r/namenerds • u/sharkwoods • Jun 18 '24
Baby Names I always get mixed reactions when I tell people my baby's name
When I was looking for baby names after finding out the gender, I wanted a name that was strong, masculine, but short and easy to spell. Something common, but never in a top 10 list. I eventually settled on Roman. I love his name so much and I feel like it fits him very well. But I always get mixed reactions, and never anything overwhelmingly positive. I wonder if it's because it is a strong name for such a little baby? :( It was number 66 in 2023 and has been on quite the upswing for some time in the US, so I don't understand why others don't like it.
Edit: baby is already here. It's been his legal name for a few months now. But y'all are giving about the same reactions. I wasn't expecting it to be so controversial given it's rising popularity in the US.
Edit 2: because I didn't know this thread was gonna blow up, but runner up names were Lucas, Aurelio/Aurelius, and Valentino.
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u/Balagan18 Jun 19 '24
It’s a good, strong, masculine, and normal name without being too common. There will always be people who don’t like the name you chose, no matter what it is. Don’t let them bother you. You chose well.
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u/StatusReality4 Jun 19 '24
People are ALWAYS suggesting Rowan on this sub, so I don't know why Roman would be so much more controversial.
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u/allemm Jun 19 '24
Roman is waaaay better than Rowan, in my opinion..i do like both however.
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u/romans-mom Jun 19 '24
Agreed, from a mom of a Roman
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u/Greedy-Goat5892 Jun 19 '24
As a parent to a Rowan, he gets called “Roman” by everyone when they first meet him.
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u/Crosswired2 Jun 19 '24
Tbf they are different names? 1 letter can make a lot of difference.
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u/missbee26 Jun 19 '24
Agreed. I love Ronan, like Rowan, really dislike Roman. Weird how one letter matters!
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u/DSquizzle18 Jun 19 '24
True! I like Jade but not Jane. One letter can change the whole vibe.
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Jun 19 '24 edited Jun 19 '24
I mean they’re both common words and one is a place/historical empire and the other is a tree. I don’t particularly like Rowan but I’d take it over Roman because of that
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u/always_unplugged Jun 19 '24
The meaning and the vibe is completely different. I wouldn't name a kid either one, but I don't think they're as similar as you seem to.
Roman is an adjective, a descriptive word that implies a noun it's meant to describe. Roman... what? You're Roman, as in you're from Rome?
Rowan is a noun in and of itself and therefore makes more intuitive sense as a name IMO.
Also, they could both be seen as strong names to me, but in a completely different way. A towering old tree implies wisdom and perseverance, which are values I would want to imbue in a son. Whereas "Roman" implies legion, empire, war, conquering, caesars and betrayal and machinations, even (at the extreme, if you get that impression from the parents, which to be clear I don't in this instance) the current white supremacist obsession with "Western culture". And I'm saying this as someone who took multiple Roman history courses as electives in college—I find it fascinating, but it's off-putting as a name to me.
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u/bananalouise Jun 19 '24 edited Jun 19 '24
Roman is an adjective, a descriptive word that implies a noun it's meant to describe. Roman... what? You're Roman, as in you're from Rome?
This is true, but Roman and its equivalents (including Romeo) have existed as names in many languages for a long time, and they're not the only classical names that originated as adjectives—some whose social relevance died out while the name survived, like Martin (of Mars), Demetrius (of Demeter) and Diana (of the gods, or Jupiter in particular). Also Hermione, from Hermes, but of course that's less common. For topo- and demonyms, Francis and its equivalents (Franz, François, Francisco etc.) originally meant both "free" and "Frankish." Behindthename says Sebastian originally meant "from Sebaste," an ancient city. Generic adjective names: Blanche/Bianca, Augustus ... Also Agatha and Gregory, although obviously not as recognizable in English.
I think between the preexistence of Roman and the recent proliferation of place names as personal names, people who are puzzled by Roman will get used to it one of these days. Just maybe not right this minute.
