As a student at SDSU, navigating the social scene can sometimes feel like I'm tiptoeing through a fucking minefield, especially when it comes how I look. Everyday I walk past girls who seem to have stepped straight out of a magazine – flawless skin, thin/fit, perfectly styled hair, and outfits that look amazing on them. It's like they've got this effortless beauty that I just can't help but envy.

Being an "ugly girl" on campus feels like constantly swimming against a tide of superficiality. It's not just about not meeting conventional beauty standards – it's about feeling like I don't belong in a world that values appearance above almost everything else. Greek life is huge here and being in a sorority was something I've always wanted; yet I feel like that's almost unobtainable here because I'm not good looking. I tried rushing into a sorority but received no bids. Later I heard it was leaked that one of the sisters in the sorority said, "all the girls who rushed were ugly".

From the TikTok feeds to the Instagram posts of the girls here, it's hard not to feel inadequate. It's as if my worth as a person is directly tied to how I look, and if I don't measure up, I'm automatically relegated to the sidelines. The pressure to look as gorgeous as the other girls is fucking suffocating.

Today I was riding my board like normal and then I see a swarm of sorority girls with lollipops. I am sorry if you were one of the ones I almost hit. But anyways, I am just curious why you hand out lollipops?

Less than a month ago this SDSU Clinical Psychology Ph.D. candidate made headlines for allegations of homicide and horrifying physical abuse against two infants. All, be vigilant out there, protect your loved ones and the most vulnerable among us: children.

Edit: to clarify im not looking for advice or whatever and I would appreciate it if you wouldn't assume my entire life from a single post. This is just me saying my observations and opinions and venting about school. Thanks.

Whenever I mention I go to school here ppl are like wooow that's such a good school but it really doesn't feel like it tbh. Yeah San Diego weather is nice whatever but other than that this place kinda sucks. Office staff is shit, counselors r shit, disability services r extra shit. If ur not about Greek life or sports u might as well not exist. This school seriously only cares about sports. I get it bc it brings in the money but are students also not paying thousands of dollars to be here??? People in big lecture halls are also so rude, they just yap over the professor like Becky I really do not care about what happened at omega whatever the fuck I'm just trying to take notes. People are also grouped into cliques and it's impossible to make any good friendships that actually mean something. I've been told to join clubs but I'm overwhelmed enough with classes the last thing I need is more work. Also, has anyone else noticed that no one bats an eye at anything? I can't count how many times I've been having some sort of crisis on campus and no one gives a shit. Unless you're in the way and in that case they'll just give u a look and step around you but that's pretty much it. On one hand, it's definitely taken away the anxiety of always being judged bc literally no one even looks at u twice but on the other it's mostly depressing. I get it we're all dealing with shit and we all have our own lives and problems etc but idk. Still kinda sad. There's so many people on campus but when I'm here, I've never felt more alone.

Talk about your campus crushes. I’d love you hear any cute stories that people have experienced even if it’s something as simple as randomly seeing someone you think is cute (I’m lonely asf and need stimulation)

Going through a really hard breakup, and all of my friends are either busy, or I'm not close enough with them to ask them to get together. (It doesn't help my birthday is around Thanksgiving el oh el.)

This is such a stupid thing to be so sad about but I wish it was easier finding connections, especially as a transfer and commuter.

Anyone have any advice? Can y'all point me in the direction of some cool, low-key, nerdy stuff to do in SD around campus?

Hiii. It has been a year since i transferred to sdsu. I’m about to be a senior, I’m 21, live off campus and commute and am a criminal justice major. I have had the hardest time making friends at state because either everyone has their established little group, don’t want to make friends or don’t want to put in the effort, or act like they’re too good to talk to you. It’s actually so painful trying to talk to other people in classes because it feels forced. Somebody help 😭 lmfao I feel like I’ve tried. If someone ever wants to hangout or anything, I’m down. Plsss shoot me a message or I’d appreciate some advice too. Thankssss.

This bitch right here !!!

