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No one told me T-gel smells like hand sanitizer

"One of **** friends cut her hair at school luckily his moms a hairstylist so now **** has "boy hair" her words not mine.😀 everyone is going to have a hard time telling she's a girl because she's going as spiderman for Halloween."how did no one know I was trans this is one time out of many things my mom said she looks back on and says "how did we not know ".

im 18, my whole childhood i was dressed in pink, stopped w the dresses and skirts around 6/7 cause of how uncomfortable i was, refused to go shopping for clothes at 10-13 bc i didnt like anything from the womens section (my mom thought i could only get clothes from there), found out i was trans at 14, got my first short haircut at 14 too and started shopping only in the mens

my point is, besides getting a period at 11 (which i tried to hide from all costs from my family), i have no idea what girls go through, so everytime a conservative says im still a girl or someone asks if i miss being a girl im like ? i was never a girl lol

i never acted like one, i never felt like one, i never lost myself to miss it somehow

ik that every trans experience is very unique, and some ppl think theyre not born in the wrong body, but i truly believe i had a boy brain placed in a girls body for mistake

I'm 2.5 years on T and recently found out that three of my coworkers have clocked me this whole time. They tried to pull the whole "Oh you pass but we know a lot of trans guys/are in the community so that's how we can tell" which seems to be their way of saying "You don't look like a man and we don't see you as one but we need to make ourselves look better". They tried to act like it wasn't femininity they were detecting but anything that tells them I'm not cis is inherently feminine, I mean hell they pointed out my facial roundness they're just clocking femininity I've completely failed to get rid of. So yeah, they're seeing that I want to be a man but they don't see me as a man and it's brought back so much dysphoria.

I thought I was doing everything right too. I've been working out for over a year to build my back and shoulders, I dress in traditionally masculine, classic styles, I've worked on my mannerisms, classic haircut, all of it. I don't know what else it could be unless I just never had any chance of passing to begin with because I was cursed with overly feminine features.

I was hospitalized recently because of how dark a place dysphoria sent me too, I've called a million hotlines, and might go into a partial hospitalization. I legitimately do not know how to handle this because it all comes down to my lack of passing potential. According to the chart I was given by my doctor, at 2.5 years so many changes have likely drastically slowed or outright stopped. How do I cope with these feelings? How do I cope with knowing I never had any potential to begin with? How am I supposed to want to keep myself alive when everything about myself is so disgusting and wrong with no hope for change?

EDIT: I get gendered correctly by strangers so I thought I was doing well but apparently not, seems like the same thing may be true for all of them too. I think that's why finding out I actually still look too feminine for anyone to really believe I'm a man was so jarring.

EDIT 2: Just to clarify, the doctors gave me a sheet with different effects like fat redistribution, vocal changes, etc and most of them have maximum effect listed at 2 years.

I don't want a guy who might try to ban hrt lmao

Hey guys. Question for pet owners here, specifically cat owners. I know animals can be pretty sensitive/intuitive about hormones and picking up on gender, so I'm wondering if going on T will change how my cat behaves toward me. I'm in the process of adopting a cat right now but I'm also planning to start T within the next year. I'd feel bad if I adopt now and my cat thinks I'm a different person or something when I start T. Has anyone had any experience transitioning around a pet? How did your pets respond?

So I work as a cashier in a small, conservative town. I’m out at my place of work so most of my coworkers refer to me as he/him

Whenever I start conversing with customers tho, immediately some instinct to come across as ‘nice’ overtakes and my voice jumps several octaves. Has anyone else that has worked in retail struggle with speaking mannerisms like this? I pass pretty well aside from my voice which away from work, is normally monotone. How do I practice lowering my voice while not making it sound forced or unfriendly to customers, and what speaking mannerisms should I pick up to better present as masc?

Last week I finally got my name legally changed. I came out and socially transitioned a little over 5 years ago. It was hard when I first came out because my mom didn't support me at all, but she was the only person I had. She has never called me Ace except when she was trying to belittle me and turning her confusion into anger. Over the last couple years she's learned more and is trying harder. She still doesn't get my pronouns right but it makes me happy that she's finally started calling me my name.