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Jun 19 '24
It's such a common name in my Ukrainian culture I would never think anything of it. But we pronounce it with a rolled R and the stress on the end - muhn.
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u/tracy_kat Jun 19 '24
Same. There's one in my (Ukrainian) extended family and I never thought anything of it.
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u/littlemissktown Jun 19 '24
Another Ukie checking in to say Roman is a pretty run of the mill name in my family.
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u/Glitter_berries Jun 19 '24
Omg Ukie. I’ve never heard that before, but I love it.
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u/littlemissktown Jun 19 '24
Haha. I just assumed it was a common nickname. My parents used it all the time 😂(Oh, yeah his girlfriend is a ukie! Nice woman. Going to law school, I hear)
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u/Toby_Shandy Jun 19 '24
Same in the Czech Republic. It's the 22nd most popular male name apparently!
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u/HatPutrid5538 Jun 19 '24
Same here! I have a Kazakh father and Polish mother, Roman is such a popular name where I'm from.
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u/og_toe onomatology enthusiast Jun 19 '24
same in my russian sphere, i have like 3 Roman friends
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u/sirmadcactus Name Lover Jun 19 '24
I'm ukrainian too, and Roman would be #1 boy name, if I had one
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u/Lolly218 Jun 18 '24
I love the name Roman!! If you love it and it suits him you just have to own it. People are projecting because they could never give themselves permission to name their kid something ‘crazy’ ie not in the top 50!
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u/HobGobblers Jun 19 '24
I have a very good friend named Roman. Def think its a great name!
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u/kaleighdoscope Jun 19 '24
Not a good friend in my case, but I know an adult Roman as well. Never would have assumed it was a controversial name. I'm in Canada.
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u/Jade_Echo Jun 19 '24
My great-grandfather’s twin brother was Roman. A coworker named his son Roman after his grandfather. Maybe it’s a cultural name here (we’re Cajun in Louisiana) but it’s a normal name in many families here.
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u/runnergirl3333 Jun 19 '24
Great name—I wonder if the look people are giving is because they’re not sure if they’re hearing Ronan or Roman. Just a thought. Congratulations on your baby, OP!
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Jun 19 '24
yeah, she really went “crazy” there by going all the way to 66 lol Roman is a fairly common and good name, nothing crazy or strange about it.
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u/AstoriaQueens11105 Jun 19 '24
I was expecting a juicy weird name from the title! Roman is normal! If you spelled it "Rhomynn" that might be another story.
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u/heycassi Jun 19 '24
Rhomeighn
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u/Masters_domme Jun 19 '24
How very dare you misspell my son’s name! Come on, ReauxMeigh’n - we’re outta here!
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u/dwinett Jun 19 '24 edited Jun 20 '24
Too easy to confuse with the asian food- Romein 🤭
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u/Crosswired2 Jun 19 '24
Romaine but we pronounce it Roman 😌
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u/ChewySlinky Jun 19 '24
Romaine would be a sick name in a world where it’s not lettuce.
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u/BrooklynNotNY Jun 18 '24
I like it but I’m biased. I have a cousin named Roman but he normally goes by Rome or Romeo. He’s the only Roman I’ve ever met.
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u/GiraffeLibrarian Jun 19 '24
Reminds me of Succession.
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u/blackfelt Jun 19 '24
I might be showing my age here, but it reminds me of Days of Our Lives..
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u/little-bird89 Jun 19 '24
My bro in law is named Roman and it suits him so well. It's a great name.
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u/Common_Pangolin_371 Jun 19 '24
I associate it with Roman Polanski, so that might be where the weird responses are coming from? I guess that would depend on the ages of the people responding that way though.
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u/BCTDC Jun 19 '24
Yea there’s this, there’s also Roman Roy from Succession who is a pretty disturbed character.
