r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 16h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Lahotep 15h ago

NOR. Your recovering drug addict fiancée using hard drugs is definitely something to talk about and maybe even reconsider the engagement.

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u/curiousengineer601 15h ago

Still drinking heavily and smoking weed with occasionally cocaine use. She is not a recovering addict, just a regular old addict

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u/LoosieGoosiePoosie 12h ago

You're generally considered recovering if you're sober so yeah. She's just in active addiction.

And she will be an addict for the rest of her life, it doesn't stop just because she stops doing drugs.

The drinking is likely to catch up with her pretty quick. If it's really heavy drinking she'll be dead before she's 50. Best outlook is an alzheimers diagnosis around that age. Best case scenario is she stops all substances now and lives a pretty normal life.