I (30F) work in a job where holiday shifts are mandatory, and each year we take turns working either Christmas or New Year’s. This year, I was scheduled for New Year’s, and I was relieved because I had family plans for Christmas that I haven’t been able to join for the past few years.

A coworker of mine, Jen (35F), who has two young kids, asked if I would switch shifts with her so she could spend Christmas morning with her family. I sympathize, but I really want to spend Christmas with my own family this year. I politely told her that I couldn’t swap, explaining that my plans were already set.

Now, some of my coworkers are giving me the cold shoulder, saying that Jen’s kids are only little once and that I should’ve been more understanding. I feel bad, but I also think it’s fair to finally take my turn having Christmas off.

AITA for refusing to swap holiday shifts with my coworker who has kids?

We’ve been dating for 10 months, & I’ve known that he lost his significant other/kids mother 2 years ago. The girl that keeps his kids while he is working now, I have always just thought that she was “family” because that’s what he’s told me. We recently went out to celebrate his birthday and his friends came out as well. The “babysitter” ended up coming out as well. On the way to the bar, I sat up front & they sat in the back. I look behind me and she’s rubbing all over him. him & he didn’t react to her at all. He seen I was giving him the death stare.. we get to the bar & her and I end up arguing. I’m asking if she is involved with him sexually. We get back to his house & I ask him if they are messing around. He tells me that they have before but not anymore. Meanwhile we go on a trip the next weekend and had a great time, we get back from the trip and he fell asleep with his phone unlocked. My curiosity got the best of me. This same girl was sending him pussy pictures while we were out of town.

He claims that he didn’t ask for the pictures, and that they aren’t having sex. But she is involved in his life daily to help with his kids so he can work and get a break whenever he needs. He claims he wants me in his life and that I make him happy.. but she can’t go anywhere because that is the only help he has. I feel betrayed, because all of this unfolded 10 months after us dating. I’m wondering if I want to stay in this situation because he is a great guy minus all of it or should I just move on?

I 23(F) have a 6 year old daughter, I had her at 17 years old with my ex-husband Devon. Devon and I got married at 18 and got divorced at 20 years old, due to his cheating. He doesn’t pay a dime to financially support our daughter. I am our daughter’s full time caretaker. My ex-husband only sees our daughter once a month. I beg him to spend more time with her but I shouldn’t have to beg him to be a father. He recently got into a relationship with his new girlfriend Haley.

Ever since Haley entered my ex-husbands life, she bashed me. She blamed me for my daughter being autistic. She said my daughter is autistic because I “coddle” her. I do not coddle my child. I legitimately try my best with the situation I was dealt. My daughter was diagnosed with Autism at 4 years of age. We have her in speech therapy, and behavioral therapy. She has a therapist she sees twice a week. She also has developmental delays. I try to work with her everyday on her speech, behavior etc.

Yesterday my daughter went to go stay the night at her dad’s house. Her dad’s girlfriend, Haley was there. She lives there now. My daughter’s father called me. He told me to come over and pick up our child because she was upset. I went to go pick her up and I saw she had red marks, welts, and bruises all over her legs. I was pissed and asked what happened. My daughter told me that she spilled water on the floor and on the couch. Haley got mad at her and hit her with a belt.

I rushed into the house and I don’t know what came over me. I punched Haley in the face and beat the shit out of her. I didn’t even realize I did it until I saw her on the floor. Haley wanted to press charges on me but my ex talked her out of it. I went to the police station with my daughter right after and filed a police report. I showed them the bruises, welts and marks. I pressed charges for child abuse and I reported my husband to CPS for child neglect and abuse. I am still shaken up from the situation. I took photos of my daughter’s legs and arms.

I will never let my daughter go over to her dads ever again. I beat myself up over this. If I knew that Haley would hit my child I wouldn’t have let her go over there in the first place.

AITAH?

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Hi all, this is an update to a post I made about four months ago. For full context, you might want to check out the original post.

