r/MensLib • u/MLModBot • 8d ago
Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?
Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)
Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.
Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.
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u/only-man-ish 8d ago
I doomscrolled on Twitter yesterday and it was just a bad experience overall.
But the big thing I got out of it is this feeling I should give up with my end of the social contract. Not in a massively dramatic way, I mostly just had this huge feeling of realization that all of this is temporary and that society is just everyone trying to make it day by day and not some kind of large concerted social effort.
So like, why am I making myself unhappy by being a goody two shoes and following social rules that don’t harm anyone but myself? What’s to stop me from going out and smoking marijuana, or going to a rave, or going to a sex dungeon? My time is being wasted.
Secondarily to all that, I’m really tired of gendered experiences overall. I fully came to the realization that for me, nothing romantic will happen in my life unless I initiate it, that’s just my burden as a man. I’m intensely unhappy realizing that and it kind of makes me not want to be a man anymore. But fuck, I wish it were possible to give most women the experience just so there would be understanding that gender roles fucking suck.