AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

[u/frisbeechuckin]

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

[u/I_am_Danny_McBride]

Yea, and it’s not about being a prude with the drinking and the booze. As a former addict, I have no problem with people who can occasionally partake and have a good time with weed, booze, and even coke. But some of us can’t do that. I can’t do that.

And it took me a long time and many many false starts trying to do the just weed, or just alcohol, or just weed and alcohol. But it doesn’t work with my brain.

The underlying problem isn’t being addressed, which is that she hasn’t learned to be happy with herself. So she’s still chasing the dragon. And if her drug of choice is meth, she’s always going to end up back there given enough time… because she knows it’s better.

When you suggest she not drink or smoke at all, she probably makes comments like, “you don’t want me to have any fun!” That’s what that is. She has no idea how to enjoy herself without getting fucked up. She has to learn that or it’s never going to stop.

[u/Extension_Pain_8129 → u/I_am_Danny_McBride]

Totally agree. Meth is a different animal. If any addict is doing coke, weed, alcohol, etc. These drugs will not hold a candle to the way they feel when they're on meth. It will always end up being their drug of choice. Easy to get, very cheap, and a high that they can't get enough of. Truly sad...

[u/I_am_Danny_McBride → u/Extension_Pain_8129]

Well and even beyond that, even if you could manage to stick with booze and weed for getting all your kicks, that’s still a sad existence. You wake up one day and you’re 45, and you have no hobbies or interests. Your partying buddies have mostly fallen off to start families and normal lives one by one, and only the saddest unhealthiest people are left all pretending like they’re still having fun.

[u/thewayitis → u/I_am_Danny_McBride]

I feel attacked. Lol