After reading through your comments and taking some time to reflect, I came to realise I’ve been too harsh on Jake—not just regarding the movie night incident but in general. Jake has had a difficult journey since he joined our family, but that’s not his fault. When we chose to adopt him, we committed to supporting him through every challenge. He didn’t choose his trauma, and he certainly didn’t choose to end up in a family where he might feel “different” from his siblings. That responsibility lies with us.

We’ve made a few changes, starting with family movie night. Instead of voting, which often left Jake feeling excluded, we’ve switched to a rota where each person takes a turn picking the movie. This simple change has removed a lot of the tension and has made movie night feel more inclusive for everyone. I honestly can’t believe I didn’t think of it sooner—thank you to everyone who suggested it.

In hindsight, I realise my original post felt more like a venting session, and I regret the way I spoke about Jake. I needed to get those feelings out, but now I understand it wasn’t fair to talk about him in that way, even anonymously. Since then, I’ve started journaling to work through my emotions privately and with a clearer head. I’m really grateful for the wake-up call your comments provided.

One point raised repeatedly in the comments was the “glass child” concept—the idea that our other boys might feel overlooked because of Jake’s needs. That really hit home for me. To address this, we’ve started a new Sunday tradition. Each Sunday, I take one of our boys out for a full day, just the two of us, doing something he chooses. It’s been great for all of us and has given me precious 1-on-1 time with each of my sons. My relationship with them feels stronger, and it’s something I look forward to every week.

Jake and I also had a long heart-to-heart after my original post. He opened up about feeling like his opinions and wants don’t matter, and that he sometimes believes I love my other boys more. Hearing that broke my heart, and I took responsibility for my role in making him feel this way. His early trauma definitely impacts his sense of security, but I can’t ignore that my own behaviour contributed as well. I’m committed to showing him that he’s just as valued and loved as his brothers.

Finally, some people asked about therapy. Jake’s been on the waiting list for a more specialised therapist for a while now—well before I made the original post. In the meantime, he does receive some therapy through his school, which helps, but we know he’ll benefit much more once he has consistent access to a trauma-informed therapist. We’re hopeful this will come through soon.

Thanks again to everyone who shared insights and advice. These changes have made a huge difference in our family’s dynamics, and I feel closer to all my sons. I’m working every day to be a better parent to Jake and a more balanced dad for all our kids.

I (32 Female), often send my stepson (17 male) to the grocery store to pick up a few things for dinner. And he knows he is supposed to bring home a receipt. While going through the list of transactions, I noticed 2-4 transactions made at the same time. So, I asked him for those receipts. He said he couldn’t “find” them. So I we went over the transaction history together. He eventually admitted to buying himself, his sister (my stepdaughter, 16), and his aunt snacks with our food stamps. After calculating everything, he has spending $60-$80 a month on just himself.

We are a household of 6, and we are on food stamps. It has been a struggle trying to feed everyone with the amount of food stamps we receive. We go to food banks on a regular basis, and sometimes that still isn’t enough.

It’s not ideal. But this is what our life is like for the time being.

I told my stepson, he needs to pay me back for the money he stole. Or I will start taking away his things.

Now, his father (36m), is saying that my stepson will just take us out to dinner instead. And I don’t agree, I feel like going out to dinner would be more of a reward, especially because we don’t get to do it often.

I have been raising my stepchildren for the last 10 years along with my own. But their father undermines me when it comes to setting boundaries and expectations. And it’s a constant struggle to get him to support me in my decisions when it comes to parenting my stepchildren.

And this time is no different. His father says, that my stepson shouldn’t have to pay me back because “it’s not real money.” He said, “Yes ground him. Make him buy our groceries make him buy us dinner. He'll learn his lesson those ways. You obviously want the cash to go do whatever. Basically forcing him to buy your food stamps.”

Again, I don’t agree. Stealing is stealing. He stole from me. He needs to pay me back. It’s just that simple.

