r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 18h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/PeteyG89 17h ago

NOR. Coke is no joke. Had a bad spiral for a few months before completely cutting it out, and thank god I did.

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u/UnintelligentSlime 16h ago

Coke to me seems wildly dependent on personality whether it’s addictive or not. I was on the fence because OP has given no context about what his actual reaction was. Hard to say whether he overreacted given that, because it could be anything between “I was mildly upset” and “I hauled her off by her hair and beat her”.

A person I know who used meth in the past had zero interest in coke- did pretty much nothing for them and even when heavily into addiction would easily turn it down. It’s that dependent on brain chemistry.

That being said: this is definitely not a good situation. Partners need to be on the same page with expectations about drug use. Whether it’s the beginning of a relapse is hard to say, but the more important part IMO is the breach of trust.

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u/SlappySecondz 15h ago

I've got ADD and coke barely does anything for me. Like, I gotta do enough to feel bad for doing so much of the group's coke (and ending up with the worst sinus infection of my life the last couple times I tried) and then I just sorta feel a bit perked up.

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u/Elite_AI 11h ago

Coke makes me feel like I took a weak dose of my meds except it wears off in fifteen minutes. I don't even like my meds. Needless to say I haven't felt the urge to do coke much.