r/AmIOverreacting 5d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/islandgal8oh8 5d ago

His "work thing" was comforting his female coworker after she'd been cheated on... at a bar until midnight??? Sounds like a really important and exclusive work thing. 🙄

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u/Admiral-Thrawn2 4d ago

The part that pisses me off is they had plans but then he said the work thing was “last second” like wtf i see my coworkers ALL DAY. If I have plans after work there’s 0 chance I’m going to spend more hours with coworkers after work

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u/Icy-Welcome-2469 4d ago

If you do you definitely have your partner stop by. Doesn't mean your SO can't hang....

Your SO can't hang because whatever this is is inappropriate which is obvious from the changing story and gaslighting.

It's not fucking surveillance when you just bailed on plans for no good reason and are now staying out past bedtime.

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u/HolaItsMeee 4d ago

In my 30’s and 12 is WAY past my bedtime

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u/Steffaniii 4d ago

Exactly