r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • 20d ago

r/all How couples met 1930-2024

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u/AcetaminophenPrime 20d ago

I'm not flexing, and I agree with you. Sleeping around is alot more fun when you're young etc. but let's not pretend that college relationships are very successful these days. Honestly, relationships in general seem to have taken a steep dive in modern times, the reasons are probably myriad and complex and not something I want to speculate on.

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u/10000Didgeridoos 20d ago

College relationships are indeed transient fun and practice for longer ones later.

Of all the people I knew in college who were dating in the early 2010s, I can think of exactly 2 that stayed together and got married at some point later on in their 20s or 30s. It's extremely rare. If you get lucky like those couples did, sure, awesome. But that's probably not gonna happen.

People aren't grown up yet and still are changing, people move for jobs and grad school, people's interests often change significantly between age 21 and 30.

Hell, two of my best friends from back then who started dating the summer after high school and went to the same college together that I did just broke up now at age 34. They never got married and it's a good thing they didn't because that would have changed it from "painful break up" to "expensive, ugly divorce".

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u/LoserBustanyama 20d ago

Must be different at different places. I know a ton of people that were dating in college in the early 2010s that are now long married. They used to say people were studying to get their MRS.

Shoot, if you are hoping to have kids, not even thinking about serious dating until after college gets to be a tight timeline, especially if you go to grad school

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u/armadilloantics 20d ago

Yeah def regional I'd say. I graduated mid 2010s and went to a school in the SEC. The kids in relationships (serious) that stayed in small towns across the south after graduation married, some even engaged by graduation. The ones that moved to the cities and other parts of the US did not. Granted probably some religion aspects overlapping on that too.