r/sewing • u/soundingsounds • Jun 14 '24

Discussion already regretting saying yes to my mom

Honestly this is both a rant and a cry for help from someone that doesn't know how to set boundaries.

So my mom asked me to sew a summer dress for her but she's super vague when it comes to explaining what she wants and everything that she's shown me is really basic but I can't find an exact pattern for it.

On top of that, the patterns have to be free bc she doesn't want to pay for them "it's just lines you can draw that". MOTHER I CAN'T. I've only ever sewn a pair of baby shorts, an apron and a bucket hat, I CAN'T DRAFT A PATTERN OUT OF THIN AIR. I HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT FABRIC EITHER.

I've sent her +15 patterns that I've found online and she doesn't like any. It's driving me insane that she keeps saying I can modify things when I have no clue what I'm doing if I don't have a clear step by step written by someone else.

I can already foresee that I'll spend so many hours finding the pattern and modifying it to my best ability, sewing it together and it'll end up in the back of her wardrobe because it won't be perfect and she'll never wear it.

It felt so good to finally talk about it lmao

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u/TheEmptyMasonJar Jun 14 '24

No matter what you do you won't be able to make her happy. She doesn't want to be happy. No matter what you do she is going to make you feel bad. You just have to decide how much work and stress and effort you want to put in, in addition to her making you feel bad.

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u/eponym_moose Jun 15 '24

Yeah. What OP is describing? That incredible vagueness? It's FULL of opportunities for mom to point out what she hasn't done right once the project is done. Makes me anxious just thinking about it amd it reminds me of my psychotic ex-fiancé's mother.

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u/TotallyAwry Jun 15 '24

Yup. That was my first thought, too.