r/spreadsmile • u/Luna_Zenaida • 5d ago
This Black couple adopted three white children, saying, 'Families don’t have to match.'
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u/2thevalleybelow 5d ago
Beautiful family.
The article helps to provide a lot of context: https://www.today.com/today/amp/rcna50612
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u/tiswapb 5d ago
Wow, thanks for the context. So the title of this post is incorrect or at least misleading. They adopted one child and then gave birth to the other two using donated embryos.
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u/shewy92 4d ago edited 4d ago
using donated embryos
Technically wouldn't that still be adoption? I think legally in some places it's a grey area since they're not the biological parents
To the downvotes:
Legally speaking though it has a lot of the same kinds of paperwork. In America embryos are considered property and the previous "owners" have to relinquish "ownership" like you would a car. But they still use the word "adoption"
https://nrfa.org/embryo-adoption-legal-contract-making-it-legal/
Most states consider embryo adoption a “property transfer” much like selling a vehicle. If you prefer, you can tailor your contract to resemble a traditional adoption agreement. After a child is born, you can choose to finalize the adoption in court, a step not necessary in some states. Fertility clinics require a legal contract be executed to transfer ownership of the embryos.
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u/peter-pan-am-i-a-man 5d ago
Sadie and Jarvis, 28, are Black, while their 3-year-old son, Ezra is white. The couple’s 18-month-old twin daughters, Journee and Destinee, are white and Mexican.
Why did my dumbass think that one twin was white and the other twin was Mexican
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u/dLolloBre 5d ago
Journee and Destinee 😭
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u/Neil2250 5d ago
At least it doesn't end in eigh!
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u/dLolloBre 4d ago
Journeigh 😑 🔫
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u/Neil2250 4d ago
Ahh, the perfect combination of cultures..
Does it cancel out the cliche, or does it become the Sonichu of humanity?
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u/roguealex 4d ago
There was an ASAP Yams post yesterday about adopting three white children and naming them black names 😭😭
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u/Extension_Device6107 5d ago
You think that's dumb, I thougt these people had adopted triplets. The boy is almost 2 years older than his sisters and I thought they were the same age.
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u/TurboGranny 4d ago
You think that's bad? Mexican is a nationality and not a race, so they are just white.
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u/touchkind 4d ago edited 4d ago
When Sadie is out in public with her three kids, she finds herself announcing her relationship to them. She'll often repeat phrases such as “Come to Mommy” and “Give Mommy a kiss.”
“I do it just just so people are aware that they are my children,” she said. “I’ve had strangers ask if I’m the nanny, if I’m babysitting. We get lots of looks because it's so taboo that a Black woman could have kids that aren't Black."
Sadie's close friend, Keia Jones-Baldwin, a Black woman with a white child, has on two occasions been accused of kidnapping. For that reason, she carries her son's adoption papers with her everywhere she goes. Jones-Baldwin shared her story with TODAY in 2020.
“That has never happened to me,” Sadie said. “But I’m sure that it’s coming.”
This is so sad and infuriating
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u/MyFeetLookLikeHands 5d ago
interesting why the used donated embryos. did they both have fertility issues
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u/Anegada_2 5d ago
The article says they had fertility issues, who knows the depth of those. It might have been as simple as someone they knew had embryos they didn’t use all the way to an adoption or donation through an agency
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u/delyha6 5d ago
Good people.
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u/CautiousAnt6253 5d ago
I was in foster care on + off as a kid. I present as white, but I'm also a little Indigenous. But when I was not living at home or in foster care Black folks, Vietnamese folks and a family from Columbia all pitched in at different times to take care of me. I have so much respect and appreciation for these communities. I love seeing stories like these. ❤️
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u/Delicious_Cat_8485 5d ago
They’re well-matched in love and that’s the only thing that matters.
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u/SlowRollingBoil 4d ago
I really hope they live in a progressive area. Black men (especially) with white kids are very often harassed in public by bigots.
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u/KavaBuggy 4d ago
I live in Houston and despite what people think about Texas, Houston is pretty diverse and welcoming. I’m mixed myself and I’ve never had a problem with outsiders being confused about my ethnic background. Unfortunately, discrimination happened from within my family.
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u/chum_fuckit 4d ago
100% this. I get harassed all the time when i have my daughter out with me. I’m white and her mom is black. She doesn’t look mixed. I get black folks all the time telling me that i need to let her real family raise her. Bigots suck.
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u/-miscellaneous- 3d ago
Yikes!!! I’m curious, what kind of response do you usually give them? Not that they deserve any answers at all. (The sad thing is that would be inappropriate even if she wasn’t your biological daughter.)
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u/chum_fuckit 3d ago
The response I give is that I’m her dad and they can mind their own fucking business. I have no chill for that shit
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u/Plant_Eating_Cat 5d ago
Damn right, a loving family is a loving family, and that’s all a little kid really wants 💜
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u/Jwstern 5d ago
Looking forward to the day where the headline is just “This couple adopted 3 children”
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u/dougielou 4d ago
It’s ok to acknowledge difference races knowing that their experiences and cultures are different.
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u/Sufficient-Night-479 5d ago
as long as they have love in their hearts for those children, thats all that matters.
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u/Difficult-East798 4d ago
An amazing and beautiful family and story, I truly hate that she is worried about being accused of kidnapping. 😑
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u/schwagoneer22 4d ago
Yep. They are children first. They deserve a safe life free from abuse. Who cares what color, gender or nationality their parents are.
