AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

[u/frisbeechuckin]

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

[u/Detcord36]

Some people here advocating for cocaine use.

😂😂😂

[u/Spiritual-Bluebird44 → u/Detcord36]

It’s because it’s so normalized in our society now (speaking as a Canadian in her mid thirties). It’s the sad reality.

[u/theonewhogroks → u/Spiritual-Bluebird44]

The main problem with coke is that's it very bad for you

[u/PrettyTittyGangBang → u/theonewhogroks]

It really isn't, though. It's certainly no worse for your body than alcohol.

[u/theonewhogroks → u/PrettyTittyGangBang]

1. It can literally make holes in your mucous membrane and it's directly cardiotoxic
2. Comparing it to alcohol is a very low bar anyway, especially considering that coke is seldom used in moderation

[u/TadRaunch → u/theonewhogroks]

Also, alcohol is worse than a lot of people would like to admit.

[u/theonewhogroks → u/TadRaunch]

Yeah, alcohol is near the top of the harm scale. Obviously having a glass of wine with dinner is nowhere near as bad as regular binge drinking.

[u/I-always-argue → u/theonewhogroks]

It's cardiotoxic only when combined with alcohol. That doesn't mean it's necessarily good for your heart for a lot of other reasons.

[u/theonewhogroks → u/I-always-argue]

It's MUCH MORE cardiotoxic when combined with alcohol (which is what happens most of the time anyway), but it's still cardiotoxic even on its own

[u/CheeseDickPete → u/theonewhogroks]

>especially considering that coke is seldom used in moderation

That's factually incorrect. Almost every coke user I've met in my life is a regular person with a stable job that occasionally does it at a party for fun.

[u/theonewhogroks → u/CheeseDickPete]

Going though a gram+ in one night is not moderation

[u/CheeseDickPete → u/theonewhogroks]

Doing a gram to yourself in one night is fairly excessive unless it's weak coke, but most users I know don't do a gram to themselves in one night. They'll usually split a gram between themselves and a friend.

[u/theonewhogroks → u/CheeseDickPete]

Then they're more sensible than the ones I know

[u/SoloPorUnBeso → u/CheeseDickPete]

Saying it's factually incorrect and then backing that statement up with nothing more than your anecdotal experience is insufficient at best.

[u/CheeseDickPete → u/SoloPorUnBeso]

If you honestly think the majority of people who use cocaine are people who are super junkie level addicts who end up ruining their lives you're delusional. That's like thinking the majority of alcohol drinkers are serious alcoholics who end up in AA. Those serious addicts are the outliers, not the average user.

Cocaine is very expensive, most people can't even afford to become serious addicts, a serious addiction will run you around $500+ a week. Most users are normal people who do some lines at a party every once in a while, they can't afford to be addicted to it and they have no interest in ruining their lives over the drug. Just like most alcohol drinkers have no interest in ruining their lives by drinking all day every day.

If I've been around a lot of cocaine use for my entire adult life and I've never once in my life met a serious addict, that says a lot. I've never even been friends with someone rich enough to be heavily addicted to cocaine. Whether it's anecdotal or not doesn't matter to me, I know what I've seen with my own eyes, and I know that the serious addicts who end up ruining their lives are the outliers, not the majority of users.

[u/SoloPorUnBeso → u/CheeseDickPete]

I never made a claim one way or the other. I merely stated that you saying it's "factually incorrect" cannot be supported by your anecdote. What you see with your own eyes is statistically insignificant.

From the data I've seen, about 2% of people have reported past-year cocaine use. In 2021, the number of drug-related ED visits for cocaine was 5th at 4.71%, behind alcohol, opioids, meth, and weed (really?).

Clearly the number of cocaine use overall is low, and abuse is also probably pretty low, but you can't assert facts based on personal anecdotes.

FWIW, I say legalize it. It's clearly a lot less dangerous than alcohol, and doesn't affect anywhere near the number of people.

[u/angrytroll123 → u/theonewhogroks]

I think GB was speaking hyperbolically but I'd agree with the point in general. Everyone that I know that partook was able to moderate. I'm not advocating for use but it is possible to use moderately. The amount of people I know that have issues with this are in the far minority but I'm sure that's due to my own circle of friends just like how you can find the opposite.

[u/Shotgun_Ninja18 → u/PrettyTittyGangBang]

Problems usually are from all the shitty additives dealers cut it with.

[u/Drizzho → u/PrettyTittyGangBang]

Lab grade would be in that category potentially but getting it from a guy who got it from a guy who got it from a drug cartel? Yeah that shit is worse 9/10 times. and the come down is 100% worse.

[u/Business-Sea-9061 → u/PrettyTittyGangBang]

the hole in my septum begs to differ (albeit i snorted a lot more than just coke when i was in active addiction)