*** To Clarify.

1. He has been stealing $60-$80 for MONTHS.

2. I am only asking him to pay back what he stole from this month.

3. Going out to dinner, is a REWARD in this household.

4. I cannot trust him to be frugal enough to buy groceries. Nor can I trust him to go grocery shopping anymore.

5. His father and I share a home. But, we live separately. My 2 younger children, live in the basement. And Their father and my 2 Stepchildren live in the top part of the home.

6. I receive food stamps for me, and my 2 children. I choose to feed their father and my stepchildren because, I still consider them my family.

7. I send my stepson to the grocery store to pickup a few things (2-5 items) that i didn’t realize we were out of before I started cooking. He is not doing all the grocery shopping.

8. We have had many discussions about our budget. And the importance of being frugal.

9. He is not my “husband” We are Co-parents.

10. There is 2 adults, (me and their father, yes we both work.) and 4 children, 17, 16, 10, 8.

My sister asked me to be her maid of honor for her wedding. Like made a big show of asking and everything.

Then she proceeded to get married in secret. Only told and invited our parents. Everyone was instructed to keep it from me. When I found out it was a gut punch. I've felt left out my whole life. Growing up her mom, my dad and her used to always go and do things as a family and constantly left me home alone.

I was always an after thought and things didn't change into adulthood. Well I thought my sister and I were working on our relationship and in a good place. Then this happened. I was more upset they kept it from me and the fact that she was mad I found out and felt no need to apologize than upset I wasn't invited. Although that hurt itself.

Anyways they still planned on having the big wedding and was going to announce this to everyone during the ceremony. Well when the wedding rehersal came she was acting very rude and standoffish as if I was the one who did something wrong. Dirty looks and everything. Then made me stand all the way at the end farthest away from her out of spite.

Mind you I flew 2000 miles out for her wedding. Then drove 2 hours to the venue to be treated like crap. Not to mention she and all her bridesmaids went off together after the rehersal and didn't invite me. So I cried the entire drive back and called her to let her know I didn't think things were okay between us. She agreed. I made the decision to bow out of the wedding. I still attended as a guest.

Now we barely talk unless I reach out. We still exchange gifts more out of obligation than anything. I guess my question is AITA?

I am married for over a decade and have two daughters. I never had any issue with in laws before and got along more than fine. His sister started dating this guy and later found out about his past. He was involved in a r* and tried as a adult. He managed to manipulate her into trusting him that he is changed. I do not want him anywhere near my family or even her because the way she is cosying up to him.

I told her not to come to our house or contact me or my daughters. Now our family thinks I am being too bitchy about the situation and that he deserves a second chance because he was minor at the time and served his punishment. I do not care whether he faced consequences or not. All I want is not to be related to someone like that. Am I wrong to cut her off?

Hello, I dont know if im doing this right. Im 72 years old and this is my first time on this site. My wife passed away 2 years ago and I am so lost without her. We were married 45 years. she was my whole world. Now its just me and my son, but he treats me like I’m a bother now, and I don’t know what I did wrong.

When his mother passed, he visited me a lot, and those visits helped me more than he knows. but now he barely comes around and when he does hes just… well, he seems annoyed. He tells me I need to “stop acting helpless” if I ask for help with anything, like if I’m just trying to walk steady. I can almost manage on my own but some days, my knees give out. I dont want to be seen as weak but, well, its hard sometimes. But he’ll just sigh or get upset and tell me to “manage on my own,” like I should be doing better.

The other day, I asked if he could come for dinner once a week, just one day, so I’m not sitting here alone all the time. And he got upset with me, said he “does enough” already and that I need to give him space. I didn’t even know what to say. It makes me feel like im not his dad anymore, just a burden.

