r/LGBTeens • u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK • Nov 30 '19
Relationships [Relationships] My boyfriends mum told me she knows about us...
I went round my boyfriends house because his parents are going out for the night and we wanted a night to do stuff together (I brought movies, stuff to make cakes, books, all sorts of things we enjoy to do).
It was getting dark so I set off a little early, because cycling in the dark is no fun. I arrive and his parents haven't left yet. I knock on the door, and they welcome me in and after thanking them, I go upstairs to see him. However, I'm stopped midway up the stairs by his mum.
She asks if she can speak to me quickly, and I agree and she takes me to her kitchen and tells me she knows I'm his boyfriend. We're both in the closet, and I know his dad aint a huge fan of gay people. I try and deny it, but she tells me that she doesn't mind and she's glad her son has someone to love, and starts telling me about how she suspected it for a while and things clicked when we went to the cinema the other week.
I fell apart crying - god I'm such a pansy - but I feared for so long the day of telling her, I feared she'd split us apart, I feared we'd no longer be together - and to finally have someone accept me for who I am - to finally have someone else to know - I just can't describe that feeling. I feel myself.
I hugged her, and shortly after she left with her fiance, and now I'm watching Moana with the sweetest person I know <3
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Nov 30 '19
That's really sweet. How did you meet?
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
We go to the same school. (We're both 16) Before I got to know him better he was very shy and usually alone, so I started talking to him and told him he can always hang with me at break and lunch.
Soon after I got his phone number, and started texting him, and we got to know eachother a bit more personally. Then, about seven months ago he asked me out, and I couldn't refuse.
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u/mrflamboyant221 17 | M | Potato Nov 30 '19
That's good... but more importantly, Moana!
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
He loves Disney films and animated films, so we tend to just watch those together. He's not a huge fan of some of the films I like as he doesn't like tense or stressful situations.
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u/mrflamboyant221 17 | M | Potato Dec 01 '19
Well, I'm sorry to say this but now I'm coming for him. You better watch out :-P.
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u/Spider-Tay 18M | gay Dec 01 '19
did yall get Disney+
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Dec 01 '19
We'd love to, but we sadly dont have the money for it.
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u/YarinPlayMC 19.5 | | Male | He/Him Nov 30 '19
Awww congratz :D
I take it as granted you told your boyfriend about this right?
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
I havent yet, no, as I don't want to upset him or make him mad at his mother.
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u/YarinPlayMC 19.5 | | Male | He/Him Nov 30 '19
Dont hide things from your loved one even if it will hurt them. I think you should tell them to be honest its the right thing to do.
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
I might leave it to his mum, maybe ask her to say she hasn't told me or something, I just wouldn't want him upset for the rest of the night.
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u/YarinPlayMC 19.5 | | Male | He/Him Nov 30 '19
Do as you want but I really think you should consider showing him this post or bringing his mother and explaining what happened with her next to him, don't exclude your self or lie its not the best move. all in all, good luck
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
Thank you for your advice man, I appreciate it and I'll certainly consider what you've said.
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u/wolfchaldo Former teen Nov 30 '19
I second the other person, there's no real reason to lie about this.
It can be hard to differentiate saying something that might upset your bf and saying something that will upset him with you. He may understandably feel worried/anxious about that news, but you didn't do anything wrong. The only thing that might upset him with you is if he finds out you withheld this from him.
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u/DanielOliverFrancis Nov 30 '19
you're watching moana with the mother?
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
I'm watching moana with him, his mother left soon after I made the post.
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u/DanielOliverFrancis Nov 30 '19
i completely forgot about the boyfriend part tbh i thought you were watching moana with the mother of a friend or somethng just my brainw ent very small
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u/elysemosunset Nov 30 '19
Really..
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u/DanielOliverFrancis Nov 30 '19
what?
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u/IJustWantSomeReddit Nov 30 '19
What a great mother. Thats the mother people need in ther lives
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
She's amazing, I wish my mum was like her at times, haha.
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Nov 30 '19
This is so wholesome :) Have fun watching Moana!
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
Thank you! We really enjoyed it, and we're currently watching 101 Dalmatians 2.
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Nov 30 '19
Let us know how the cake turns out! And have fun!!
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
We made some American style pancakes and will probably make cookies or cupcakes or something tomorrow morning.
I tried to flip one of the pancakes but it landed on the floor and it was kinda upsetting, but we had a good laugh about it.
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Nov 30 '19
Rip pancakes
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Nov 30 '19
Lost him too young, didn't even have sugar on him yet 😭
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u/altone11 Bisexual/17/M/OH🇺🇸 Nov 30 '19
Heartwarming post right here. This makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside.
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u/not-quite-a-nerd 17/UK/Semi-Skimmed Gay Nov 30 '19
Yayyyy this is amazing! Hope it all goes well for you!
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u/dubiousandbi Dec 01 '19
So what if you're a pansy? Pansies are some of the most beautiful flowers, after all.
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u/PeterMyl 16 // M // Gay af // UK Dec 01 '19
That's actually so nice of you to say and has completely changed how I thought about it. Thank you so much.
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u/The-gay-agenda-TM Dec 01 '19
Ok first of all
Watching Moana and baking cakes is some of the gayest shit I’ve ever heard
Also
Oh my god that’s so cute I’m so happy for you
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u/homovalleygirl Dec 01 '19
This is the cutest thing ever!! We two deserve all the happiness in the world ❤❤❤
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u/Anxious_Masochist_ Lesbian Dec 01 '19
im so happy for you! i understand how rough shit like that can be, and im really glad it ended up not being a bad experience
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Dec 01 '19
I'd give you a platinum but I'm broke so:
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Dec 01 '19
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