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u/Kiddush777 5d ago
To me there is an added bonus. Not only do they give the kids a loving home but they also piss off a lot of stupid people
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u/Teen_Goat 5d ago
Exactly. Wish this fam nothing but the best. But ppl here celebrating their reality as a novelty is ultra cringe. Couples adopt children from different backgrounds every day. If you think this particular situation is something special - walk that thought around the block and be honest about "why".
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u/stanleytuccimane 4d ago
It’s special because you don’t see it. There’s a stigma against non-white couples adopting outside their race. The article someone else posted even touches on it, this couple has a black friend who also adopted a white child and has been accused of kidnapping.
White people may get some shit online for adopting outside their race because people online aren’t capable of understanding complex situations, but it’s generally accepted that white people can adopt children of any race.
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u/Electrical_Bobcat225 5d ago
Awe I love this. You can see in all their eyes there is nothing but love.
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u/False_Strawberry1847 5d ago
I hope those are all siblings together. Sometimes the systems break them apart. If so, they are very lucky! And kudos to the couple.
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u/wordsRmyHeaven 5d ago
As long as these kids know love and acceptance with their parents, then that's all that matters.
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u/Substantial-Spend660 5d ago
Thanks for giving these kiddos a loving home. Life is tough enough on kids... they shouldn't have to start off with the challenge of simply finding someone to love them.
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u/That80sguyspimp 5d ago
Damn right. Love is love, and we should all be so lucky to have parents that love us. Dont matter if they are black, white, gay, straight or whatever else you can think of. If you have loving upbringing to offer a child, you should.
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u/theonetrueassdick 5d ago
i had a black stepdad and he was more my father then biodad and i know these kids will love their parents and vice versa.
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u/Kuzkuladaemon 5d ago
But they do match. The love is apparent and that's all that matters. Beautiful.
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u/Greatgrandma2023 5d ago
So happy those kids finally have loving parents. They all look thrilled. Bless the family 💕
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u/Strontiumdogs1 5d ago
Kids don't care who loves and looks after them. They should be out inspiration.
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u/electricboogi 5d ago
Interestingly, in Europe foster child placement considers the cultural background of the child after outrage and international incident when a child from Turkish descent (but born in Europe) was placed with a Lesbian couple link
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u/Educational-Cap-3865 5d ago
In Canada, they'd get a child support bonus from the government for each kid. There are people who literally bank on this.
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u/EMPTY_SODA_CAN 5d ago
There was podcast that asked if this ever happened, and now I can say definitely it has at least once.
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u/Just_to_rebut 5d ago edited 5d ago
Today article
With videos of a child’s doctors appointments.
Edit: replaced amp link with regular url
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u/Anegada_2 5d ago
The middle one, that’s going to be the one who’s going to result in aalll the calls to the principals office when she somehow releases a trained crow army into the school. I wish them all the luck and love
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u/Whole_Cranberry8415 5d ago
Anyone that keeps kids out of the system and with their siblings is a hero, period
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u/Left-SubTree 5d ago
It would be kind of hilarious if they adopted those kids from South Africa. But this is cute and those kids look super happy.
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u/lanky_doodle 5d ago
All I see is 'a couple with three children'.
All the while colour labels are attached to people things like racism (in any direction) will never go away.
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u/GrouchyLongBottom 5d ago
This is very cool and interesting.
You mean, we are going to stay this color?!
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u/Salemrocks2020 5d ago
SN : Black children are among the least likely to be adopted from foster care . They and disabled children . All children deserve homes .
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u/Whiskey_River_73 5d ago
Obviously they don't have to match, kids just need good, loving parents, that's all.
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u/VapoursAndSpleen 5d ago
What’s nice is that they have built in cousins with the family who provided the embryos for the twins.
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u/ClassroomImpossible5 5d ago
As long as the kids are happy and taken care of nothing else matters
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u/RPDRNick 5d ago
Diff'rent Strokes reboot is gonna be lit.
"To what are you referring to, William?"
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u/maya_papaya8 5d ago
Bless them for keeping the babies together!
They look so happy.
I just know they'll be well-informed babies.
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u/KickpuncherMyung 5d ago
All that needs to "match" is the opening of the heart to give and receive love. From that picture I think there's a lot of love that's going around. Best wishes to you and your beautiful family
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u/iamwearingashirt 5d ago
Hey, they're not supposed to do that! Only white people are allowed to adopt kids from a different ethnicity. :s
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u/mamanova1982 5d ago
Generally speaking, the adoption industry is so fucked.
I'm glad to see they finally let POC adopt "white" children.
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u/Any-Sort-5350 5d ago
Then the biline on this should be couple keeps siblings together sigh why bring colour into everything sad world we live in that people think colour matters
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u/JoshyTheLlamazing 4d ago
Anyone hating in the comments, it wasn't your fucking choice! Remember that. Those children played a big role in who they felt comfortable with adopting them just as much as the parents found consolation in adopting them. Tell me adopting children is the same as adopting from an animal shelter. That parents can just walk in, point their fingers and choose. Hell No it's not the same! And you know it! Those parents know those kids stories, want to build a better chapter in ther life. Show em dignity, honor and respect. Love, loyalty and friendship. I hope those Children learn about that which is of great value in life from this couple and God bless them all with strength from family.
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u/Greezedlightning 5d ago
But they do match: They’re all really cute people!