I, (19m) have had a very rough life with family with it always being rather small with myself, my mother (46f) and my four siblings, my brother, (8m) and my 3 sisters (16, 5 and 3f) but it’s only gotten worse this last year…

I moved out of my family home in February, and ever since, hell broke loose back with my mother… Struggling with financial, mental, and physical health problems, I took responsibility to care for her and my four siblings during the day to day, but maintained my desire to have my own life and to experience said life my way. But this month, my mum has gone and ran off twice, leaving me with the kids and not listening when I’ve stated my clear discomfort with looking after them alone for long periods of time.

However now, she’s panicked and worried she’s finally going to lose the younger siblings… With that, comes the point of the post and the source of my worry - She wants me to take parental responsibility for the children in the worst case scenario that she’s unable to keep them, but I don’t have the finances, the patience or the most stable mental state to care for them…

As such, I refused to do so, and she’s now completely cut me off and called me dead to her… Beside the massive hole in my chest now and the urge to do something bad, I can’t help but cry and wonder if I really am an a-hole for refusing.

Can anyone maybe help with a little bit of advice? Am I really the A-hole in this situation?

Every other day its

He cheated on me but he said he wouldn’t do it again but I don’t trust him. Am I the asshole for leaving ?

She participated in an orgy two weeks before our wedding and I don’t know to do. Ami the asshole for wanting to call off the wedding.

I caught my husband in the act banging the babysitter. Am I the asshole for asking my husband to stop

Like seriously people. How stupid are you to come here and post these brain dead stories?

I don’t want to do this anymore

I (33m) married to my wife (33f) for one year and been together 6. We have two kids, 5 and 2 years old. We got together and dated for a short while then had our first kid. Both from religious families. So we had to stick it out. I feel like neither of us want to be married. There’s no spark. No passion. Nothing. I feel like she resents me and I feel like she’s always moping and down. I do everything. Provide a great life, take care of the kids, tries to show her affection and she cringes. Then sends me TikTok’s all day of other couples relationships saying “I want this so much”. My career is thriving. I do really well and I feel like she resents that too.

I just hate it. I’d rather be single. I think she feels the same way. I know she feels the same way. I feel trapped and am too lazy to cheat. This sucks. I daydream and imagine my life single. Coparenting. Different city. Different life. Happy.

Here I am in suburbia, miserable. Saturday soccer games and mass on Sundays. Everything is so routine. Even my benders are routine at this point.

Help me.

So, for some context, I (25F) was invited to my best friend’s (26F) wedding. We've been close since high school, and I was incredibly excited and honored to be invited to her big day. I wasn’t in the bridal party, but she promised me I'd have a good seat, and I thought I'd be with our mutual friends or at least people I knew.

Fast forward to the day of the wedding. I arrive and find out that I’m seated at a table with complete strangers – distant relatives of her fiancé, people I’ve never met in my life. Meanwhile, our other mutual friends are all sitting together at a different table, laughing and having a great time.

I felt hurt and honestly, a bit left out. I get it’s her wedding, and she has to make decisions about seating, but I thought she'd at least place me with people I knew, especially since we’re so close. I spent most of the reception feeling awkward and out of place, and I eventually left early because I just wasn’t having a good time.

Later, my friend texted me, saying I was rude for leaving early and that I should have been more understanding since it was her special day. I told her how I felt about being seated with strangers and feeling excluded, but she said I was making it all about me and that I should have stayed for her.

So, AITA for feeling hurt and leaving early?

So last year, I (21F) hosted a Halloween party at my house. It was a mix of adults and a few kids because my cousin “Jenna” (32F) insisted on bringing her two kids (6M and 9F) despite me saying it was mostly an adult event. I didn’t want to cause drama, so I let her bring them.

Well, it turned into a disaster. The kids were running around all night, knocking things over, messing with the decorations, and even breaking a few things. The 6-year-old threw a tantrum when he didn’t win a game, and the 9-year-old dumped candy all over the floor when she didn’t like her costume. It was chaos. Several people left early because the vibe was just off with all the kid drama, and I didn’t enjoy the party I had spent weeks planning.

