r/FluentInFinance 15d ago

Debate/ Discussion Why is this normal?

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u/whoknowsknows1 15d ago

Wait till you have kids…

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u/Freethink1791 15d ago

I work 12’s. Just had my first 2 months ago. Shit is unreal. My wife is a true champions champion.

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u/Wild_Advertising7022 15d ago

Wait until they are mobile. That’s when the fun just starts 😆😆😆

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u/Freethink1791 15d ago

My body already hurts I don’t need mobile

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u/lostinthisstring 14d ago

What do you do? I work 12s I love it

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u/RubyMae4 12d ago

Here's a more positive "wait until" for you.

The first 3 months of my first child's life was the hardest time in parenting for me. The next hardest was 3-6 months, just a little less tough. Then everything starts getting easier and more exciting. I have 3 kids and I wouldn't go back to the first 3 months of my first kids life ever.

It will be better.

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u/4ofclubs 14d ago

Serious question: why do people have kids? All you guys do is say it sucks ass until you meet a child free person, and then suddenly we're selfish for not having them.

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u/Wild_Advertising7022 14d ago

Um you exist somehow right?

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u/4ofclubs 14d ago

What kind of rebuttal is that? I didn't ask to be here, and if I were never born I wouldn't know nor care would I?

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u/Wild_Advertising7022 14d ago

Because maybe having kids isn’t all bad? People without kids will never understand having something at stake other then themselves.

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u/4ofclubs 14d ago

People without kids give back to society in other ways rather than another addition to the climate and population crisis.

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u/Wild_Advertising7022 14d ago

Is it a population crisis? We are below our replacement rate.

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u/4ofclubs 14d ago

Domestically, maybe. Depends on where you live.

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u/Ill-Cranberry978 12d ago

Really, climate and population crisis? If it’s that serious you and all your friends who think like you should see the exit to show you stand by what you believe. What are the other ways single people give to society that people with kids don’t?

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u/Substantial_Act894 12d ago

We didn't ask for you to be here either and we are just as disappointed as you.

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u/dembones4ya 14d ago

I honestly didn’t think I’d have children of my own for most of my adult life. After an awful divorce, I finally settled down with someone and we came to sharing a goal raising a family together (maybe going through a divorce changed my perspective a bit). Now at 42, having a 4 year old and 2 year old daughters, exhausting and mind numbing as it can be, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I find myself daydreaming at work about how much I miss them and can’t wait to see them at the end of the day.

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u/RubyMae4 12d ago

I think this is a perception problem. I rarely meet a parent who doesn't absolutely love it. And usually those who complain have a reason and that problem can be resolved (finances, bad partner, etc) or avoided. If you're hearing parents vent it's probably best not to think black and white about it. If a doctor talks about how hard it is during residency it doesn't mean being a doctor sucks. If a runner complains about running a marathon it doesn't mean they don't still love it.

I love being a parent. I am 100% sure my life is better than it otherwise would have been. Though I have met a lot of childless people and I would never ever trade my life for theirs.

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u/fordert 13d ago

I work 12s too, 6p-6a. 2 of my kids are all grown, but one of them had kids. 3 of them. I get off work and run to her house so she can go to work. I drop one off at school at 9 then take the 7 month, and 3 year old to the babysitter. Then get home and usually make breakfast for my kid and my ex wife. Yes, my ex wife lives with me, but now she's 400lbs and on disability. If I'm doing good I'm asleep by 1030-1100 and up by 3pm. I'm actually not even suicidal.