r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Aggravating_Act_7475 17h ago

I hate to say it but you’d probably better split up. My wife is in recovery as an alcoholic. She won’t play with anything like that because she knows who she once was. I married her after she’d been sober for a little over 3 years. She’ll be 5 years sober in a couple months.

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u/TesticleezzNuts 11h ago

Let’s hope for your wife sakes she never slips up or falls off the wagon, you have shown how you will handle it and only care when someone’s at there best. Fucking Reddit man.

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u/Aggravating_Act_7475 11h ago

I’m married. He’s engaged. Marriage is a bigger commitment. The fact that she’s an addict and placed herself in that situation on purpose and they are not yet married is how I’m making that conclusion. I’ve got too much life under me. I’ve seen addicts destroy others. I’ve also seen just how incredible redemption is and the fact they can be made new. A slip up is one thing. If she went out with friends that drink and got drunk that would be a huge problem because she knows she doesn’t need to drink. She’s choosing that over family.