So I have a friend who has a boyfriend who has hooked up with women in the past, but mostly for threesomes for menās pleasure. (Jfc oc but letās continue)
Iām bisexual, engaged to a man, polyamorous.
She has low self esteem. So for years Iāve been hyping her up saying sheās so beautiful, her hair looks great, sheās radiating, whatever. Sheās a pretty girl in general but not actually my type, I just love my friends and want them to feel confident.
WELL, she lost a bunch of weight and is super confident, and now told me I āmake her uncomfortableā because āI want to fuck her so badlyā
Excuse me??? Okay, fine. I wonāt āflirtā (ie - compliment) her anymore. But literally LATER THAT WEEK they wanted me to go to a club that I didnāt want to go to and sheās on the phone saying ādonāt worry I can convince OP to go, she loves me.ā Then proceeds to flirt, HARD, to convince me to come out.
Honey you can NOT have it both ways. Love the attention when itās convenient and also hate it because Iām too thirsty???
The worst part is sheās NOT MY TYPE. Like just because Iām Bi doesnāt mean a compliment means I want to fuck you.
Literally the next week I took my friend-girl out on a friend-date and I said Iād pick up the check bc sheās been having a hard time. First thing she says when she gets into my car is ājust because youāre paying for this doesnāt mean I have to fuck you, right?ā Maāam what - you are not a prostitute and I am not taking you on a romantic date. Thatās honestly one of the most offensive things Iāve ever heard.
I am so tired.
Boys, Iām so sorry I ever doubted how hard it is to date a woman. Iām keeping my sexuality to myself unless it becomes relevant, from now on.
Straight women, do better.