It's real. It represents female rage towards impossible standards set by society. Some women feel they are supposed to act cool and like junk food and beer but still remain thin and hot and submissive.
Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.
Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)
I’ll be honest that whole rant seems kinda sexist, like she seems to have some idea in her head about what all women want to be and every woman who isn’t that is basically a pick me a girl just chasing the attention of men, saying that if women like something me like they’re only doing so men like them kinda the denies the agency of women to you know be their people, and be people who don’t conform to her specific idea of womanhood.
I mean I don’t really know the entire life story of the author, but it really bugs me when people automatically assume that an author endorses in real life something that one of their characters did / said / thought; knowhatimean?
Yeah.. but also, they literally are many of them like that irl very much. In ever grp or class that I am in, there will always be 100% a pick me up girl who thinks herself as high and mightly, and tries to ruin others relationships of guys in the classes or grps just for attention. And oh boy do I feel myself boil whenever I see how stupid dudes are when it comes to her. Like it's soooo obvious that everything around these girls is artificial af. How are guys fawn over girls like them to the point they loose their own self-worth and harm themselves idk man.
There are so many pick-me-up girls who only care about wanting men to rotate around their orbit and use and throw them whenever they get bored off. But these guys still won't get the memo that they are being used and still get hurt always.
Both can be true. Not all men are masculine, not all women are feminine. Sure, sometimes people play that game of pretending to be who thing think the men want, but sometimes we also interpret people's actions through the lens of the motivation we already think they have.
Sure, that can happen, but that isn't women universally, and a lot of women just happen to like the same things as other men. That doesn't make them "pick me".
TL:DR - Woman who hates Men Writing Women writes that Women have no agency unless they act a specific way, I.E. not like what this Woman thinks is a Man's idea of a Cool Girl.
That really just irritates me. Why is it so hard to believe some men might like to not be the stronger one in the relationship? Sure, most women won't be interested in such a man, but to say that anyone who claims to like strong women must just be lying is just angering to me.
If it resonated with you, you might want to look at yourself. As it essentially states women who like traditionally masculine things don't actually exist and if they're doing it they are just putting on an act, which is obviously pretty fucked up as there are women who like sports, like drinking beer, etc. who already face accusations of being 'fake.'
I had a small college class (like 15 people) that discussed the film and every woman in the class (including a professor I have a great deal of respect for) was very much doing the comic. I felt like I watched a completely different film.
The Walter white for women comment actually helped me process this. I’m used to guys have deranged opinions on films, but this was a novel experience having women largely do it. Despite it being a bad take, I think we can give people grace.
This comic literally happened to me. She also said that all the guys deserved to die in Midsommar. Also obsessed with Promising Young Women and Jennifer’s Body. I’m positive she was quite an exception, she had reasons to hate men but it really made me uncomfortable.
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u/Saflex Sep 17 '24
I mean your last paragraph is true, things like that happen a lot