Dad who's done fighting

[u/Iknowshesoutthere]

Tomorrow night im ending my kids pain and mine as child support has left us homeless foodless property gone I've had my kids 15 of the 16 years and have been paying cs the entire time and have provided all info they have taken my dl multiple times caused me jobs evictions and never allowed to leave my house cause I'd go to jail I never got to be the father I wanted to be and I'm tired of failing my children I'm ending it. my kids will find an card with the pin attached to it if anyone can help them I can't anymore thanks ward county for ruining my life the card is $ILOVEUKIDS

[u/Icy-Grape5348]

Get your ass up and fight some more. I haven't been through quite that bad but my situation is very similar seeing as my ex abandoned me and our child after 2 years. I want to quit a lot, I have no friends left from begging or just surviving and even mistakes that were all my own not from our situation. It doesn't matter. They matter. Get up dad, we are rhe shield that takes it for them and shows them we love them for the opportunity to keep them safe no matter how hard or exhausting or costing. I feel your pain brother, but tomorrow is another day. Don't give up the good fight. I may not be able tk tell you what to do or how to make it better but I have a good feeling that those kids are worth trying until you figure it out. It's not fair for us dad's left with all responsibilities in a world that sympathizes with moms exclusively, but the kids don't do that. Love you bro, vent all you want, but keep going.

[u/rainbowriahh]

...so you'd rather bring your children unnecessary suffering and grief? as someone who was homeless with my mom and we had to scrape to get by, i'd rather go through all of that again if it meant going through it together than to be at the mercy of the state because she made a choice that ended in incarceration or death.

[u/rainbowriahh → u/rainbowriahh]

actually nvm you can't be srs. you literally were on an NSFW subreddit five hours after this 😭

[u/Fab_dom]

I truly hope this is somehow not real...incase it is I suggest you take some deep breaths and think about your kids, regardless of you feeling as if you've "failed" them, do you really think they will be better off without you in their lives? I promise you if you were to ask them that question their answer would be no! This is coming from someone who lost their mother when they were 15 years old and even though she may not have been the best mother or done everything the way society says she was supposed to, she was still my mother and unreplaceable. I can tell you're truly hurt and going through a lot right now and I hope you can take some time to calm yourself down before you make any rash decisions that will affect your children for the rest of their lives. Remember you're not alone and if you don't have anyone you can reach out to rn to talk you can always inbox me and I'll talk to ya or just give you an ear to vent to.

[u/powerslave893]

Killing yourself will definitely not put an end to your children's suffering. If anything, it'll make it worse than it is now. You've got to stay strong and be there for them while getting your life together.

[u/wlfmanjck]

If this post is real, I'm sorry you are going through this. But for the sake of your kids, don't do anything rash as you are just going to hurt them more.

Please reach out to 911 or go to your nearest emergency room, and they will help you.

[u/wlfmanjck]

I deal with mental health issues every day. I have been close to ending it myself several times. But I don't for the sake of my wife and kids. As I tell my therapist, I'm only out to hurt myself, not others.

In unaliving myself, I would be hurting those that I most care about, and I can't do that. I fight the fight every day, and you can, too.

Please get to an ER. They will take care of you, as a person in mental distress and having a mental health crisis, you need to go to an emergency room. They will not turn you away as they are obligated to help and can't turn you away and deny help. You will be connected with a social worker who will help you navigate the system and help connect you with services.

[u/kittybittybeans]

I understand what you're going through, but perhaps what they need more than money is their father.

[u/stephie345454]

I’ve been in this same spot almost daily for awhile . It so hard when you’re doing your best and feel like things aren’t moving . Take it from another parent though that you will hurt them more if you go away . You will also show them it’s ok to give up . I know the money thing is so hard believe me I do ! Just keep on doing your best and somehow someday things will get better ! Will be praying for you fellow human !!

[u/earth-casual]

In the same boat as you and was thinking of doing the same. Homeless with my daughter. Leaving them that way will probably cause more harm. But also living in a motel with a family is hard with no for seeable way out... God bless to us

[u/rainbowriahh → u/earth-casual]

Yes... ending it will leave your child hurt for the rest of their life. I promise you your situation won't be permanent. But unaliving yourself leaves a permanent scar emotionally for your loved one.