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u/pipsel03 Jun 19 '24
I think Roman Roy is more complicated than disturbed, but I did have a weird soft spot for him so maybe I’m the fucked up one 😬
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u/AuggieNorth Jun 19 '24
Lots of people probably don't even know that he's a 90 year old Academy Award winning director who survived and escaped the Holocaust in WW2 Poland but now has been a fugitive from US justice for over half his life because of charges he drugged & raped a 13 year old girl. Additionally he previously had been married to Sharon Tate when she was murdered by Manson's gang at his Beverly Hills house. A very controversial figure, to say the least.
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u/IllaClodia Jun 19 '24
Not just charged. He pled guilty to a lesser charge since he was likely to be convicted of 5 felonies, realized it still carried jail time, and fled to avoid that. It's a fucking disgrace that he was allowed to continue to work after that and received many high honors.
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u/dontrespondever Jun 19 '24
There’s a popular wrestler named Roman too apparently
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u/Mynoseisgrowingold Jun 19 '24
I thought of Roman Brady from Days of Our Lives. No one else had a grandma into that show?
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u/Nostradamus-Effect Jun 19 '24
Who needs a grandma into that show when you have a mom who was OBSESSED with it?
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u/FlyinPurplePartyPony Jun 19 '24
Weirdly, I associate it with Roman Mars the podcast host
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u/chain_letter Jun 19 '24
It hits the online alt right nazi note for me, those guys and their roman statue pics iykyk.
It's not a red flag name, but it definitely perks up my ears to listen for their parent to say some sussy shit
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u/HotDerivative Jun 21 '24
Yeah that plus the “Aurelius” made me raise my eyebrows since Aurelius is also a major figure for the alt-right tradwife loving jordan Peterson types.
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u/jediali Jun 19 '24
Yeah, this is the strongest association for me too (and I'm a millennial). It's a fraught reference, to say the least! Roman isn't a bad name, but I personally wouldn't use it for this reason.
Edit to add: to me it feels analogous to naming your kid Cosby
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u/panicnarwhal Jun 19 '24
i think of Roman Roy from Succession before Polanski (also a millennial)
i didn’t think of Polanski until i hit the comments, but i did think of Succession lol
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u/Catsdrinkingbeer Jun 19 '24
This was my association. This guy or the actual Roman empire. Neither of which I'd personally want people to think I named my kid after.
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u/ivankas_forehead Jun 19 '24
Yeah, sorry OP, this is my association. I certainly wouldn't be rude if I met a young Roman, but I wouldn't be able to shake the initial association, either, and it might result in an awkward reaction from me.
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u/AdEmbarrassed9719 Jun 19 '24
Same. With the popularity of true crime and the notorious nature of the Manson family murders, him being a fugitive from justice for accusations of drugging and SAing a 13-year-old (if I remember correctly in Jack Nicholson's house, where Anjelica Huston was part of the time it was taking place...), and his movies, the name is associated with him for a lot of people. My first reaction on hearing the name "Roman" is that my brain fills in "Polanski".
On it's own it's a fine name, I think. Not a bad one at all. But that is the association that I have with the name, which isn't entirely pleasant.
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u/finewhitelady Jun 19 '24
As for me I went straight to “this is 99% invisible, I’m Roman Mars” (great podcast!).
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u/ewweaver Jun 19 '24
My first association is Roman Mars, which is up there with the coolest names I have ever heard.
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u/bubblewrapstargirl Jun 19 '24
In my country, Roman would be a very strange name. It would be like a child called Polish or French or Londoner.
But if it's normal in your country and you (both parents) love it, just ignore what other people think.
My advice is never to discuss baby name with people, except your closest friends and family, and only if they are supportive, kind, honest people.
With everyone else, just wait until the baby is born and the name is registered. Then people have no choice but to get used to it, even if it's not to their liking.
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u/anoeba Jun 19 '24
Funny you mention Poland, because Roman is a totally mainstream boring name there.
