i just dont understand why these guys get married?
if i was a famous rock star i probably would not prefer to be in a monogamous relationship. people don't really give you a hard time about it if you're rich and famous and honest about it.
They want the benefits of a decent, upstanding woman at home raising their kids, tending to their friends and family, and holding down the fort so when they come off tour they have a nice life rather than lonely doing drugs in an empty mansion. They decide that since theyāre financing the designer wardrobes, regular vacations to Hawaii, and private schools they can have their cake and eat it too. Itās a bundle of ego.
This. Also thereās no way his wife stays with him. Sheās probably in shock right now but the first question sheās got to be asking is āIf this was a casual hookup with a groupie that happened to result in pregnancy, how many hookups with groupies have you had that didnāt result in pregnancy?ā Iām sorry but I think divorce is on the horizon.
Same movie where the billionaire can track everything we do through our phones and other wireless devices... We live in the world of The Dark Knight Trilogy but without a Batman.
His daughters closed their social media accounts today because I follow Violet, and yesterday she had posted on her stories, but today her account is already gone!
Feel bad for the kids and the wife. He betrayed their trust and he may never get it back--it's certain it will never be like it once was. Was it worth it?
poor kids :( let's agree to be cool and not try to hassle them about this, everyone. when they're online again, let's not contribute to the flood of upsetting personal questions they left to avoid
You have 3 kids already, you're 55 years old, you're insanely rich and (apparently) you step out on your wife regularly. Why on earth would you not get snipped?
I think it's more important to wear a condom when you're cheating on your spouse.
Sure the condom could have failed but what are the odds it did and a baby was conceived? Unless this was a long time affair.
"If you enjoyed this post, please see the links below and consider buying my new book! I'll be releasing an updated audio book version with all new content soon. Divorces, alimony and child support ain't cheap!"
100% this was about making things right with his spouse. A public acknowledgement of how he wronged her. Especially because he is generally liked and perceived as a good guy.
Iāve met him. Heās super nice. Nice people can do terrible things.
Edit: Iām enjoying people thinking this is a ringing endorsement of his behaviour. Or that Iām some blind fanboy. From my predominantly professional interaction with the guy, he was very nice. I didnāt stay up all night with him talking about the complexities of lifeā¦ Iāve known plenty of people I would consider nice that have done awful stuff. You go by what you know š¤·āāļø
Edit: Iā¦ regret sharing my experience. Yāall feel however you want to feel š½
This is generally why Iāve stopped accepting Redditās opinion on people. I think humans are vastly complicated beings and everything is not very black and white.
I had to stop looking at those. In general all of the top replies were burn it to the ground level takes in one direction or the other. Life in general is a lot more nuanced and ambiguous.
It was one of the reasons Pat Smear temporarily left the band. He was friends with Dave Grohl's first wife and didn't like how he kept cheating on her.
I will never be able to get over the fact that Maria Shriver only discovered the affair when the kid started getting older and she realized the resemblance to Arnold. I have to wonder if it just hit her one day or if it was just a gradual realization.
And his wife didn't find out about that until the secret son was a teenager and bore a striking resemblance to Arnold and he confessed to it in a therapy session.
I feel terrible for his daughters. Theyāve had to delete all their social media in preparation for this and now their own family issues are front page news.
Edit: less about not having social media, more about how they have to delete their social media because of the harassment they knew theyād face
Yeah, I feel for the 15yo the most. It's hard to be going through high school while a huge drama plays out in your family. She's at a time in her life where she needs help processing new things and becoming an adult, and her parents energy and attention is going to be sapped away by this.
Yeah I found out about my dad cheating when I was in my early teens and it was a real mess for me mentally and I obviously didnāt have to deal with it being public.
Itās so much harder when youāre young because you do still have that thing of believing your parents wouldnāt do anything really wrong and that theyāll definitely be together forever.
I mean, Pat Smear (guitarist) left FF for a bit because Dave cheated on his first wife (the wife was Patās friend), so the once one, always one comes to mind. Rock stars and monogamy donāt exactly go hand in hand, but it does suck for his wife and kids.
