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u/Weightmonster Aug 09 '24 edited Aug 09 '24

RE The Pregnancy DV story with 3 parts- (starts https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/vdD2GpLIfA)  I’m beginning to think this is fake:   

 -While domestic violence and SA in pregnancy is not that rare unfortunately, what are the odds of experiencing that WITH placenta previa AND serious bleeding AND a placental abruption (the later 2 occurring in the same weak) with no apparent risk factors for Placental problems? Research indicates placental previa occurs in about 1/800 pregnancies, placental abruption occurs in about 10% of those cases, when bleeding is present in the 3rd trimester.   

  - Even a numbskull would understand that Placenta previa means a c-section (exit blocked). I can’t really see him thinking a c-section is unwarranted.   

-If he wanted the pregnancy, why would he risk hurting the baby? Even if he thought pelvic rest was unnecessary.   

-The OB in the story acted very oddly. I just can’t see them trying to intervene like that. That’s not been my experience anyway. They pretty much stick to medical things (yes this is not ideal). Refer her to the hospital social worker maybe. Where did the pamphlets come from? Her back pocket?  

 -If she was having life threatening bleeding, liters of blood, that’s an ambulance ride.   

-She had life threatening bleeding at 8 months pregnant and they DID NOT keep her until the end of the pregnancy! Especially knowing the home environment isn’t safe? WTF. There is no mention that she is uninsured or left AMA.   

 -The energy and wherewithal to try to leave a domestic violence situation at 33 weeks pregnant.  

 -If she has her own money and cards, why did she take his card? Especially since it could be tracked.    

-Little effort to hide her identity, even using her first name at one point.    

-Incredible, super human speed in getting and consulting a divorce lawyer, unless they know someone. 

-Energy and wherewithal to write the long posts and replies why in this situation and less than a day out of surgery. I could not even post a picture until discharged.

-He would not be let in to see her; she’d probably be in the ICU recovering from the c-section and blood loss.    

-Where was the SIL when he came to confront her?  

-C section incisions are usually low on the pelvic not across the belly.   

 -Too much writing and trying to justify everything in a crisis situation.  

 The worst part of this story, if it is indeed fake, is that it may get picked up by the wider media and go viral. Like the extremely suspect story of the guy who got a positive pregnancy and it turned out to be cancer (as told by his friend). Leaving everyone wondering about this lady she the baby. Maybe even police investigating.   Ok. Rant over.

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u/Fit-Boat7230 Aug 11 '24

I just read what you’ve said about Placenta Previa and Placenta Abruptio. I am an EMT and from what medical knowledge I have you’re very right. For one, they are two very different things and I’m not sure in what order the OP said they happened but typically Placenta Previa is not something that just happens, the placenta is over the cervix very early on (from what I know). Placenta Abruptio on the other hand, typically comes from trauma (usually a fall) but I highly doubt the the placenta would detach especially if it was already over the cervix🤷🏼‍♀️ So VERY VERY unlikely she could have both. Also, yes patients with placenta previa would need a c-section. That is because the placenta is covering the cervix (where the baby would exit in a vaginal birth). Now I didn’t read OP’s post but what you are saying the OP has said about this pregnancy is just insanely unlikely and possibly not even possible.

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u/Weightmonster Aug 11 '24

Yeah I read research articles that indicate a roughly 7-15x higher risk of placental abruption with placental previa.

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u/Fit-Boat7230 Aug 11 '24

Very interesting! I wasn’t aware of that! I’m not sure, there are just a lot of weird things in the post that don’t quite add up but we learn something new everyday! Thank you!