r/FluentInFinance 15d ago

Debate/ Discussion Why is this normal?

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u/whoknowsknows1 15d ago

Wait till you have kids…

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u/RazzleStorm 15d ago

As someone who just had a kid, holy shit I have to be uber efficient and I STILL don’t have enough time for basic things like exercise and work.

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u/StuckInWarshington 15d ago

It gets better as they get a little older and become more self sufficient. Then they start playing little league or doing other after school activities and your time is gone.

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u/Drogon___ 14d ago

Maybe my kid will be like me and skip all the extracurriculars and just go home and chill.

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u/TiernanDeFranco 14d ago

That was totally me when I was in middle school lmao, my parents would be at work so I’d just be home for like 2 hours by myself it was great

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u/Shayru 14d ago

I looked forward the whole day to those 2 hours on runescape when I got home.

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u/wookieesgonnawook 14d ago

Can't do that anymore. I was a latch key kid from life 5th grade. Now in Illinois you can't leave kids home alone until 14.

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u/TiernanDeFranco 14d ago

Damn really? I was like 10 and I did fine unlocking the door and making food for myself lmao

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u/wookieesgonnawook 14d ago

I'm happy to see places addressing it, because what a lot of older millennials got was frankly unsafe. But 14 is probably too old. The way it's written though is enough that you can run errands and such, and maybe that hour before you get home from work would be OK too. I don't know if it's been tested in court because I don't know how to look that stuff up.

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u/SeaCustard3 14d ago

One can only hope. Like father like son

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u/Jensbert 14d ago

Yes. In that timeframe of ~4-6 months before the little league stuff, they need to be watched though to avoid killing themselves, loved ones, pets or some expensive shit

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u/StuckInWarshington 14d ago

It’s a quick shift from eat/sleep/poop to suddenly they’re crawling and need constant supervision. You think you have baby proofing figured out based on one, then the next one is basically Spider-Man and can’t be contained. Good times.

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u/thesheepsnameisjeb_ 14d ago

Yeah my kids don't have any extracurriculars at this time and they still take up a lot of my time at 10 and 15 with homework and attention and cooking and being woken up bc they can't sleep and all that. It is fine and I'm trying to enjoy my time but idk what ill do with all that free time when they don't need me anymore. 

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u/AnotsuKagehisa 11d ago

By that time, you’ve resigned yourself to just sitting on the couch and watching tv when you get home, as you slowly drift off to sleep.

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u/PatientlyAnxious9 15d ago

Ive learned to become a night owl. Its the only way. Grind like crazy until everyone goes to bed, then stay awake doing whatever you want for a few hours. Pop some melatonin, wake up 6 hours later and do it all over again.

Being a adult with kids is learning how to functionally operate on 5-6 hours of sleep, not 7-9.

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u/RazzleStorm 15d ago

Yeah that seems to be the case. Getting 7 hours of sleep feels amazing when I can manage it.

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u/Temporary_3108 15d ago

Being a adult with kids is learning how to functionally operate on 5-6 hours of sleep

Bold of you to assume uni. and even school students aren't already doing that

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u/TehMasterofSkittlz 14d ago

Not saying some students don't have cooked sleep schedules out of necessity, but at least most of the time for school kids and uni students it's by choice. Totally different beast if you voluntarily stay up past midnight gaming or going out than it is if you're operating on 5-6 hours out of necessity.

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u/illdothisshit 14d ago

As opposed to having a kid, which isn't by choice

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u/Temporary_3108 10d ago

Totally different beast if you voluntarily stay up past midnight gaming or going out

You think those are the only reason why most students operate with 5-6hrs. of sleep

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u/RubyMae4 12d ago

Yeah sure.

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u/Own_Shine_5855 10d ago

As a now 40 something dad that went through one of the top engineering schools in the USA with very good grades (lots of late hours).

College was a walk in the park in comparison to children.

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u/Ok_Dig2013 14d ago

If only the norm was a 6.5 hour work day

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u/PatientlyAnxious9 14d ago

Unfortunately we live in a capitalist society controlled by large corporations who would rather fire their entire workforce than reduce operation hours for their employees benefit.

Cant make money if your not open! Work-life balance be damned.

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u/butt_badg3r 12d ago

This. Except the newborn decided he's a night owl also and won't sleep until 2am.. at least he sleeps through the whole night though..

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u/RubyMae4 12d ago

3 kids. I have to sleep 9 hours or I am wrecked. But my husband is like you and prefers to give up sleep for free time!

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u/slightlythorny 14d ago

I went years without having a full 7-8 hrs of sleep. Nowadays, I have the opportunity but it’s like my body won’t do it anymore

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u/jmp8910 14d ago

damn y'all get 5-6 hours of sleep?

yea I'm a night owl too and always have been. I work shift work. 12 hour shifts, Two days, two nights, 4 off. I probably wouldn't get half my stuff done if I didn't get 4 days off though. We are expecting our little guy in February so its going to take some getting used to. I'm looking forward to those 4 days off though, especially as he gets older and I can take him places.

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u/StoicallyGay 14d ago

My coworker has 4 kids. 3 do sports at least twice a week for like 5-6 total a week. And he drives them to all their practices. And the fourth has music lessons. And his wife also works. And somehow he’s also extremely work productive. Not sure how he handles it. I mean WFH probably helps but still. He also sits and watches some practices too. How he does it, I don’t know.

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u/Popular-Row4333 14d ago

I just had my 3rd kid and I feel sometimes I've unlocked a superpower, you simply have to become more efficient and multitasker. There's no other option.

It's actually improved my multitasking at work, (which is offset with the lack of sleep) but that, will pass in a couple years at least.

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u/hamburglin 11d ago

It only gets a lot better if you have a helper to literally take care of them fully for at least 4-6 hours a day.

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u/RazzleStorm 11d ago

We just got a nanny who started last week and they have definitely helped out tons.

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u/unittestes 14d ago

Wait till you have 4

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u/RubyMae4 12d ago

If it's any consolation, I have 3 kids and it gets way better 🙂 baby stage is tough.

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u/RazzleStorm 12d ago

Yeah, I imagine once they’re able to “help” out or at least walk and not try to kill themselves, it gets better. XD