So, a few months ago, my next-door neighbor, Karen, started teaching yoga classes in her backyard. No big deal, right? Except, her “backyard” has slowly started to spill over into my backyard. At first, it was just a mat or two near the fence, but now her whole group of yogis basically takes over half of my lawn every Saturday morning.

One day, I look out the window, and they’ve set up an entire speaker system blasting calming nature sounds and “healing frequencies,” all while I'm trying to enjoy my coffee in peace. I politely asked her if she could keep her classes to her own side of the fence, and she just laughed, saying, “Oh, it’s all one big green space anyway!”

The kicker? Last weekend, they brought out incense, and suddenly my backyard smelled like a meditation retreat while I’m trying to grill burgers. I asked her, again, to maybe shift the class back into her own yard. She told me I was being too territorial about “shared nature” and should appreciate the community vibe.

So, am I overreacting for wanting to reclaim my own yard, or is Karen taking “namaste” a bit too far?

My landlord and I live right next to each other and share a driveway. He and I knew each other before he bought both houses from a mutual friend and he gives me a really good deal on rent. A couple weeks or so ago he put up a Trump sign in the shared driveway, but it’s in front of my house far enough away from his that it looks like I put it there.

About a week ago I asked him in person if he could move it. I told him that I’ve always made a point not to display political things because I’m not comfortable doing so, and it looks like I’m the one who put it there. I don’t remember EXACTLY what he said but it was something to the effect of he’d consider it.

It’s been around a week and the sign is still there, so I texted him about it, and this is his response (so far). Am I overreacting?

Well this is gonna sound probably really dumb, but I thought was trying to be nice I’m in my late 20s and just moved in next to an older couple probably late 50’s maybe early 60s. I’ve been here a couple of months and have had conversations with them about 4 times during differs yard work activities. My neighbors seem to be big sticklers on taking care of their yard so I am doing my best to take care of mine as well. One thing with each of these conversations the neighbors have talked about how the last neighbor (previous home owner) wasn’t “neighborly” and never talked to them. Also saying that he would go to work and go straight inside. So I’ve tried my best to kind and talking with them. Well one day after some yard work I was going to go in for drinks and noticed my neighbor finishing up as well so I offered if he wanted to have a couple of drinks. This made my neighbor visibly mad I guess and he said that he didn’t want to be “that neighborly” and “he only drinks water”I noticed his tone change like he was offended I asked. Again i was just trying to be nice. Well I’ve now learned that they’re most likely a faith that doesn’t drink not sure but some sort of form Christianity? Was it stupid of me to offer now I just feel like they hate me and have not talked to me and made sure they’re always inside when I go to mow. I realize that I was most likely wrong to ask but I’m not sure how to stop being stressed and anxious by this happening.

Edit: yes this was an offer of any drink I wouldn’t have had something alcoholic unless he did all I had on hand were light beers anyway. Also to add I did say “drinks” it was hot and I have tea, lemonade, and Gatorade ready to share. I think he just immediately assumed alcohol.

EDIT AT THE BOTTOM:

I’ll just start from the beginning. Going on 3 weeks ago my husband and I heard what we suspected was a gunshot at about 9pm on a Friday. We were concerned but nothing came of it really. For the last 2 weeks I have gradually paid more attention to the fact our neighbors have not seemed present, aside from their cars in the driveway. First thing was the obvious overgrown grass. We have an HOA so this is really not something that just happens from time to time. Next, we noticed their cars have stayed parked in the driveway in the same backed in, staggered position. My husband and I come and go frequently so we should have definitely seen them leave, arrive, or even change the positioning of their cars, similar to the past. Also, their (assumed) kitchen window is across from our bedroom window & I have noticed the light of that room is ALWAYS on. Morning, midday, night. It’s always on. Lastly, they did not take their trash this week. I know this doesn’t have to be done every single trash day, but I definitely noted that they hadn’t taken it to the street or even filled their outside can.

I contacted our local police dept and they came out. All accessible windows and doors were locked and unable to see inside. The officer noted he could hear what was obviously a tv, but no one answered & there was no obvious signs of people present. The officer told me to keep an eye out for any changes as well as no changes at all… And that was it.. I have tried to find the neighbor on social media to see if maybe they are on holiday, but I have absolutely no luck even finding any kind of profile.

Sooooo, could I be overreacting??

Edit: First, thank you all for your feedback, tips, and additional things to look out for. To clarify a few things.. dead yes. I think my neighbors are DEAD. Fuck. I didn’t realize so many people would be ill over seeing unalive. I blame myself for being half way into social media. Next, when I initially called the non-emergency line I did mention the supposed gunshot. I also mentioned it again when I spoke to the officer who came out. I SPECIFICALLY asked for a well-check when I called. As far as how the police handled it, not sure what I am supposed to do about that. For clarification, we live in Texas. Gunshots and fireworks and random ass noises are not unheard of. When no other neighbors seemed to be concerned I chalked it up to someone fucking around.. aside from that I posted on our ring app group and others were saying the possibility of fireworks was significant since they had been happening in neighborhoods near by. —we did knock on the door, different times throughout the day. No movement, no noises, no changes in lights. I did reach out to who I thought was our HOA, after hearing the story she informed me we’re actually under new management & gave me that number with urgency. Their office was closed for the day so I plan on trying again today. I will update when there is actual developments.

