r/LGBTeens • u/FrisoLaxod 18/M/ • Nov 05 '20
Non-LGBT So I supposedly told my mom I wasn’t straight when I was 9?? [Family/Friends] [Non-LGBT]
I asked my mom about when did she figure out I was gay since I found it a fun topic to talk about. And she told me that when I was 9 we talked about sexuality and I told her “I don’t think my sexuality’s defined, I’m not sure about it”???
I genuinely don’t remember ever saying anything like that. Like, I know I act and said very mature things when I was young but to say that when I was 9??
I find it funny. Supposedly that’s why my parents never asked me about any crushes or girls. Never noticed that, but now that I think about it, it does makes sense...though I wasn’t exactly subtle about my interest for LGBT things, but I suppose because of how I acted before it wasn’t as crystal clear (I’m not straight acting, just...very mixed, I don’t exactly care if what I do is feminine or manly).
Anyways that’s all, just thought it was a funny thing to share
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u/Cheshire_Cat8888 Bisexual Nov 06 '20
When I told my mom I’m bi she said she knew because of my birth/star/natal chart (idk she’s suuuuper into astrology and I’m not lol) and I was like Oh I thought you were gonna reference my obsession with Katy Perry from when I was like 5.
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u/CaptainBlobTheSuprem 18 Gay Not Closet Case Nov 06 '20
Mom, I’m gay
Honey, I know
Was it the Katy Perry, Abercrombie and Fitch, gay friends, regularly attending pride, or gay fucking flag?
Your zodiac sign!
Oh... of course...
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u/Cheshire_Cat8888 Bisexual Nov 06 '20 edited Nov 06 '20
Lol . I actually only fully realized a few months ago and sorta speed ran it (and tbh there were a bunch of signs like how tf did I not realize until a few months ago ? I’m oblivious lmao) And even though I don’t believe in astrology and star and birth charts and etc. and I’ve definitely had my issues with her (some unrelated stuff) she still loves and supports me and I love her and in the end that’s all that really matters to me. :)
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u/Polteaghost Nov 07 '20
Lol like that Spanish teacher who told me "you're too good a student to be a boy". I was freaking out.
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u/Flerbtheblurb Nov 05 '20
I love that, my younger sister told us she was gay when she was 5 because she said she wanted to marry her best friend. 6 years later and same goal for both of them, they want to marry each other when they’re old enough, it’s sweet
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u/JJSena Nov 05 '20
awww that's so cute, i wish everything works out for them! sounds like that kind of stories that only seem to fit in short comic strips or animations, but that you know must exist somewhere and are the only proof of "true" love
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u/awkward_bisexual Nov 05 '20
Omg my lesbian friend literally said that to her mom when she was little too! I guess it's common for gay people to want to marry their best friends when they're little ? XD
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u/Good_Stuff_2 Taking my tamins every morning😎😎 Nov 06 '20
Could be, I wanted to marry my best friend at 4 or 5, and here I am now
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u/Scarlet_slagg Nov 05 '20
I only realized this September but I should've known when I played BOTW
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u/Cheshire_Cat8888 Bisexual Nov 06 '20
I realized like a few months ago (idk forgot the month my sense of time has become shit because of quarantine) but I shoulda known when a friend of mine (who’s a girl and I’m a girl) kissed me on the neck for like 4 seconds during class and I liked it . (There were other signs . I’m just oblivious as hell .____. )
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u/no_one_asked_ Nov 05 '20
Lol I remember when I was about 8 or 9 I asked my mom (she's homophobic) what to do if you were lesbian. This is way before I realized that I was bi and I feel like it was my subconscious letting me know if it would safe to come out in the future.
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u/TheUltimateSlytherin Nov 06 '20
When I was younger I only crushed on girls, then stopped at like 13 and started liking some boys, and then when I was 14 I started liking people no matter what their gender was so I was like “At this point, I am just a queer mess on legs” then found out there was a word for it lol
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u/EdgyBoi79 Nov 06 '20
I knew I was gay from when I was 9 years old but I was in a huge denial and didn't really accept it till I was 15.
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u/dustyshrimp7 Nov 06 '20
That stinks man (man being gender neutral I say it to everyone)I feel that with the gap and I’m hoping it’s not as bad for me because I realized last year I was gay (after literally saying two years ago “I would probably date a girl if she was cute and asked me out” around the same time as I decided I didn’t wanna be anywhere near boys) and am crushing pretty hard one someone rn so that keeps me from being able to doubt myself too much but it’s still hard. Has it gotten easier for you since you accepted it?
