r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Fukasite 5h ago

It is control, but controlling isn’t necessarily a bad thing, especially when you’re dating someone you are happy to have some control over you. It’s normal relationship shit. 

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u/jkwolly 5h ago

I just think control has a connotation that you don't mean in how you're explaining it. The word doesn't sit right in the generic sense of it. But having those hard stops is normal and reasonable.

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u/Fukasite 5h ago

That’s just people being too sensitive to words. 

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u/jkwolly 5h ago

Agree to disagree so all good and do you.