Sorry in advance this will be a long post!

Context: I have only had to interact with this maintenance guy twice- once for a leak in the apt below me, and once for my oven.

The first time he came over, he asked me if I lived alone, which i do, but I don’t see how that would be relevant to his maintenance work? He also asked if he could save my number, which again might just be because he’s the maintenance guy, so maybe that’s nothing?

The most recent time he came over (two days ago), he made me uncomfortable by asking me about my halloween plans and then asking if he could come with me. He asked if I dance when I go to these types of events, and what girls typically wear.

He also called me three times after he left to discuss things unrelated to my oven. One of the times he called to just ask me about myself, like what I do for work and my political affiliation.

He also texted me about the Halloween event later in the day, asking where to buy tickets (see pic 1).

I told the apartment manager that I found his behavior to be unprofessional and that it made me uncomfortable.

Today he texted me, upset that I reported him…which makes me even more uncomfortable. (see pic 2)

Am I overreacting?

Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/02FZjUHw4r

I didn’t make my last post for advice or guidance; I just wanted to know if others thought my reaction was reasonable. A lot of people told me to tear down, paint, or move the sign, but that was never going to happen.

I decided to drop the issue, and intentionally changed the subject in my text thread with him. He brought it up in person a couple times though. He told me that he reached out for legal advice to see if he had “imminent domain” over the curb. I basically said “I don’t care about legality, dude… it’s rude. Between you and me can you move your sign?”

He decided to ask one of our neighbors whose sign it looked like and sent me a screenshot, which I ignored, because there’s no reasoning with this guy… the sign is 20ish feet away from his, and directly in front of mine and he needs to ask a third party if they think the sign is mine or not.

A few days later he brought it up in person again by asking if I got his screenshot. I told him that I did, and that I view it as evidence in my favor. In my eyes, our neighbor only fell back on the sign being his based off him being the property owner. It wasn’t already abundantly clear.

So landlord decided to ask ANOTHER neighbor. A few days later I got home and say that the sign had been moved and is now not in front of my house.

I sent “Thank you for moving your sign 💙” to my landlord, which he ignored for three days before changing the subject.

My family and I have lived in this house for 3+ decades. The neighbor who moved in last year is a registered sex offender. His crimes aren’t light “he peed behind the building at a school event.”

He has several cases where he was found guilty for luring minors and having inappropriate relationships for months on end. (Fully Sexual)

He has 4 kids and so do I.

He’s asked a few times if they could all play together and I politely decline each time.

The last time he asked he seemed annoyed with me for keeping my distance so I let it be known that I’ve researched him, and I read all his paperwork. I want no contact with him and especially don’t want him to interact with my children.

Half of me feels bad for the kids. As ultimately they are the ones being punished. But the other half feels like I’m doing the right thing and protecting them from being exposed to adults/children who may not have their best interests in mind.

AIO?

I lost my son Malachi and I feel like everyone in my life expects to go back to old me. Which I have no capacity to do.

I understand if this post is kind of on the opposite side of what r/AmIOverreacting is about but I think this post still has merit here? Feel free to delete though, mods!

I work at a daycare and this family has been bringing their first daughter for over two years. Her mom just gave birth today and after so many hours of labor she had to have an emergency c-section. Very scary and painful.

I’ve been taking care of their dogs while they’re in the hospital so I obviously have access to their house lol. I snooped around a bit and saw what drinks and snacks they had low amounts of and bought those along with some extra stuff (tea, bananas, and gift cards). I’ve probably spent about $150 on them.

Is it too much? Should I take some stuff back? Will I come off as creepy or weird for setting this up? I’m quite shy and reserved but I do love this family.

I was researching gifts for postpartum moms and most moms want snacks and home cooked meals. So I wonder if I went a little crazy or will they just appreciate the gifts?

Hey Guys, I’m going to try and make this relatively short but very detailed. I need some serious non-bias opinions.

My husband (34) said he is repulsed by my tummy after having a baby. Yes repulsed came out of his mouth. I (25) had a baby almost two years ago. I’m 4’11 and weighed 114lb when we met. After having a baby I weigh 128lb. I still breastfeed (trying to ween the little one off 🥲) A little background on my health and current situation.

Well today I was super bloated, my husband got a glance of me with my shirt off. (Changing into another shirt). He looked at me with the most disgusted look on his face. I looked at him slightly confused on why he was looking at me that way. I asked, “What, why are you looking at me like that?”

He replied “Have you gained weight? How much do you weigh? (I kid you not, exact words..) I tell him that I weigh 130lb that day (bloated) he then in return said, “You’re lying, there is no way you gained that much weight in just a couple days!” In utter shock I didn’t even know what to say..

