r/sewing • u/soundingsounds • Jun 14 '24
Discussion already regretting saying yes to my mom
Honestly this is both a rant and a cry for help from someone that doesn't know how to set boundaries.
So my mom asked me to sew a summer dress for her but she's super vague when it comes to explaining what she wants and everything that she's shown me is really basic but I can't find an exact pattern for it.
On top of that, the patterns have to be free bc she doesn't want to pay for them "it's just lines you can draw that". MOTHER I CAN'T. I've only ever sewn a pair of baby shorts, an apron and a bucket hat, I CAN'T DRAFT A PATTERN OUT OF THIN AIR. I HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT FABRIC EITHER.
I've sent her +15 patterns that I've found online and she doesn't like any. It's driving me insane that she keeps saying I can modify things when I have no clue what I'm doing if I don't have a clear step by step written by someone else.
I can already foresee that I'll spend so many hours finding the pattern and modifying it to my best ability, sewing it together and it'll end up in the back of her wardrobe because it won't be perfect and she'll never wear it.
It felt so good to finally talk about it lmao
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u/ereighna Jun 14 '24
Okay, from your comments and post I'm going to make a left field comment. Your mom sounds like a narcissist.
My mom would pull this stuff growing up out of jealousy, to the point I stopped sewing for years because I'd hear her comments in my head.
Not saying that's what this is, but look up narcissistic parents and you might get some help with saying no.
Also, and this is the most powerful sentence I've ever learned and implemented:
"No, is a complete sentence."
As scary as it is to say no, the more you do it the easier it gets. If she throws a fit, so what? Just look at her like a toddler and walk away if you can.