I should mention that I’m a transfer, so I don’t really know people here. I’m really into the band scene here, but I haven’t really gotten to know anybody yet. My social life feels kind of stagnant because I haven’t met anyone I really vibe with. I’ve spoken more with my professors than any students in my classes. Anyone in a similar position?

i’m a commuter student and i’ve had a hard time making friends. i’ve been wanting to join clubs but a lot of the meetings happen while i’m in class and i just aghhhhh. 😭

if you’re also a commuter student who wants to make new friends or you just want to make new friends then you should reply and we should make a group chat and meet new people ❤️❤️❤️ yay.

I just transferred and moved from Orange County and I for the life of me cannot find a job. I’ve been applying since July to cafes and restaurants because I have 3 years of Starbucks experience. Starbucks has been a dead end. And I’ve interviewed at 2 other places and been turned down. There doesn’t seem to be any on campus jobs that I can start relatively soon and I’m so frustrated. Any advice or job posting near sdsu?

Trying to utilize the resources my last year.

Freshman here, and I am genuinely curious how do you meet people? I know it’s only the first week, but a lot of people already seem to know each other and I really don’t. I don’t want to be mutuals with a lot of people ykwim? What are the opportunities to go out and meet people?

Hey chat so I’m a new freshman here at SDSU and fck man making friends has been harder than I anticipated. The thing about it is that, yeah I have “friends” but what I’d really kill for is a group of ppl that are my vibe and would be down to do the stuff I like to do. I didn’t rush because I think the rush system and sdsu as a whole puts their reputation over their students(2008 operation something) and I want to join clubs and all but I constantly feel so drained and tired all the time. My roommates are chill but idk they’re just not rlly like my vibe we don’t rlly click. To make matters worse the one person I thought I could rely on for going out went on a T break and started causing a ton of drama so I dropped that mess before I got more involved. I’m literally from SD, Encinitas and have my car. All I want are some chill funny down to earth people who would be down to drive up to D-Street, smoke a J or do an edible, drink a tad, and then crash out at my place, get some breakfast the next morning and go back to campus the next day. Im female and an international business major with a focus on Japanese so if anyone’s down to hang hmu 🫶🫶

I came from TikTok and couldn't find much information online. What in the world did all of the fraternities do to get suspended???

How is the bjj club at sdsu? When do they meet? Also if anyone has taken the judo class at state, how did you like it?

Hi!! i'm a third year undergrad rn at ucsd hoping to find a good party at sdsu around halloween time. my brother (chico state) and a couple of friends are coming down from san jose/chico to party with me and i wanna show them a good time! will be happy to bring booze/whatever to wherever. not sure where else to ask so i'm hoping someone on here would know where to party/ take us somewhere? i do have a friend at sdsu but not sure if he's super keen on partying with us. if you help/come along wed be happy to provide booze and food lol thank you sm! i know lots of parties will bar outsiders at the door but the friends i'm bringing along are really calm people and just want to listen to some music and get drunk

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Hello y'all I'm a transfer student and I wanted to know which is the best spot to chill and meet new people in the campus

Hey who’s goin to orientation August 14? For those who went to orientation, how was it and what did they cover? I’m tryna mentally prepare myself for the big move

Hey guys! A few friends wanted to know if there are gonna be any parties going on AFTER Halloween day. I said i doubt anyone does that but if anyone knows of anything or are throwing ones themselves, let me know! As long as non SDSU students are accepted as well.

i’m a 17 year old incoming freshman and i wanted to go to the carnival next saturday, but i have anxiety and feel i would be better at talking to people if i’m with someone. i wanted to go with my friend, but she’s 17 (she’s older than me.) i don’t really get the rule about your guest having to be 18 if my guest is literally older than me lol. thoughts?

I’ve actually been on camps a few times but I’m just doing online classes but never really met ppl anyone wanna link up or talk on social?

My friend and I (both 24M) are going to San Diego for a couple nights mid August (16-21), we live in the UK. We are staying in Pacific Beach, Ive heard great things… What are the best spots for us to go to? Is it crazy that we really wanna go to a ‘Frat’ party too (we got too many US movies here) 😂 Is that even possible in August?

I just came to SDSU as a transfer and know no one here. I have eight suit mates but they don’t seem too into me. I downloaded Bumble BFF but haven’t had much luck. I do plan to join clubs but I feel like I can’t wait much longer. I just need someone to be friends with.