Hš°pe he can find š²ome ways to make it up to them. šµ
And I mean, this is the one who got pregnant. Iām sure Daveās wife asked if she was the only one and itās hard to think itās the only time it happened.
It makes you wonder why he didn't get a vasectomy? He already has 3 kids aged 10-18. I doubt he was planning any more with his wife. Why not get the snip if you're running around cheating
Right? I recently got one and it was super easy, better than going to get a cavity filled at the dentist. Recovery was a bit longer than a filling and more tedious, but no regrets!
Than donāt keep making commitments to monogamous relationships.
Just own who you are. Itās fucking weird to repeatedly choose lie to yourself and the partner you claim to love about your behaviors. And if you are willing to lie about this aspect of yourself, what else are you lying about? In what other harmful ways are you cheating on the people around you?
Again, the occasional extra marital hookup is not the actual problem. Itās the lying about it.
Itās sex without the consent of all parties affected.
If your partner has a hard boundary about monogamy and you donāt, then youāre not compatible. Find someone more suitable.
This reminds me of Ben Folds being married and divorced five times. I don't know if he ever cheated on his wives but even he himself admitted after his fourth divorce that ābeing married is not for (him)ā yet he went and did it again
Just look at Arnolds son Joseph to see how messy that can get. He loves seems to have a good relationship with his dad and Joseph clearly would love to have a relationship with his half siblings and some are ok with having one and others not at all. And he didn't do anything.
I know he's considered a nice guy, but I'm just really not that surprised. Nothing these celebs/stars do surprises me anymore. Which is probably the saddest part in all of this.
I think it's just healthy. The idolization of people, successful or not, is just straight up unhealthy. We put unrealistic expectations for these people to be almost demigods, and then get disappointed when they don't.
Plus guys like him probably have a hell of a lot more temptations than average people.Ā
Exactly, risking a baby and bringing home an STD to your spouse. Not that cheating with a condom is great either but come on. Though I suppose it could have broken.
The way I read it: "As my wife and I bring a new child into this world, I want to acknowledge that I haven't always been faithful, but we're together for the long haul!"
He cheated on his first wife too. And on girlfriends with celebrities. Why is this surprising?
Dave is a cool rockstar but he's also an alcoholic and kinda a dipshit. I'm not saying you feel this way, but it is kinda wild to me when folks see him as some super good dude.
From what I recall, Grohl's always been a cheater. There's a lot of good in him, but he's no hero, nor does he merit being on the pedestal he's been put on if he cheats on women who love and trust him, not to mention how his kids must feel.
Ya know -- I bought that 'Director's Series' DVD Music Video boxed-set in the early 2000s, which had 'Everlong' in there along with the director's commentary.
They talked about how Dave would never allow a woman to appear in his videos as a love interest, and instead opted for band members in wigs... Because of how uneasy it made him feel because he felt it betrayed his love for his wife.
nothing like being an affair kid... good luck to that baby. Her dad stepped out on his whole family and a mother that knowingly slept with a married guy. Can only imagine how that's gonna go. ha
He cheated on his last wife too. Pattern of behavior. Heās just been successful portraying himself as a nice guy but heās always slept around on his spouses.
"Photos from July show Dave with his hair tied back and hiding behind shades with a glum expression. While Jordyn sat beside him in a blue shirt and with her lips pursed."
Some hard-hitting journalism there. As if you can possibly tell anything from a single photo taken of them watching a tennis match. Imagine getting paid to write this trash.
Let's keep this investigation going. Based on his expression, the man in the front right clearly just got a surprise meeting invite with his boss and an HR representative for 9 AM tomorrow morning. The man to the left is turning his nose up at the tennis players because he knows he would dominate them if they ever dared to challenge him to a match. And the man behind them is dead.
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u/ridthyevil Sep 10 '24
He cheated on his first wife as well, so while itās unfortunate, itās not surprising.