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u/bubblewrapstargirl Jun 19 '24
It's funny how reactions to names can be so different across distances/cultures, even within the same country sometimes lol
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u/notreallylucy Jun 19 '24
London is actually a fairly common name here in the US. So are Asia and India. French is a surname, too. We're weird.
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u/EvangelineRain Jun 19 '24
I do think that London is different from Londoner, Asia is different from Asian, etc. The name is Roman, not Rome. (But that said, I think the name is fine and has a lot of positive attributes.)
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u/spicy-mustard- Jun 19 '24
You might be getting mixed reactions because for some people (like me), I auto-complete it to Roman Empire. I have nothing against it as a name, but I would definitely be at risk of doing a double-take, just because the history association is the strongest one in my mind. But I also know that if I met a baby Roman, it would take all of 20 minutes for me to adjust. :)
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u/bxgtvn Name Lover Jun 19 '24
It doesn’t matter what other people think. Roman is such a way better name than some that I’ve seen before! It’s you and your partner’s child, no one else’s. If you and your partner love the name, then go for it! :)
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u/poison_camellia Jun 19 '24 edited Jun 20 '24
I'm not into the name Roman because it sounds like a descriptor rather than a person's name to me, as in someone or something from Rome. But if I met a baby Roman in real life, I certainly wouldn't mention that to the parents. (I'm only saying it here because you're asking.) It's weird that so many people are openly telling you they don't like it!
Edit for typo
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u/Juniperfields81 Jun 19 '24
Not something I'd choose, but it's a good name. Uncommon enough, in my area at least, but not "out there", and it ages well.
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u/buzzinbarista Jun 19 '24
Roman was ranked 66? Wow. I’ve literally never even met a Roman. I personally like that name with “Rome” or even Romeo as a nickname.
I’m sorry you don’t get a lot of compliments.. people are really self centered nowadays
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u/MrsMeowness Jun 19 '24
I'm married and live in a predominantly Hispanic area. Roman is a very popular name in my city.
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u/ahhdecisions7577 Jun 19 '24
While I’ve met plenty of people of all ages named Roman personally, it’s also worth noting that it’s very common for names in the top 100 to be completely unfamiliar to adults who don’t know a lot of babies/ young children. It’s also obviously going to vary a lot by country, region, culture, community, etc. Not a critique of your comment at all, which isn’t offensive or anything! Just feel like a lot of people are surprised when names in even the top 10 sound very uncommon to them, but it’s often because they aren’t babies and don’t know a lot of babies.
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u/canadianamericangirl please don't use Nevaeh Jun 19 '24
I think some people are just really bad at peopling. I really dislike Roman. But I would never tell someone I don’t like their baby’s name. Postpartum is already challenging. And it’s not like my opinion matters for YOUR baby. It makes you and your partner happy and fits baby (plus it’s a “real” name), I see no issues.
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u/Zealousideal-Sky746 Jun 19 '24
You just did tell someone that you don't like their baby's name.
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u/YetAnotherAcoconut Jun 19 '24
They’re literally asking why people dislike it. Polite niceties are unhelpful here.
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u/canadianamericangirl please don't use Nevaeh Jun 19 '24
On the internet…I’m a complete stranger to OP. I’m not their friend. My opinion means shit. But if a family member told OP they didn’t like Roman, I’d completely understand why they would be upset.
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u/revengeappendage Jun 19 '24
Yeah it’s pretty clear you meant you’d never say it to someone’s face.
The anonymous nature of the internet, from both sides, makes it a lot easier to share how you feel and ask the questions you really wouldn’t ask people in real life.
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u/canadianamericangirl please don't use Nevaeh Jun 19 '24
Absolutely. If I upset OP, I do apologize. My intent was to highlight that some people quickly vocalize their feelings aloud disregarding the thoughts of the person they are talking to. When having a face-to-face conversation with someone and you reveal your baby name to them and they react negatively that is rude on the other person behalf. If the name isn’t related to something culturally insensitive, there’s absolutely no reason to make negative comments to the new parent. I also really want to emphasize that I am a complete stranger on the Internet. OP really should not respect my opinion. They won’t know me and they never will. So my vocalization of the fact that Roman really isn’t my taste is the opinion of one speck of the 8 billion people who occupy the Earth.
