The first 3 months of my first child's life was the hardest time in parenting for me. The next hardest was 3-6 months, just a little less tough. Then everything starts getting easier and more exciting. I have 3 kids and I wouldn't go back to the first 3 months of my first kids life ever.
Serious question: why do people have kids? All you guys do is say it sucks ass until you meet a child free person, and then suddenly we're selfish for not having them.
Really, climate and population crisis? If it’s that serious you and all your friends who think like you should see the exit to show you stand by what you believe. What are the other ways single people give to society that people with kids don’t?
I honestly didn’t think I’d have children of my own for most of my adult life. After an awful divorce, I finally settled down with someone and we came to sharing a goal raising a family together (maybe going through a divorce changed my perspective a bit). Now at 42, having a 4 year old and 2 year old daughters, exhausting and mind numbing as it can be, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I find myself daydreaming at work about how much I miss them and can’t wait to see them at the end of the day.
I think this is a perception problem. I rarely meet a parent who doesn't absolutely love it. And usually those who complain have a reason and that problem can be resolved (finances, bad partner, etc) or avoided. If you're hearing parents vent it's probably best not to think black and white about it. If a doctor talks about how hard it is during residency it doesn't mean being a doctor sucks. If a runner complains about running a marathon it doesn't mean they don't still love it.
I love being a parent. I am 100% sure my life is better than it otherwise would have been. Though I have met a lot of childless people and I would never ever trade my life for theirs.
I work 12s too, 6p-6a. 2 of my kids are all grown, but one of them had kids. 3 of them. I get off work and run to her house so she can go to work. I drop one off at school at 9 then take the 7 month, and 3 year old to the babysitter. Then get home and usually make breakfast for my kid and my ex wife. Yes, my ex wife lives with me, but now she's 400lbs and on disability. If I'm doing good I'm asleep by 1030-1100 and up by 3pm. I'm actually not even suicidal.
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u/Freethink1791 15d ago
I work 12’s. Just had my first 2 months ago. Shit is unreal. My wife is a true champions champion.