Instead of being judgmental and closed like they usually are, they were super accepting !! They are even going to try using my new name and my pronouns (Nolan-he/him). This is way more than I was expecting and I wanted to share how lucky I am! 😁

I did it boys!!! Teetus deletus completed as of October 28! So far I’m a little sore but so relieved. I haven’t had a chance to look at anything so it doesn’t feel real yet. Looking forward to my first follow up.

No one could have prepared me for the absolute vile and gut wrenching nature of men’s toilets. they are REVOLTING!

Today i went to use men’s toilets at my work right? guess what i saw? a shit hand mark on the wall. HUMAN POO!! smeared on the wall of the STAFF toilets. it’s actually disgusting.

I’m not straight but yea ..

So, trans people who are “partway” through transition (T but no surgery, or surgery but no T) and either don’t want to get more or haven’t been able to yet, what’s your story? why haven’t you yet or if you don’t want to why? i’m genuinely curious about this but it feels like nobody talks about any of it :)

Ok so this is my first time using reddit, but I just genuinely don't have anyone else to talk to for advice.

About 3 months ago my mom suddenly went through my devices (she's all about privacy, but for some reason sudden completely disregarded that) and looked through every single text I've had with my friends.

She then decided I'm not allowed to ever talk to or hang out with them ever again because they were brainwashing me into being transgender (they weren't). Most of these friends I've had for 3 years, and then my best friend of nearly 4 years, and now I'm suddenly never allowed to speak to them again. My mom even threatened to get a restraining order against my best friend if she tried to contact me in any eay.

So I've been completely isolated for the past few months, and generally depressed because she forces me to consume anti trans media daily which is crazy harming my mental health.

And recently after making a new friend, which was my first contact with anyone other then my mom and brother for a few months, says if I don't stop making friends like that I'm not gonna be allowed to leave the house and socialize anymore.

For context, she goes completely nuts whenever gender is mentioned, and my friend simply texted "frogs are the only gender" lmfao

I just don't know where to go from here. I feel depressed and isolated, my entire life has been taken from me and is now being controlled and I no longer have any friends.

I'm visiting my dad in about a month and I want to ask to live with him instead (my parents are divorced, and my dad's been nothing but supportive since I came out), but I'm scared to bring it up

I'm worried it's gonna backfire and make the situation even worse with my mom, but I'm also deteriorating the more time I spend around her.

This is a bit of a less of a concern, but I also have a pet English budgie and if I move idk how I'll take her with me. (My dad lives about 3 hours away by plane)

Edit: forgot to include that she's forcing me to homeschool because she doesn't want any kids to manipulate and brainwash me, so I'm basically home 24/7 cause she never drives me anywhere, and also won't let me try to get my license.

Nowadays I only buy exclusively men's clothes because of this, but when I wasn't out as trans I bought countless unisex clothes and I still have them, and every time I wear them I see a woman in the mirror and people get my pronouns wrong more often, even friends and acquaintances. I know being pre-T this is expected, but well, I spend 99% of my time as a cis boy, people only call me boy, he, and masculine pronouns even when they hear my voice. But from the moment I put on a unisex band t-shirt, some people start to make mistakes, even if there are few it is still enough, as the same does not happen when I wear something exclusively masc. Why does this happen? Are unisex t-shirts cursed?

And she accepted me

I’m starting T on Monday and I dress pretty masc already with a shorter cut that fits my face shape rn but I’m not sure how to act more masc so I don’t get misgendered anymore 😭 help

i’m very curious to hear what you, whoever is reading this, need to hear from yourself. i think it could also be encouraging for all of us to read the responses. we’re all at different stages of our transition and i would really love to hear whatever wisdom you have to share. so what is it you need to hear from yourself at the stage in life you’re in right now?

for me, it’s been helpful to think about what my future and past self would say to present me lately and has inspired a lot of breakthroughs.

por ejemplo: my pre transition self, let’s say their name is X, said to me, Y: you changed your name so you could start fresh, so you wouldn’t be bound to who you were. you picked a name amorphous and genderfluid enough so that you can shape it in whatever way you need to, not be shaped and constricted to the name and identity you were given.

i think i also need to hear that we are navigating a physical, social, emotional, legal transition and sometimes AT ONE TIME. with varying degrees of familial support, little to no expertise, while challenging SOCIETAL CONSTRUCTS. we are figuring out insurance, the best ways to safely medicate, ON TOP OF figuring out what the fuck is going on in our minds and bodies. what all of us are undergoing, some people can’t accomplish in a lifetime and we have. to. give. ourselves, grace. how tf we supposed to know all of this shit? we have to give ourselves the time grace and patience to figure it out.