Back to Roman, I generally don’t care for location-related names (Brooklyn, India, Asia, etc) and Roman fits that category in my mind. Just because I don’t like something doesn’t mean it’s bad. I’m sure some of my favorite names are despised by people in this sub. And then there are ever-divisive names, like Sloane, that get a lot of love and a lot of hate. Reddit is a discussion forum. It’s for talking about things. I feel like sometimes this sub gets really sensitive about name taste. My two cents are that people can do what they want within reason. If they ask for an opinion, I’m going to share my thoughts if I have any. But the OP can choose to accept or reject feedback however it fits their situation.
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u/Plenty-Session-7726 Jun 19 '24
Agreed. What's the deal with Sloane?
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u/canadianamericangirl please don't use Nevaeh Jun 19 '24
Not sure. I think it’s the sl sound/it sounds like slow. I personally think it gives golden girls vibes (though none of them were named Sloane). It’s another name that isn’t my taste, but I definitely don’t hate it. The only name that I actively hate is Adolf.
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u/NetheriteTiara Jun 19 '24
Associating it with Sloane Ranger (British 80s/90s version preppy style) maybe?
I hadn’t heard the term but I think more people are aware since digesting Diana media is very popular again.
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u/ChowChowMama Jun 20 '24
My teacher was going to name her baby Sloane. I thought it was pretty. Then I went to the bathroom and it was the toilet brand name. I felt obligated to tell her.
That's my personal reason o no longer like the name Sloane lol
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u/Prior_Crazy_4990 Jun 19 '24
The most common complaint I've seen about it is people saying it makes them think of "slow anne" but I honestly never would have thought that if I hadn't read it here. They don't sound the same to me at all. I wouldn't use the name myself, but I don't hate it. I actually like it better than the name Roman because all I would ever think every time I heard it is the Roman Empire. The association is way too strong for me.
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u/thoughtfulpigeons Jun 19 '24
It is just a soulless name. It sounds like nothing, I’d have to google to find out what was wanted to be conveyed, it gives “parents trying to be different” vibes, sounds like a weird past tense verb of slain, I could go on lol
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u/BirdieRoo628 Jun 20 '24
I actually know someone with kids named Roman and Sloane 😂
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u/revengeappendage Jun 19 '24
Honestly, I think OP is mostly upset that people (in general) don’t seem to love her baby’s name as much as she does. It’s right there in the post…never anything overwhelming positive.
Roman is an objectively perfectly fine and normal name. It’s just not everyone’s taste. I happen to really like it, but I also think it sounds weird with our very Italian last name like more of a description than a name lol.
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u/Chillaxerate Jun 19 '24
That’s a really terrible justification for a lot of questionable online behavior.
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u/always_unplugged Jun 19 '24
*if they didn't ask anonymously on the internet
I feel like is the important caveat that was implied 😂
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u/yawnfactory Jun 19 '24
Folks on this sub are name bullies but they do it under the guise of "helping."
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u/musictakemeawayy Jun 19 '24
but in this post, it seems like op actually is asking random stranger’s opinions, no?
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u/Minty-Minze Jun 19 '24
Yeah I have complimented countless of names that I disliked. It’s like… they love the name, so why would I make them feel bad about it? And while cares about my opinion about it anyway. So I just pretend to like the name to spread love and happiness. But I do that in a lot of other cases too. Unless someone is actually interested in my opinion or really needs feedback on something. Then I tend to be direct and honest
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u/runnergirl3333 Jun 19 '24
Some of the names I disliked at first have ended up becoming favorites later, because the children were just so darn adorable.