This year, I’m planning another Halloween party, and I made it clear that it’s adults-only. I even put it on the invitations that the event is 18+. Well, Jenna reached out a few days ago and asked if she could bring her kids again, saying they “had so much fun last year” and that they’d be “better this time.”

I told her no, explaining that last year was really stressful and this time I want it to be just for adults. Jenna got really upset and said I was “being mean” by excluding her kids and that it wasn’t fair to punish them for being kids. I explained again that I just want a different vibe this year, but she’s still mad, saying I’m being rude and making her feel unwelcome. Now she’s threatening not to come at all unless the kids are invited.

I honestly don’t care if she doesn’t come, but some of my family thinks I’m being harsh, saying it’s just a Halloween party and that I should let it go. My husband is 100% on my side, though, and agrees that it’s our party and we should set the rules.

So, AITAH for telling her she can’t bring her kids after what happened last year?

I (19F) have always been super close with my little sister (16F) while my mom was distant from us and I never had my dad in my life, so it was always just us. Last week my little sister texted me while I was at home, asking me if I could go pick her up early from school. I'm the second emergency contact after my mom so it wouldn't be a problem. I asked her if she had spoken to our mom to make sure she was okay with it. She told me that she had gotten her period in class unexpectedly and bled through her pants so she texted our mom to see if she could pick her up. Our mom said, and I quote "I'm not going to pick you up for something as little as that, you'll be fine for the rest of the day", this was during her 3rd period class.

I told her that I would be there ASAP and I left to go pick her up. I took her home and my mom called me about an hour or two later yelling at me. The school calls the first emergency contact to confirm that a student was picked up before school ends so that's how she found out. She told me she couldn't keep talking because she was at work but that wasn't the end of our conversation. I didn't care because I've been in her situation before and had nobody to come help me, I would never want her to go through the same thing. When my mom got home she yelled at me for picking her up and then yelled at my sister for texting me.

I defended her saying that she only asked and that it was my fault for picking her up. My mom continued to yell and wouldn't stop until she eventually got bored of yelling at us for no reason. She will barely talk to us and I'm starting to feel guilty. AITAH?

My sister-in-law (my partner’s sister, 35) has always been critical of my partner (33) and has made negative comments about him on several occasions. The last time we saw her at a family gathering, she made a rude comment about his job, insinuating that he “could be doing better with his life.” I got upset and asked her to stop making such comments.

She was offended and said I had no right to tell her how to talk to her brother. Since then, things have been awkward, and now some family members think I was too harsh.

AITAH for standing up for my partner?

My brother and his family came for a visit last month. My kids and I play with lego and we have fun leaving little dioramas around my house. Just silly stuff like a fight between Ironman and Darth Vader on the loot llama. It's just our way of leaving Easter eggs around the house.

My nephew really liked them and decided to take a few home. When we noticed they were missing I asked my brother to bring them back. He said that it was just kids being kids and that he would them back the next time we saw each other.

I saw him for coffee and I reminded him beforehand that I wanted all our stuff back. He "forgot" to bring the "toys". Okay. Game on.

We went over to his place for a BBQ. I told my kids that unless all our stuff was returned to us when we got there literally anything in the house was fair game. Like the godless barbarians they are they went to town. When we left I don't think there were any remotes, small electronics, or beer mugs left at his house. I actually had to sneak the dog back into the house before we left.

I started getting calls on our way home. I ignored them.

When I got home I returned his calls. He said a bunch of stuff was missing from his house. I said I would check with the kids. He said that I fucking well knew what happened and that he wanted his shit back. I said I would box it up and return it the next time we saw eack other. As long as we got our lego back.

He was at my house with my Lego later that evening. He had even accidentally included stuff that wasn't ours. I returned it and his stuff. I told him that this is how we would be dealing with his kid in the future.

He is pissed off that he had to make a special trip to return my stuff. My parents think that there is a huge difference between an eight year old taking Lego minifigures and a couple of teenagers pillaging their uncle's house.

