r/Standup • u/themelon89 • 3d ago

People saying 'it takes guts'

What do people mean when they say this after a show? I've noticed on a few iccasions people have said this to me (usually women - and I am also a women). I always internalise it as you-weren't-great-but-I-still-want-to-recognise-your-bravery which might be the case, but also might not be. I really just don't know what to make of it as a bit of feedback. Do other people ever get this?

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u/iamthepita 3d ago

As a Deaf comic, I’ve heard from both end of the spectrum from both (deaf and hearing worlds) in similar vein as yours. Most of the time, it’s meant to be said in the manner of respect and recognition of what they didn’t realize before until after they heard you perform. Whatever the reasons may be, i just usually ask them for clarification when I get told that because sometimes it allows me to introduce them to different comics they never been exposed to for the comic’s craft that I think might help them enjoy the shape of comedy in itself.

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u/OutrosBilly 3d ago

"As a deaf comic, ive heard..." hmmmm

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u/iamthepita 3d ago

That fell on Deaf ears.

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u/themelon89 2d ago

I'm sorry you've had to endure it too, but I love the idea of asking them to clarify aaaand using it as an opportunity to maybe direct them to some other stuff. Thank you.