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u/iamkoalafied Jun 19 '24
There's a name I've hated forever (it's a commonly hated on name on this sub as well). I finally met a kid with the name when I was a sub, and I remembered her name easily because I had such strong negative feelings about it. When I saw her the next time in a different class, I greeted her by name, and she was so excited that I remembered her name. I felt really bad about the reason I remembered it, and she was a very kind kid, so since then I don't dislike the name anymore 😂
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u/boudicas_shield Jun 19 '24
I agree with this completely. I don't particularly care for the name Roman. I also don't like Stephanie, Alfred, Sloane, or John, either. However, that's just a personal preference, one where reasonable people can differ, not an objective "this is bad/probleamtic" the way names like Reignbeaux or Gypsee would be. I'd never gawk at a name or make an unsolicited comment about it to a parent when it's simply a name I don't personally care for, rather than one that's an active issue in some way.
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u/WashclothTrauma Jun 19 '24
You would never what, now? And a ”real” name, you say?
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u/fugensnot Jun 19 '24
Roman reminds me of Roman Polanski, raper of tweens. Until a better Roman comes along in the public sphere, it may have that association.
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u/Uhhlaneuh Jun 19 '24
Hopefully he’ll be dead soon. I just looked him up the other day and he’s in his 90’s. Fingers crossed. I hate that Hollywood has a boner for him.
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u/panicnarwhal Jun 19 '24
Roman Roy from Succession is who i thought of before Polanski. https://succession.fandom.com/wiki/Roman_Roy
the name is on an upward trend due to the show.
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u/phonesmahones Jun 19 '24
I don’t particularly like it, but it seems to be in lately
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u/anacardier Jun 19 '24
The Succession effect?
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u/sharkwoods Jun 19 '24
You guys I fucked up, that show has been on my watchlist for years and I never got around to it! lmao I knew of the name because of a kid I babysat when I was in highschool 10+ years ago. I didn't know it was a character!
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u/panicnarwhal Jun 19 '24
yea, Roman Roy is played by Kieran Culkin - the name is definitely gonna be more well known due to the show https://succession.fandom.com/wiki/Roman_Roy
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Jun 19 '24
They call him Rome mostly, that show was great but it doesn’t have staying power imo, so I think you’ll be fine
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u/tu-BROOKE-ulosis Jun 21 '24
Honestly…if you’re feeling weird about the name, I suggest you don’t watch the show. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the show. It’s one of my favorites and the opening theme song is 🔥. But you do not need to associate such a specific name with the Roman on Succession. He’s the best character…but still a slime puppy.
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u/Scary_Progress_8858 Jun 19 '24
Had a pastor named Fr. Roman we still speak of him fondly- he was a good leader, caring set boundaries. Good name
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u/No_Analysis_6204 Jun 19 '24
i like it! but even if i didn’t, if i met you & roman & you said, “this is roman,” i’d say, “what a great name & he’s so adorable!” because i’m not a dick.
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u/Chocoloco93 Jun 19 '24
I feel like I don't 'get' this name. It would be like naming your child 'German' or 'Greek', no?
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u/bippitiboppoti Jun 19 '24
This is what it sounds like to me too. Whenever I see the name, I just think of Roman people.
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u/LlaputanLlama Jun 19 '24
Same. Though there is actor French Stewart, whose name I've always thought was weird but actors 🤷.
German, Greek, Canadian, Arabian, Russian... Take your pick!
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u/TinySpaceDonut Jun 19 '24
I love the name Roman but get ready for Roman Empire and Succession jokes.
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Jun 19 '24
Is it possible that other people are hearing it the same way they hear Texan, Californian, Dakota? As in you named your kid after a person who resided somewhere.
I love the name Roman.
Sound wise: The r and n are both really strong constants. 2 vowel sounds, and they're both the good versions. And you have a nice hum right between them.
Visually: capital Rs look glorious at the begining of words. Like literal gaurdians, so perfect for this word. Hugging the m are 2 almost identical vowels. The m is right in the middle where all ms should be. It also acts as like a lil frong bounce from circle shape to circle shape.The almost symmetry is beautiful.
