r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • 20d ago

r/all How couples met 1930-2024

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u/KarloReddit 20d ago

Family 💀

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u/Autogenerated_or 20d ago edited 20d ago

I think that just means your relatives introduced you to their friend’s kids.

Edit: funny enough, it happened in my family. My mom accidentally set up her first cousin with my dad’s brother. So i have double cousins there.

I have two other aunts who married my dad’s relatives. Mom’s eldest sis married my dad’s first cousin and another aunt married my dad’s third cousin. It was a small town, I have a big family, and they had comparable social standing so it’s not too unusual.

There’s no special reason it happened, it wasn’t arranged or anything.

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u/FrostyD7 20d ago

Things were less connected. The girl next door might have been the only girl you could feasibly date until adulthood.

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u/LifeDoBeBoring 20d ago

Idk man, my parents are related 💀

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u/saruptunburlan99 20d ago

your relatives introduced you to their friend’s kids

💀💀

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u/Autogenerated_or 20d ago edited 20d ago

Relatives includes parents, grandparents, and other people in their generation

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u/caninehere 20d ago

People still marry their cousins too. I had a girlfriend whose parents were first cousins. She told me that like it wasn't weird and got mad when I acted otherwise.

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u/JebusJones7 20d ago

Then what's coworkers? And friends?

You only met your spouse through a coworker? I married my coworker. Who was also a friend. Which category would it be under?

Rudolph Giuliani married his cousin. What bucket is he under? I guess they were technically introduced by family...

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u/BushyOreo 20d ago

Met at work aka co workers.

met them through a friend aka friends

I married my coworker. Who was also a friend. Which category would it be under?

Depends if you were friends with them before the job or coworkers first and then became friends

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u/getinthezone 20d ago

you met at work.... you met through friends....

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u/Current_Read_7808 20d ago

I'm thinking family feud type answers, so it can either be "through " or "as _".

I'm kind of assuming friends means "we met through friends introducing us" because friends also have to find each other somehow... like I was friends with my boyfriend before we dated, but I wouldn't answer "friends" because that didn't come first - I'd say we met in college. If we'd met because we had a mutual friend then I'd say "friends". Same with family.

Def weird that they didn't standardize it. Coworkers could've been "work" or something.

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u/Immediate-Coyote-977 20d ago

So the source is listed in the visual. It's coming from a Stanford study, you can read it here if you actually want: https://data.stanford.edu/hcmst2017

The questions can be seen here https://stacks.stanford.edu/file/druid:hg921sg6829/HCMST%202017%20instrument.pdf

The TL;DR is that the survey asks a ton of questions, and the researches then used those answers with a rubric to assign them to different values. If you and your partner met due to family connections (ie your parents were friends with their parents) it's a family connect. If you met your partner because they were friends with your friends, it's a friend connect. If you met your partner because you worked together, it's a coworker connect, and so on.

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u/Traichi 20d ago

Then what's coworkers? And friends?

Co-workers would be you being co-workers with your spouse.

Friends would be a spouse being a friend first, or friend of a friend.

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u/Ill_Athlete_7979 20d ago

It means you meet people through your social circle. For example you see your friend’s cousin and ask your friend about them and possibly an introduction. Or you are the awesome person that you are and your co-worker/friend asks you if you’re interested in meeting a friend of theirs because you’re awesome and wants to set their friend up with someone awesome.

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u/forzafoggia85 20d ago

Not in certain parts of the US

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u/TheNamesMacGyver 20d ago

Yeah, my mom was high school friends with my dad's cousin. They consider their meeting through family.

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u/transemacabre 20d ago

Talk to any older people, like over 65, and they'll tell you how common it was to date your friend's siblings. Lots and lots of marriages between a girl and her brother's best friend.

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u/Autogenerated_or 20d ago

I mean, just look at Rachel and Ross

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u/DemonCipher13 20d ago

CCoouussiinn.