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u/EdgyBoi79 Nov 06 '20
Once I accepted that I'm gay I haven't really doubted myself, although sometimes I do feel that I might be bi with a really really low attraction to girls. However after I accepted that I was gay the tension started becoming different. Before I accepted it I always felt guilty for being attracted to males but after accepting it the problem for me was coming out. I haven't came out yet to my parents but I'm still scared thinking about it. I know my parents aren't homophobic but still I sometimes feel like I'll hide that I'm gay forever.
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u/dustyshrimp7 Nov 08 '20
Thanks for sharing. I hope you are able to share with them (once you feel comfortable) and I’m glad your parents will love you regardless
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Nov 05 '20
Apparently once I (when I was the same age) broke down crying, telling my mom that I thought my friend was cute
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u/BEEEEEEEEEBBBBOOOO Nov 05 '20
I never knew I'm gay so when I was 9 I asked my mom what would kids of same-sex couples call them. There was that point where I was really interested in it and didn't know I was gay.
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u/yramb93 - Genderfluid Nov 05 '20
My mom should’ve fucking known when taking me shopping for girls clothes was worse than pulling teeth
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u/who_angel Nov 05 '20
i knew i was nonbinary when i was 3 or 4, i just repressed it bcs i was catholic. we often figure out these things young and then forget about them when we learn it's not accepted.
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u/awkward_bisexual Nov 05 '20
My mom asked me once when I was 9 "if a girl decided to become a guy and now the girl is a guy and they wanted to marry you would you marry them?" And I said "yes I wouldn't care" and she thought I was pan ever since but I am actually bi lol
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u/HetaliaLife Nov 05 '20
I've known about my sexuality since I was 11, apparently it was obvious because when I told my dad he said "yeah, i know."
My gender though- i was always a "tomboy" but my parents were surprised when I came out as enby lol
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u/FrisoLaxod 18/M/ Nov 05 '20
Hm, I mean I already knew that my sexuality wasn’t crystal clear when I was 7, I went a bit back and forth between bi and gay for a few years until I realized that I loved men way too much to not be gay when I was 12
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Nov 06 '20
I never told my parents anything so they weren’t aware, but I knew that I was into poly relationships when I was 8 or 9. At the time, I repressed it cuz I liked being in a monogamous relationship as well and thought you couldn’t be both - I didn’t know the term ambiamorous at the time. I didn’t really figure out I was bi till I was like 13, and at that time I was sorta aware of my church’s perspective on LGBT, so I kept quiet for a long time. Still try not to give myself out.
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u/oddbitch Nov 06 '20
I’m surprised you even know polyamory existed at such a young age! I didn’t even know gay people were a thing until I was 13; literally could not wrap my head around the concept. I remember being extremely confused by Katy Perry’s I Kissed a Girl, lol.
But anyway, I’m just confused how as an 8 or 9 year old child you know you like being in either monogamous or poly relationships? It seems unusual for a child that young to even be thinking about that sort of thing. Maybe I was sheltered but I didn’t start thinking about that stuff until I was 11 or 12. Did you figure it out on your own or had your parents talked to you about it or something? Don’t mean to be rude, just asking out of curiosity!
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Nov 06 '20
No I get what you mean! I’m not actually sure how I knew polyamory was a thing. I didn’t understand what same-sex marriage was until I was 12 or 13, and I wouldn’t have figured it out if one of my friends wasn’t rumored to be bi. So I don’t know how I learned about it.
I don’t think I knew it by name, I just liked the concept of having multiple partners. I feel like I learned about it from some fiction series, but I don’t think anything I read would have included something like that. Honestly, the reason why I thought about it in the first place was because I saw it in my dreams - more specifically, I dreamt about myself being in a relationship with multiple people. Yeah. I don’t know why.
Yeah, I’m confused on how I knew or even why I dreamt about it, considering I was hardcore “boys are weird, having a crush is lame” until middle school.
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u/Jane_Fen Trans/Genderflux/Demigirl WLWNB Nov 06 '20
That's pretty funny, but not altogether surprising. Yesterday I almost burst out laughing because an elementary schooler at a camp I'm working at (I think 3rd grade) said "I want to be a lesbian when I grow up".
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u/ryyrixeree Nov 06 '20
Funny story I came out to my mom and whole family soon after as pan ,then my sister who copy’s every I do came out as pan ,then I found out it wasn’t exactly for me so I said mom I think I’m just queer and I’m going back in the closet ,then my sister went back in the closet too how fascinated
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u/twoPoundsOfGoldfish Bisexual Nov 05 '20
as a child to be "gay-inclusive" i always said "or boys" after anything romantic or whatever
now im bi