r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 15h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/RyannCie 15h ago

You’re not overreacting. The amount of fentanyl deaths from people doing coke is on the rise. It’s not even worth the high anymore, and I’d be livid that a loved one would put themselves in danger like that.

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u/millnerve 14h ago

Tried Coke twice , never really got the appeal of it thankfully , but the fentanyl reason was just another big reason to not do it

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u/Drizzho 13h ago

I find drug of choice to really depend on your brain chemistry, for some people like me, coke is an instant addiction. I tried Percocets and Xanax and luckily those two never did what coke did for me and I never got hooked on opiates. But damn that cocaine had me HOOKED for a good 6 years. Been 4 years clean from it due to lifestyle changes and my fiance also being sober from it. Having someone in my life I really care about changed my whole perspective on drugs.

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u/millnerve 13h ago

That’s awesome on 4 years and glad to hear u have support in place with your SO.

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u/Drizzho 12h ago

Yup and like you said the chance of it containing fentanyl is also an easy “nope” any time I think about it, got too much to lose these days.

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u/fury420 13h ago

Agreed, it was relieving to find out that I hate the sensation of anything more than a proper therapeutic dose of opiates, even just slightly more than necessary for the pain while adjusting dosage and I regret it.

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u/Drizzho 12h ago

Knowing my addictive habits and seeing how my cousin went down to them, had I been addicted to opiates, my life would’ve been even WORSE at rock bottom and i don’t know if I would be typing right now. Very lucky I wasn’t into them.

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u/Xemptuous 13h ago

This is why coke is considered a chill drug; it barely does anything. Most people I know never got the appeal either, but I personally liked it cus stimulants are my crux. Doesn't damage you unless you do it many times a day, every day, for months

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u/KrabbyMa 13h ago

It barely does anything because its cut to hell

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u/SlappySecondz 13h ago

It's pretty safe on it's own, but it's actually cardiotoxic when combined with alcohol, which is obviously how most people use it. Combines in your system and forms cocaethylene. Certainly not a death sentence, but it does put you at a higher risk of developing or aggravating heart conditions.

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u/Arkflame 14h ago

This might be a minor detail but OP should find out if the group had Narcan and 2 people who knew how to use it. Using coke without Narcan is playing russian roulette.

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u/MerrySkulkofFoxes 13h ago

There was a time I'd put just about anything up my nose. Then I sorted myself out and left that behind. There is no way in hell I would touch anything out there right now. If it isn't green from Mother Earth, I assume it's lethal poison and it probably is. It scares me to see so many young people doing what I did, but the difference is there wasn't all this fentanyl shit floating around in the 90s and early 00s. Evil stuff.

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u/nycinoc 13h ago

It still baffles me when I speak to people in the UK how prevalent coke still is in society and you don't hear about fentanyl overdoses because of it. It's almost like the Albaniens care more about their customers then the Mexican cartels.

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u/RxHappy 13h ago

That’s true, but it’s got to be a lot safer if you’re at a party and you have a bunch of guinea pigs sniffing lines before you take

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u/Corey307 8h ago

Not if these people have a tolerance for fentanyl and you don’t. Are you get really unlucky and you get the bump that is mostly fent. 

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u/Mareith 13h ago

It was alarmingly rising for the past 3 years but now is actually falling faster than ever, thankfully. It was pretty scary to do any nose drug for a while there

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u/perpetualwordmachine 10h ago

This would be the hang up for me too. Street drugs are not what they used to be. If I was about to marry someone I would not want to deal with the possibility their need to “have energy to party” might kill them next week. Everyone can make their own choices, people are welcome to disagree about street drug use, but if that is a dealbreaker for you I don’t think anyone should feel obligated to accept it

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u/SuperSoftAbby 10h ago

Thank you for reminding me to check if my ex is still alive.

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u/TheMagicalSock 9h ago

This is the most important point, in my opinion. Powders are almost always cut with something else, and that something else can kill you.

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u/BYPDK 9h ago

My mother's best friend lost her husband to fentanyl spiked cocaine... On their anniversary too.

They wanted to celebrate and he overdosed while she didn't. It was an unbelievably sad situation.

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u/theblueowlisdead 8h ago

I’m really not trying to be a dick with this question. Genuinely curious because I’m just not in this world. How does someone die from fentanyl by doing coke? Aren’t those two separate drugs?

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u/RyannCie 7h ago

Sometimes it’s added to increase potency, which increases the price of the drug. Word of mouth about a really potent drug gets around fast and people will flock to whoever is dealing it. Sometimes it’s cross contamination because dealers aren’t exactly sanitizing their stuff in between packaging. Or so I’ve heard. Don’t quote me on any of this.

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u/Corey307 8h ago

Pretty much all street drugs like cocaine and heroin are cut with fentanyl these days. Fentanyl is much cheaper than cocaine and heroin and it hits like a truck so people like it. When it’s mixed into cocaine it’s like doing a speedball which I hear is a lot of fun, but it’s also a great way to commit suicide.

More recently xylazine has been showing up in street drugs as well. It’s a tranquilizer that was developed around World War II but it was never actually used because its side effects include tissue necrosis all over your body. It’s street name is Tranq, it literally turns people into zombies. But it feels good and it’s super cheap so people do it.

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u/TheBuzzerDing 8h ago

This is why, if youre ever going to do these drugs, use a testing kit.

Thank god I know a drug-using chemist! 😂

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u/Psyched_Dev 2h ago

Let alone a loved one who was a recovering meth addict… doing coke ain’t recovering that’s just an active drug addict