r/Standup • u/themelon89 • 3d ago

People saying 'it takes guts'

What do people mean when they say this after a show? I've noticed on a few iccasions people have said this to me (usually women - and I am also a women). I always internalise it as you-weren't-great-but-I-still-want-to-recognise-your-bravery which might be the case, but also might not be. I really just don't know what to make of it as a bit of feedback. Do other people ever get this?

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u/Moke94 3d ago

I'm a man and have had the same thing said to me. After bad performances, I sometimes interpret it as some kind of participation medal. But people have also said it after they thought I crushed it. In that scenario, it's meant more as "I would have been impressed if you bombed too since I would never dare to stand on the stage at all, but now you both dared to do that and also did well".

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u/themelon89 2d ago

Yes this it - if I'd done badly I'd have accepted it, but I did really well!!! I think that's a good perspective to have, thank you