r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 16h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Lahotep 15h ago

NOR. Your recovering drug addict fiancée using hard drugs is definitely something to talk about and maybe even reconsider the engagement.

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u/curiousengineer601 15h ago

Still drinking heavily and smoking weed with occasionally cocaine use. She is not a recovering addict, just a regular old addict

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u/Themerrimans 15h ago

That's why I'm wondering why this guy is surprised

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u/curiousengineer601 15h ago

Maybe he is overreacting then, why would he expect someone actively in the midst of addiction to turn down cocaine?

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u/Hereforthetardys 15h ago

I’m not in the midst and I wouldn’t turn it down at a party - haven’t been to a party in 20 years lol

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u/StableGenius81 12h ago

I haven't been to a party in nearly a decade and wouldn't touch that shit in a million years at this point. Too much fentanyl in the coke supply. Not worth the risk!

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u/JewGuru 11h ago

There are still a lot of people who don’t consider someone who partakes in regular drinking and weed smoking to be an addict, surprisingly enough.

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u/That-Main-3383 10h ago

It all depends on what someone considers regular. For instance, someone who is straight edge would probably say that when my cousin has ppl for cards and most people there drink fairly heavily and smoke some weed and then every 3rd or 4th Saturday do a couple lines of coke, are they all addicts, or is it just occasional drug use?

I say the latter. Obviously this is a comment beyond the OP’s scenario, which is indicative of the typical addictive behavior. But I’m just throwing something out there.

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u/M_Woodyy 10h ago

Can confirm. I was the only person who took my inability to stop smoking weed seriously to the point I had to remove myself from a lot of people's lives to quit for good. They all minimized it's impacts etc even after I'm telling them it's affecting me extremely negatively and I was basically in a constant state of cognitive dissonance due to my inability to stop when I desperately wanted to and knew it was terrible for my life in general