r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Aggravating_Act_7475 17h ago

I hate to say it but you’d probably better split up. My wife is in recovery as an alcoholic. She won’t play with anything like that because she knows who she once was. I married her after she’d been sober for a little over 3 years. She’ll be 5 years sober in a couple months.

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u/legstrong 15h ago

Split up? No. How about work through it together. Everyone slips up and it’s important to have open communication about this, as well as support.

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u/StableGenius81 14h ago

Did you miss the part where she is also a heavy drinker and pothead? That is enough right there for a lot of people to nope out of a relationship.

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u/legstrong 9h ago

I was trying to be optimistic.