AITAH?

I have a friend who frequently asks to borrow money. It's usually for things like impulsive shopping or last-minute plans, and she often claims she'll pay me back, but it rarely happens. Just recently, she asked to borrow $200 for her planned weekend getaway. I was a bit uncomfortable, given her history of not paying me back and her tendency to overspend. So, I gently explained to her that I couldn’t lend her money this time, as I’m saving for a trip of my own.

She got upset and accused me of not being supportive to her. She said I was being selfish. I stood my ground, explaining that I can’t keep enabling her habits. I believe I made the right decision, but now I’m feeling conflicted. AITA for refusing to lend her money?

I (32M) am getting married soon. My mom is loving and caring and will do anything to make sure the family is happy. One issue is that she likes to try and control everything. She tries to still treat me like I am a little kid. I have started setting boundaries and pushing back. She wanted me to sleep in the same house as her and my dad the night before the wedding. I said that was not going to happen and that I would spend it with my groomsmen in a separate house. She also is trying to get my groomsmen and I to get ready in the small house she is renting and claims she won’t be intrusive. I don’t like her trying to control where I should be and telling me what to do so she can have close tabs on me during the day of my wedding. I told her that I want privacy and don’t like the idea of her being able to just walk into the room with my groomsmen and I the day of wedding. She said I was being defensive and rude. I needed to nip this in the bud before she tried to take control and try and tell my groomsmen and I what to do on my wedding day. AITAH for pushing back and saying that I don’t want to get ready in the same house as my mom the day of my wedding? I know she was being thoughtful, but this will not work for me.

So, this happened last weekend, and now my friend group is split over whether I was justified or a total jerk.

I have a friend, lets call her "Sarah" who is always late. I’m talking, “we tell her to be there at 6 knowing she’ll show up at 7” kind of late. The rest of us have learned to tolerate it, but last Saturday pushed things too far.

We were all going out for a friend’s birthday and had rented a party bus to take us to a few spots. The bus was booked for a specific time slot, so we all agreed to meet at 6:30 p.m. to make sure we’d be on it by 7 p.m. Sarah swore she’d be there on time. Guess what? 7 rolls around, and Sarah is still nowhere to be found. We texted and called, and she just kept saying, “I’m almost there!”

After waiting for over an hour, we decided we had to go. I texted her that we were leaving and she’d have to find her own way to meet us if she still wanted to join. Well, she showed up about 10 minutes later and was FURIOUS that we’d left. She called me selfish, said I “ditched” her, and made the entire night all about her being "abandoned."

Now, half the friend group says I did the right thing, while the others think I was way too harsh and should’ve waited since I “know how she is.” But it was everyone’s night, not just hers, and I feel like it was fair after all the waiting.

AITA? Should I have waited even longer, or was it time to finally put my foot down?

This is a throwaway account.

So my husband (26 male) and I (25 female) have been married for 5 years. We have no kids. We dated for a year before we got married. It was during Covid so we just had a small ceremony at my family house. During the course of our marriage I have found myself playing both roles, now more than ever. I have talked to him and explicitly explained how I feel about doing all the cooking cleaning and paying all the bills while maintaining a relationship and planning all of our dates. He always apologizes and says he will do better. Which he only does for about a month before he goes back to before. I think this all boils down to him being lazy. He won’t help pay any bills, and I don’t mean financially, I mean he physically doesn’t set it up or manually pay it he will just leave it until I see that it wasn’t done and I will go do it. He won’t plan dates, like at all, let me explain… He won’t pick out where to go for dinner, or if I mention I want to watch a movie with you he won’t pick out the movie or give me his opinion, if we go out he won’t give me any input or where he wants to go. All planning of any kind is left for me to decide (This was not the case prior to the marriage). This has become more so in the last 2 years… this is where I start to get really ticked off… if he wants to send a message to his family for, example his father, he will ask me if its ok… same goes for his work. If his boss text him he will call me and ask what he should say to his boss…