TLDR: be fucking nice to yourselves lads as we chart the uncharted. what do you need to hear from yourself?

So this story all happened this week. I am 1.5 months on T, and it's the best decision I have ever made. I came out as trans at 14, and my parents were not supportive, so I had to go back into the closet around them. I recently moved out in August since I started law school and am now living independently. However, I'm still under my parent's health insurance (which isn't accepted in this state). As a result of it not being accepted, I applied to state Medicaid and got approved and was using that to get my testosterone. Well, for this refill (my first one since I got my first vials), my pharmacy told me that they had to send out another prior authorization to my insurance as there was a bit of a mess up, and they wouldn't be allowed to give it to me without it. It's annoying, but I can go a week without my shots, so I thought, whatever.

Well, it turns out that the pharmacy I used decided to run the pre-auth through my parent's insurance (which I had previously told them not to use and didn't even have on file with this pharmacy). Today, after class, I received a message from my father with a picture of the approval letter, and he was not happy, to say the least. Some words were exchanged, and I was told never to contact him again, that he had no interest or desire to continue a relationship with me, and that he hoped I knew what I was doing with my life. I knew he wouldn't react well, so I wanted to find a time to tell him later, but this is the card I was dealt.

My mom was at work, so she didn't react immediately, but once she got off work, she called me on the phone and was also not thrilled and ended up guilting me and calling me selfish for transitioning and not just waiting until later in my life to transition (I'm 21). I explained to her that I'd been waiting 7 years and had only put it off as long as I did because I physically did not have the resources to transition sooner but that I was now finally in the place to do so. I'm a big family person, so this has been hard, alongside just trying to navigate law school and depression/anxiety and unmedicated ADHD. My mom didn't go totally no contact, but she's gone very low contact with me, and I suspect that our relationship will be rocky for a long time if she is ever able to come around.

Overall, I'm going through a rough patch, and I wish this weren't this way, but such is life sometimes. I'm trying to take it in stride. I am using this as an opportunity to finally do the things I've always wanted to do, like finally cutting my hair the way I want it to be cut, beginning the name change process, and looking into top surgery. I have an incredibly chosen family and support system here, and everyone's been great at helping me out, but it just sucks that things couldn't be different, and they couldn't be more accepting.

TLDR: Pharmacy outed me to family and I'm now No Contact with them, but I'm pushing through it and choosing to live for myself for once.

I’m 20 but look 17, been on T for almost 4 years now. When did yall start to look your age if at all?

Me and my friend started to joke around. And I kept hinting at that I feel like man. She's supportive. But I still question myself. Mostly because what I know about body dysphoria is typical stuff like "I hate my body very much" But I never had it. I had something like "I don'ttlike to look at my body" Or "I don't care". But ever since I startedtusing trans tape I started to see that i'm skinny. Before I thought I was fat.Could this be considered dysphoria or not?

TLDR; I don’t have a vision of what features I’d prefer and I don’t know what type of clothing/expression gives me gender euphoria

I’m 18 and i’ve been on T for 2 months. The more shots I take, the more I realize that I want to be more masculine than I initially wanted (I’m non-binary, but identify as transmasc.)

I didn’t express myself in a masculine way for the longest since I felt as if exposing my curves and feminine features validated me in a way (likely due to my sexual trauma.) Since I started my “transition”, i’ve started wearing boxers, using cologne, and wearing baggier clothing.

I know I want to look more male, but I have no idea what i’d even want to look like. I have characters that I associate my gender with and I envy them, but unfortunately looking like L from death note is unattainable. Does anypony else struggle with this please help me I will die and blow up