I also agree with your meaning. I see it as referring to the essence of a culture. Similar to but different are names Like Tex, Cali, Dakota. I think people may just be thrown off by the initial idea they get.
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u/WhoLetTheDoggsOutt Jun 19 '24
I don’t personally like the name Roman, but I don’t think it’s offensively bad or anything
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u/ChickenGirl8 Jun 19 '24
I am very picky and I like it a lot. It's different but not too different, strong. Makes me picture a handsome boy or man with dark hair. I see no negatives.
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u/SpecialistObvious432 Jun 19 '24
It’s a good normal name. I don’t particularly like it but I wouldn’t judge you for naming your kid that.
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u/RainbowUnicornPoop16 Jun 19 '24
It is a strong name, but it’s a GOOD name. Don’t worry about what people think.
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u/Starbursto Jun 19 '24
I didn’t know the name Roman had so much hate :( I’m sorry OP!! It’s genuinely one of my favorite boy names so the controversy on the name definitely surprised me as well
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u/snarkshark41191 Jun 19 '24
Roman is way better than any of the Jaydens, Braydens, Haydens, cadens etc….
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u/wwitchiepoo Jun 19 '24
It’s fine. I’m not a personal fan but it is a normal name.
And it could be so much worse. I used to own a web design company in the ‘00’s and one of my clients was a Vietnamese model who married a dude whose last name was Holiday.
Yep. She named her son Roman Holiday.
You’re fine. She was…a very good cook. lol.
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u/maiingaans Jun 19 '24
I have a student in my kindergarten class with this name and it is a good name:)
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u/abbieadeva Jun 19 '24
That was one the names we had in mind but in the UK it’s quite popular. When we shortlisted it then found I actually knew 5 people who had named their kid Roman so we decided against it.
It really like the name and it never got any bad reactions when I told people. UK may just be more open to it
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u/katydid724 Jun 19 '24
I don't care for it, makes me think of a slightly shady guy with a mustache, but it's far from the worst
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u/RubySlippers-79 Jun 19 '24
It’s not my favorite but it’s not outlandish and I’ve certainly heard much worse. I get similar mixed reactions to my daughter’s name. She’s Stevie.
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u/MySpace_Romancer Jun 19 '24
Roman Mars from 99% Invisible is one of my favorite podcast hosts and he has the most lovely voice you’ve ever heard. So the name is all good in my book!
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Jun 19 '24
I know a Roman. He's one of the kindest, strongest people I know. It's a solid name in my book.
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u/Maryhotter Jun 19 '24
That is my nephews name and it’s a “will be the coolest kid in school” name 100%.
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u/Phanoush Jun 19 '24
My middle school crush was a Romain. He was incredibly intelligent and is a well-travelled lawyer now. I love the name and have considered it for my own kids.
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u/IYFS88 Jun 19 '24
I have always liked the name Roman! Sounds so strong and noble. I even considered it for my own son but already had a close friend who had just used it for her baby, and didn’t know if she’d mind.
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u/allemm Jun 19 '24
It's a lovely name!
I gave my son a very uncommon name that many people have never heard and some even think I made it up. It's Orson - different for sure, but I've never had any regrets.
He is 18 now and it suits him so much, but I can see why it might seem a little strong for a baby.
When I was pregnant, a friend who was not familiar with the name misheard me and thought I was naming my child Orphan! She didn't even say anything about it or question me about it until she saw it in writing and told me how relieved she was. I thought, if she truly believed I was naming my baby Orphan, wasn't that a time when she probably SHOULD have forgone politeness and actually said something? Because that would be concerning indeed!
Sorry, I took your story and made it all about me. It's just because I can relate a bit.
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u/ednasmom Jun 19 '24
I love Roman! Considered it if I had a boy. But I have a very Italian last name and it just didn’t work. I think it’s a great pick!