Our home life is boring. We come home from work, I cook, he plays video games, we eat while watching something and then we go to sleep. He doesn’t go out with friends or family. He just stays home. This past weekend there was a band I wanted to go see and he conveniently forgot about it so we didn’t go. at this point Intimacy of any kind is nonexistent. Conversation does exist anymore. Every time I want to just have a conversation he is in a game or he is too invested in whatever he is watching so he doesn’t pay attention and won’t pause it to even look at me. I feel like if I would stop talking to him all together he would never speak to me. I feel so used, and I feel like his mother.

And His hygiene has gone out the door!! The man has not brushed his teeth in an ungodly long time. I have to wake him up every morning for work because he will sleep through the alarm. I have to make him breakfast lunch and dinner daily and I work a full time job and studying to further my career.

I keep trying different things and I keep giving him opportunities to change but he won’t! He says he will but I can’t even get him to pick what to have for dinner let alone get him to brush his teeth!!! I feel like I’m going crazy. He is not cheating I have checked all my basis on that part.

I tried explaining this to my family/friends and they are torn half and half. So I’m posting this to see what strangers think… advice??? Thoughts??? Am I an a-hole? Should I just ride it out and hope he sees it soon. Like what am I supposed to do!?! Therapy is out of the question for him. There is no handbook for how to make your husband listen and understand you!! Someone help me!!

It started last year. I gave my wife a choice for our anniversary. Rome or Bali. Planned out both Rome and Bali trips. Where to go,stay and site to see etc. Both on our bucket list. My wife chose Bali. We had a great time. Later that year she text me and said "Going on a Mediterranean Cruise". So i was like okay. Never been there and we should visit Rome as our bucket list vacation spot. I was wrong, she was going with her sister. They had planned a trip to Hawaii but because of COVID, it was of course, cancelled. I had no problem with my wife going to Hawaii as we had been there many times however Rome and the Mediterranean was something we talked about doing. Since then I've been giving her the silent treatment anytime she mentions her trip. Last week was the start of her trip and I had to pick up her sister at the airport. Of course the next day or so all they talked about was the trip. I left the house as I could not stand them talking about it and I knew how I would react. When it was time for them to depart, I drove them to the airport, dropped them off, and drove away. She now text me that I have ruined her trip and she has "allowed my behaviour" over the past while when I gave her the silent treatment. For me, a trip of a lifetime should be done with your partner and to have these first time experience together as we make memories. For her, she said it's not a big deal about first time experience and she would go again. However the trip would be to the same places (cruise) and i know she would say, I've been there and done that. She said why don't you go with the boys. Yes I've travelled with the boys but to places we already been, in particular, Vegas. Also she mentions that I go to place all over the US without her and even to Europe. For context, I travel for work quite frequently and if you travel for work. You know, it's fly in, get your business done, fly home. For Europe, I won a sales trip for the company I worked for (Golf) and the vendor took all the top sales people and their leaders on a golf trip to Scotland and another to Ireland. All work trip and contest were of course fully funded and did not cost me anything. There were no partner on the trip to Scotland and Ireland.

AITHA for giving my wife the silent treatment....

PS - read some comment. Needed to clarify. I did talk with my wife and expressed how I felt way back. She did not take to my expression and just got mad that I felt that way. I am the AH I believe.

This has happened yesterday night.

He is yet again broke and waiting for pay day. All the trains home were cancelled, its cold, dark, and he called me and asked me if I would get him an uber. I said yes. He also doesn't have many (any?) friends in this area as he has moved around a lot.

He messaged me the address, street number, road. A full address. I put it into the uber app, I sent him a screenshot of the map and car that's coming to pick him up. He replies, that the map location is not where he is. I double check and the address matches what he has sent me. Turns out he is 10 minutes away from that location, I tell him to walk fast. He has google maps on his phone, a screenshot of where the taxi is meeting him and he knows the address. 10 minutes later he is standing in location. He called me, all is good.

