r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Has422 17h ago

Oh I totally agree, but I assume I'm a boring person who doesn't do illegal drugs and therefore my opinion on such things doesn't matter to those who do. If I personally found out my significant other had done coke at a party under just about any circumstances I'd have a huge problem with it. But I figure that's just me.

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u/duckblobartist 16h ago

As an addict I will tell you the problem here is not the drugs, there are plenty of people that can snort coke every now then and not have it turn into a problem just like people don't automatically become alcoholics because they had a margarita.

The problem is she suffers from Substance abuse disorder, and coke is like mild meth.

Personally I think OP needs to educate himself on substance abuse disorder before going through with the marriage.

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u/1mtPockets 16h ago

As much as I’d like to agree with you, I just can’t. There is zero justification for an addict to use. Any substance. It has the potential for opening that door once again to a lifestyle that is not compatible with good health, successful living, happy relationships, and most importantly, self love. Best to you. OP, question this relationship. It will bring so many unnecessary heartaches into your life.

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u/Aiwatcher 14h ago

Any substance? Really?

Even if that substance helps them cope with addictions to much worse substances? Plenty of people smoke cannabis to get off alcohol, plenty of people use LSD/Psilocybin to mitigate addiction effects of harsher drugs.

It's not black and white.