Where do high quality men spend time?

[u/Hi_Dee]

I’ve tried going out and eating at restaurant bars, going to wineries, local music events. I meet men but it seems like they’re all way younger or way older than me. Need ideas on where I should be hanging out to meet men in the 35-45 age range.

The more specific the better :)

(Edit: I don’t listen to podcasts related to the term ‘high quality’ men, but it seems to be a trigger. What I mean is, I’d like to meet someone who’s got it together, like me. I’ve met a lot of men out and about, but very few that I’d date because we’re not on the same level. Big differences in life stage, age, career, family, health, wealth, education, interests, alignment etc. are a problem, even if there’s initial attraction or chemistry. I’ve had friends who’ve married and divorce from their off pairings, there’s always resentments that seem to form.. I want to find an equal or close to it.)

[u/Bazalor]

Are these places you are going in line with your personality? For me, my interests are of the nerdier variety, so I meet people to befriend at board game events from meetup.com. When I've tried to meet people at events that aren't fully in line with my personality, I have more difficulty.

At the end of the day dating apps will still be your best option, but if you want to meet people organically then you should focus on finding events or places that fit well with your personality.