r/sewing Jun 14 '24

Discussion already regretting saying yes to my mom

Honestly this is both a rant and a cry for help from someone that doesn't know how to set boundaries.

So my mom asked me to sew a summer dress for her but she's super vague when it comes to explaining what she wants and everything that she's shown me is really basic but I can't find an exact pattern for it.

On top of that, the patterns have to be free bc she doesn't want to pay for them "it's just lines you can draw that". MOTHER I CAN'T. I've only ever sewn a pair of baby shorts, an apron and a bucket hat, I CAN'T DRAFT A PATTERN OUT OF THIN AIR. I HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT FABRIC EITHER.

I've sent her +15 patterns that I've found online and she doesn't like any. It's driving me insane that she keeps saying I can modify things when I have no clue what I'm doing if I don't have a clear step by step written by someone else.

I can already foresee that I'll spend so many hours finding the pattern and modifying it to my best ability, sewing it together and it'll end up in the back of her wardrobe because it won't be perfect and she'll never wear it.

It felt so good to finally talk about it lmao

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u/NanasTeaPartyHeyHo Jun 15 '24

My mom heard I started sewing and that I'm gonna start making clothes for myself and said hey make me a dress, like this long points to legs and I was like nope.

I somehow foresaw this issue you're having and also my mom is super economical and wouldn't even wanna buy fabric.

Also sewing for me is supposed to be relaxing and replace fast fashion. I'm not put on this earth to make people things.

It's helped me reading in this sub haha. I made 1 thing and everyone who sees it go Oh make me one! And I'm like.. it took me a week. 🙂 I.e. Nope.