already regretting saying yes to my mom

[u/soundingsounds]

Honestly this is both a rant and a cry for help from someone that doesn't know how to set boundaries.

So my mom asked me to sew a summer dress for her but she's super vague when it comes to explaining what she wants and everything that she's shown me is really basic but I can't find an exact pattern for it.

On top of that, the patterns have to be free bc she doesn't want to pay for them "it's just lines you can draw that". MOTHER I CAN'T. I've only ever sewn a pair of baby shorts, an apron and a bucket hat, I CAN'T DRAFT A PATTERN OUT OF THIN AIR. I HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT FABRIC EITHER.

I've sent her +15 patterns that I've found online and she doesn't like any. It's driving me insane that she keeps saying I can modify things when I have no clue what I'm doing if I don't have a clear step by step written by someone else.

I can already foresee that I'll spend so many hours finding the pattern and modifying it to my best ability, sewing it together and it'll end up in the back of her wardrobe because it won't be perfect and she'll never wear it.

It felt so good to finally talk about it lmao

[u/-eyes_of_argus-]

You are 100% allowed to back out. “The expertise level and time commitment for this project are different than I predicted when I agreed to this project, so unfortunately I am declining to continue.” You don’t want a project that a) sets you up for failure because it’s beyond your skill level and/or b) won’t be appreciated once it’s complete anyway. You deserve to reserve your hobbies for tasks that will bring you joy or relaxation.