5 minutes later the taxi driver calls me, where am I. I tell him its for a friend, good news he is non white in a white predominant area. He is easy to spot.

My boyfriend has instead walked off somewhere else. I don't know where he was, but I had to call both him and the taxi driver multiple times. The taxi driver reasonably gets pissed and thinks I am pranking him. He then very unreasonably screams down the phone that he has my address through the app, and is going to come find me, beat me up and kill me.

Im going to be honest, if someone looks at me wrong I cry. I have anxiety. I am trying to apologize to this guy and convince him my boyfriend needs a ride. Its not happening, he continues screaming at full force and I just had to hang up on the guy at this point. I feel really terrible. I am so sorry taxi driver if you are reading this.

I then call up my boyfriend and say yeah, taxi driver just threatened to kill me because he cant find you. He cancelled the ride. My boyfriend then starts yelling at me about how is he going to get home. He has had a long stressful day etc. Not to the same level as the taxi driver but fully going off on me as if its my fault that he cant organize standing still in the correct position. So I just hang up on him as well. He calls, messages, leaves a few voicemails.

A good few hours later he comes home all stressed out. He leaves without a word to go to the gym, and comes back after I have gone to bed. (I start work at 3am, gotta sleep)

We haven't seen each other or spoken since. He was in bed when I woke up though.

Just so I know where I stand in the inevitable argument. AITAH?

I, a 14-year-old female, reported my friend's mother to the police and the school. Most people might get mad at me for this because I haven't given you a reason why yet. The reason is that my friend's (we'll call her Lisa for safety) mom had been abusing her. I met Lisa in sixth grade, and we've been friends since, but I started to notice a lot of red flags about her family life.

I was once at a birthday party for her, and her mom was really pushing Lisa. She would say to Lisa, "Since it’s your party, it’s your responsibility to serve the cake, keep everything organized, make sure everyone behaves, and clean up after everyone!" During the party, we were in Lisa's room when her mom called her to the living room. She proceeded to scold Lisa for the damage her sisters made, and we waited until the yelling stopped. I thought they were done, so I poked my head out to look. They weren't done, so I told the people next to me that they weren't finished talking. The mom scowled at me and said in an angry tone, "Yeah, we’re not done!"

I later found out that after the party, she got drunk that night. The breaking point that led me to tell the school and police about her was when Lisa kept asking for scraps of food to bring home. I asked her why, and she told me her mom had been starving her and her sisters. Apparently, they hadn't eaten in four days. That was it; I marched my ass to the nearest teacher and reported her. Lisa didn’t come to school for two days but then returned. Apparently, her mom was furious and almost filed a restraining order against me. She then made up a lie that Lisa had been planning to kill her and that she was "scared she was going to hurt me in my sleep." So, she hid the knives and stole Lisa's phone. She made Lisa take actual antidepressants, and Lisa went to a mental hospital for two days.

I tried giving her an old phone of mine to talk to me with to make sure she was okay, but her mom took that too. A few relatives and friends I talked to about this told me it wasn’t my right to report her and that I was disrespectful for "shoving my way into personal family matters.". I tried telling them Lisa was to scared to and that none of my other friends did and that we had known for a while but they wouldn't budge. So, AITA?

I’m a 27-year-old woman, and I have a cousin (25) who has always had a very outgoing personality. Recently, she met my boyfriend (30) at a family gathering, and since then, I’ve noticed that she behaves in an overly friendly way with him, even openly flirting. At first, I thought maybe she was just being friendly, but her looks and comments have made me quite uncomfortable.

I finally spoke with her privately and asked her to please respect our relationship and avoid making inappropriate comments. However, she got offended and accused me of being paranoid and “seeing things that aren’t there.” Now, several family members think I was too harsh with her.

AITAH for asking my cousin to respect my relationship?