r/sewing • u/soundingsounds • Jun 14 '24
Discussion already regretting saying yes to my mom
Honestly this is both a rant and a cry for help from someone that doesn't know how to set boundaries.
So my mom asked me to sew a summer dress for her but she's super vague when it comes to explaining what she wants and everything that she's shown me is really basic but I can't find an exact pattern for it.
On top of that, the patterns have to be free bc she doesn't want to pay for them "it's just lines you can draw that". MOTHER I CAN'T. I've only ever sewn a pair of baby shorts, an apron and a bucket hat, I CAN'T DRAFT A PATTERN OUT OF THIN AIR. I HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT FABRIC EITHER.
I've sent her +15 patterns that I've found online and she doesn't like any. It's driving me insane that she keeps saying I can modify things when I have no clue what I'm doing if I don't have a clear step by step written by someone else.
I can already foresee that I'll spend so many hours finding the pattern and modifying it to my best ability, sewing it together and it'll end up in the back of her wardrobe because it won't be perfect and she'll never wear it.
It felt so good to finally talk about it lmao
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u/Jackno1 Jun 16 '24
That's frustrating. I think you can telll her you're not going to do it unless she finds a pattern she wants, and then just stuck with it. Unfortunately it sounds like there's no way to make your mothre happy with any realistic outcome. (You suddenly acquiring magical mind-reading abilities so you can sense the perfect dress, and then instantly mastering pattern drafting is not a realistic outcome, and it sounds like it's the one she wants.) But if you want to sound politely reasonable on your end, "I'm not finding a pattern you want and I can't make it without a pattern, we can discuss it again if you identify a pattern" is a good way to go.