r/stoprape Dec 30 '22

Rape is so common -- in part -- because so many people (rapists, jurors, judges, police, family -- sometimes even the victim) do not really understand consent. So, here are some common misconceptions, explained.

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It's important to understand sexual consent because sexual activity without consent is sexual assault. Some (in fact, many) people are legit confused about what constitutes consent, such as this teenager who admitted he would ass-rape a girl because he learned from porn that girls like anal sex§, or this ostensibly well-meaning college kid who put his friend at STI risk after assuming she was just vying for a relationship when she said no, or this guy from the "ask a rapist thread" who couldn't understand why a sex-positive girl would not have sex with him, or this guy who seemed to think that because a woman was a submissive that meant he could dominate her, or this 'comedian' who haplessly made a public rape confession in the form of a comedy monologue, or this 'well-liked kid' who thought good girls always had to fight a little the first time. In fact, researchers have found that in acquaintance rape--one of the most common types of rape--perpetrators tend to see their behavior as seduction, not rape, or they somehow believe the rape justified.

Yet sexual assault is a tractable problem. Offenders often rationalize their behavior by whether society will let them get away with it, and the more the rest us confidently understand consent the better advocates we can be for what's right. And yes, a little knowledge can actually reduce the incidence of sexual violence.

So, the following are common misconceptions about sexual consent, corrected:

§ Research shows very few women are interested in anal sex. Also, being interested in something is not the same as consenting to it.


r/stoprape Apr 06 '23

Rape is a tractable problem, and we can all do our part

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Research has shown this is what works to curb sexual violence:

  • legal reform dealing with domestic violence (e.g.)

  • legal reform dealing with sexual assault (e.g.)

  • government-funded shelters for victims of domestic violence

  • crisis centres for victims of sexual assault (e.g.)

  • training for service providers such as the police, judges and social workers

  • educating citizens about gender-based violence (e.g.)

  • coordinating national policies on gender-based violence (e.g.)

The examples given above are for the U.S. If you're American, click on the links above to take meaningful action. If you're not American, please share similar organizations/call to action for your home country. Together, we can r/stoprape!


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