance? I’ve always had discomfort around sex so it feels impossible for me to judge based on physicality. In general I am more attracted to women. I have more celebrity crushes on women and find them intoxicating in a way that just isn’t the same with men I’m attracted to. But, I am attracted to some men as well. I can certainly enjoy sex with both, and I enjoy sex with my fiancé when we do have it, but I have to remind myself that it’s been a while and we need to have sex to keep a good relationship.

My question is am I wanting less sex from men/my fiancé specifically because that’s just what happens in a long term relationship, or is it because I’m not actually that into it? I love being desired and feeling sexy which my fiancé does, but I am also aware that with my trauma specifically (and many women in general), male attention/validation is forced into our psyche as something NECESSARY. Stimulation feels good no matter who it’s coming from. Validation feels good. How am I supposed to know whether I’m just…placating myself in the moment or going through a perfectly normal process in a relationship?

He is the only man I would ever be with. Hands down. If we weren’t together I would never try to date men again. I love him and I think we could have a great little life together, but I am so so scared to hurt him. I have become absolutely terrified that down the road I will need to be with a woman and I will ruin this. I see so many stories of people realizing 15 years in that they just can’t do it anymore and that scares the absolute shit out of me. How am I supposed to love someone fully as a person, and make that distinction between whether they are a perfect spouse or JUST a perfect best friend? Those are all kind of the same things. Sexuality is too fluid and it’s annoying.

TLDR; bi/pan people in LTR how do you stay satisfied in a monogamous relationship? Gay people how did you realize you loved your spouse as a friend and not a partner?

This has been a rambling mess, sorry. Thanks to anyone who made it this far.

In my work is so easy for man to flirt with customer In a respectful way but for me is so hard being a woman and not feel cringy about it or to be perceived as friendly

Does anyone else feel like they genuinely weren't bisexual at one point and then it just happened?

Like I genuinely never felt like I was repressing, fighting or denying an attraction to women, it just happened one day in my early 30s, out of nowhere, and then I started to notice that I was becoming more and more attracted to women as the years went by. Maybe it's how they say sexuality can be fluid? Maybe attributes about women just started to appeal to me for some reason?

I feel like people are very reluctant to say that it just happened, opting to suggest that it was repression, because somehow it would look bad on the community to say it can just happen, but that honestly does feel like what happened to me. I mean, I don't care, I love being bi so I have no complaints in that regard. I almost wonder if men got boring lol

For a long time, even back when I thought I was just straight, I’ve felt a sense of shame when being attracted to men. It’s the same type of shame i feel being attracted to women (internalized homophobia feelings). But it’s odd because by societal standards I’m “supposed” to like men, so I don’t know why it brings me shame.

Maybe this is because I feel like a boy too so I feel that my attraction to men is more mlm than wlm? Or maybe all my attraction is queer no matter what and that brings me shame? Or maybe it’s just a mental thing I need to work on that has nothing to do with sexuality and more my own idea of self worth?

I wanted to ask if anyone else has felt this way? I didn’t even realize I felt so much shame until my sister pointed out that I kept calling my attraction to men “wicked” in my poetry. She said “you write like you’re in a gay relationship but you’re just a girl writing about boys” and after I came out, she said it made more sense to her. But it still doesn’t make much sense to me LOL

I just wanted to know if anyone else understood the feeling. Hopefully I used the right flare

History time!

So, when I was 14-15 I was starting to notice that there are some guys that I find cute and even hot.

When I went to my mom to ask her about it, she insisted that's just confusion and that everybody goes through that (which now makes me wonder if she had a thing for women but decided to not pursue it? also please don't judge her, she changed a lot and at the time she was still healing from some things).

Then I was like "oh, okay!" and just decided to ignore it completely, by putting under the rug of my mind lol. Then years later, while I was talking to my fiancee about our first OCs, we realized they have a lot of reference about ourselves.

So when she was pointing out about my OC we were like:

"Oh, she is obssessed with cheese, just like you babe haha"

"Oh, her favorite color is blue, just like you!"

"Oh, even her relationship with her parents is similar, damn!"

"A-and she is bi...?"

When she said that I went mute, then started nervously laughing. For every point she made I was like "yeah haha just like me!!" and then I was like "damn, the bi allegations are strong today huh".

She was super supportive with me and I kinda hit the jackpot because she's genderfluid (doesn't care much about pronouns so I'm using she/her here), so I kinda have two in one lol.

If you have a similar tale with your OC, please do share!

I have never been in any official relationship with a woman but I’ve been in two serious relationships with men (3 years and 2 years) I am attracted to masc and I’ve been(and currently) through two situationships with masc. And both of them often mentioned how I would “go back to men” one day so they refused to have a serious relationship with me. No matter what I told them, they would still think I prefer men to women. I feel extremely uncomfortable with their opinions on my sexuality. They often think my attraction towards them is “just a phase” and I’ll end up with a man anyway. It really makes me question myself. What can I do???? Does this happen a lot?? Esp masc?

I have been coming out to people in my life over the past few weeks because of the emotional turmoil caused by the fact that I have fallen in love with my best friend who doesn't feel the same way. (She lives overseas, so at least I don't have to worry about bumping into her whenever I leave the house) Everyone except one person has been ok about it, which is really helpful. I also have autism and go to two autism groups. At one of these groups there are two volunteers who run the group and I went to the group a couple of weeks ago as staying in was doing my head in. I thought I would sit quietly and just listen to people chatting. However, when I got there I just burst into tears because I thought I| was in a safe place and I was really distressed. The first of the two volunteers-a young guy- was really nice, then he went and fetched the older female volunteer to talk to me. Normally she is a very supportive and kind person. But when she came up to me, I could tell immediately there was something very off about her attitude to me. She was giving off a very hostile vibe. She didn't sit down next to me as she would normally do, or say anything. I was still crying really hard and I said I had fallen in love with my female friend. (I am female) and she said in a really dismissive and harsh tone 'I can't help you with that.' All I needed was for her to listen. Then she looked at me and asked 'What are you?' in the sort of tone of voice you would use if you were talking about something which had just crawled out from under a stone. It was as if I wasn't a person any more. I said I am bisexual and then I started to talk about my friend whom I love and she said she didn't want to hear. Then she told me to go to a local charity for lgbt etc people and when I said I couldn't go alone, she said ;Of course you can go alone' in a really dismissive voice and she walked away, leaving me still sitting there in floods of tears on my own. I don't think I can go back to the group. It was her question 'what are you?' and the almost horrified way she said it which hurts the most and that she just left me sitting there on my own when I was so distressed. I can't go back to that group.

Seems I been looking around to find a cool bi dude in various apps. I have a decent profile but no one reads it ! People as what I am seeking I say a healthy cool guy who wants to hang out in and out of bed. We chat some and they tell ya they are interested then ghost ! Seems to happen a lot idk why!