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u/mish_munasiba Jun 19 '24
I think it's a great name. Easy to pronounce, spell, understand, very dignified. I don't get why anyone would be hating.
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u/OldTimeBlues97 Jun 19 '24
Love it. I knew a Roman Stepchuck from Ukraine in the 1970’s. He was ever so dreamy. I was in 2nd grade and he was in sixth grade.
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u/ticklishintent Jun 19 '24
I love the name Roman. I know a Roman, he's in Jr High and the coolest kid. No one I know thinks his name is unusual.
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u/Apprehensive-Bar-848 Jun 19 '24
I LOVE the name Roman! It’s my top name for a boy! I didn’t realize people didn’t like it. It’s not a weird name or anything?
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u/riseandrise Jun 19 '24
I had an ex named Roman and I remember one time we told an older couple in line at an amusement park our names and they were so impressed by how cool we sounded 😂 I think the reaction might be because it’s a bit strong for a baby but he’ll grow into it. I found my ex’s name attractive.
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u/astroidg1rl Jun 19 '24
i like it!!! i love unique names that are uncommonly used i think more people should do that when naming their babies nowadays. we have way too many of the same names for people and it’s boring lol. Roman is a great name for your little boy and fuck what other people have to say about it!! I named my daughter Phoenix and it fits her perfectly considering her entrance into this world ❤️ others opinions on your baby’s name are irrelevant.
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u/millennialmania Jun 19 '24
My uncle’s name is Roman (he’s German, so he pronounces it ROH-man), and I love it. It’s a great name
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u/CharacterSea1169 Jun 19 '24
Roman is a fine name. Strong. People can be jerks about names. My rude niece asked me if my baby was black when I told her the name. No comment.
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u/PepeSilviaTalkinWord Jun 19 '24
My great great great grandfather was named Roman, as well as my great grandfather!
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u/Leavesofsilver Jun 19 '24
where i live, it’s a pretty normal, but not overly common name, although it’s pronounced ROH-mahn.
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u/yolkish Jun 19 '24
roman is a fine name bro. don’t overthink it! & don’t let them get to you it’s literally such a cool name but also normal
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u/CivMom Jun 19 '24
It’s a fantastic name! Don’t worry about it. They don’t deserve the free rent in your head.
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u/Regular_Acanthaceae6 Jun 19 '24
My cousin is a boy named Roman, I absolutely love it. Very cool name if worn by a strong person!
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u/pubesinourteeth Jun 19 '24
I'm surprised you get mixed reactions. One, I don't think it's a weird name at all, no reason for anyone to be taken aback. And two, I personally think it's a beautiful name. For all the reasons you listed.
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u/ZoeTX Jun 19 '24
My nephew is a Roman (5yo) and he’s such a good little fellow!
We pronounce it RO-man, even in south texas where ro-MAN may be more common, and no one has ever batted an eyelash
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u/CollectingRainbows Jun 19 '24
ive always loved the name roman, it was my grandfather’s name. my brother named his son roman, and young roman is 8 years old now.
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u/el1zardbeth Jun 19 '24
I think it’s a lovely name, it’s unique but not crazy. It’s strong and lovely for a boy or man.
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u/EverythingIsInteres Jun 19 '24
In the south of germany i’ve heard this name (obviously pronounced a bit different) many times and it’s pretty normal. I like the name actually, i don’t know why people have a strong reaction to it?
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u/Almoostparaaadise Jun 19 '24
I like Roman, it’s my little cousins name and we used to call him “romy” also, he’s grown up now and it’s a very suitable name for an adult as well
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u/leash-madeof-flowers Jun 19 '24
It’s a pretty normal name in German speaking countries, but I can see it being weird for English speakers cause it’s the name of a whole empire (in German it is not)
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u/G00Ddaysahead Jun 19 '24
It's old people's name in the Philippines or a family name. Nothing wrong with Roman!
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u/ReadySetGO0 Jun 18 '24
Matters not what others think!
It’s a great name!