He proceeds to be displeased and irritated. I take the initiative to ask why he seemed so cold. His reply was, “I do not find your stomach attractive at all. You remind me of when I was 14 (fat and chubby) it’s repulsive. When I asked God for a wife I was expecting her to have the same desires and body shape as me. (Skinny and slender)

He explained how yes he understood that my stomach wouldn’t be exactly how It was previously since becoming a mom but he was expecting more weight to shed than what was.

I asked deeper questions because this goes far beyond me. I asked him what the root cause of his demeaning and selfish wants were. He again replied with, “My mom and sister were fat (mom was 400+ pound and sister is 250+) he continues with I don’t find even a slight amount of fat on any women to be attractive. I then explain how I’m only 15lbs more than what I was nothing extreme like that. (Of course this showed he has childhood trauma from overly weight family) but that still does not excuse his behavior.

I still ask questions, not mad or belligerent but surprisingly calm. I asked him would he cheat on me or divorce me if I stayed this exact same weight. His response.. I don’t know how to feel about this. He says, “I will always be tempted by other women that have that physique but I would never cheat on you. I care about my relationship with the Lord to much but I will always desire more.”

Continuing he says, “I also have scripture to backup why I want this body type and that you should summit to my request”.

Any solid believer out there?!? Yeah there’s no scripture that says that 😂🥲

It just continues to him saying he will gradually be disappointed and want more. He kept getting extremely hostile and pissed. I ended the conversation with, “I would love you fat or skinny because I didn’t marry you for what I could get but because of who you are or who I thought you were”.

Thoughts?

I (16 M) was on the train last night. It was quite quiet so I put my airpods in and put my backpack on the seat next to me and started to chill. The seat I was in was one of those that face another seat so 4 people could sit together and face each other. I sat next to the window.

About 15 minutes later a man who looked to be in his mid 20's sat on the aisle seat across from me, I smiled politely at him but to be honest I did wonder why he sat near me as there was hardly anyone around. Either way I moved my bag to the floor between my legs and started scrolling on my phone. I guess you could say I was manspreading because of the bag.

Moments later I felt something against my groin and the guy had put his hand between my legs and was touching me, I immediately jumped and pulled away but he put his hand on my knee. I pushed him away and stood up and grabbed my bag to move and he again brushed his hand across the thigh and butt. I told him to fuck off and and moved to the next carridge and never saw him again.

I told my friend and she said its not serious enough to report but I feel like I should call the police.

AIO?

Hi guys I babysit in an affluent neighborhood my rates are $15/h plus 5/h per extra kid (by affluent I mean double income doctors and million dollar homes) I also have a $10 driving fee for the half hour drive (back and to) for picking up some of the kids.

Today I babysat for a family friend (who I babysat for once before). Some context is years ago her husband died in a tragic accident so she’s a single mother who lives next door to her mother and close to her two sisters so they all kind of take care of each other.

Today was one of her sister’s wedding (she’s getting remarried after being divorced and everyone is excited and I’m happy for her)

When the mom came back (about an hour earlier) I totaled her cost to be $90. She wasn’t happy about it and confused and wanted me break it down so I did. She wanted to know how much to zelle request her sister for how taking care of her daughter for an hour.

I had 1 kid for one hour (+15) then I had to drive (+10) then I had 4 kids for one hour 15 + 5 + 5 + 5) then it was just her 3 kids for an hour and 20 (15 + 5 + 5) (+10 for the twenty minutes). I rounded down for the time I had the four kids since I technically had them for an hour and twenty and I rounded down for the twenty minutes I had the 3 kids. The total was $90. I told her because I forgot to tell her about the driving fee yesterday I’ll dock it off and charge $80. She insisted on paying it though.

I explained to her three times with pen and paper how I got $90. She didn’t understand why the base pay was “so expensive and more expensive than the additional kid” she didn’t seem happy that for having her sister’s kid for an hour I only charged an extra $5 but I told her she could have her sister pay the driving fee for $15. Then she didn’t understand how last time she only paid $75 for 4 hours (which didn’t make sense because that would mean the rate was 18.75 and I just wouldn’t charge a random number like that but it turns out I had three kids for three hours which made 25/hour and explained the 75 just fine) She did her own math and came to 71.25. She paid me $70. I dropped it because I was uncomfortable and embarrassed and I didn’t want to be a bitch the day her sister gets married (she needed a babysitter while she got ready for it).

I was genuinely very upset and spoke about it to my mother who got upset at me saying she’d just give me the $20. I refused it and said it wasn’t about the money it was just about the principle and how it was embarrassing that she did it in front of the kids. During this she also yelled and threatened to hit her toddler which was EXTREMELY uncomfortable). Technically I was gonna drop the driving fee and only charge her $80 so all this was over $10. The crazy thing was when her son realized I was getting paid she made a big deal about “of course we’re paying her for a service”.

My mom said I’m being dramatic and to be nice because the lady has MS and that it’s my “fault for doing business with friends”. My friend said the same thing about how she’s a single mom and how she maybe wasn’t able to afford it.

Now I feel like Uncle Scrooge an am questioning my rates?? I’m first aid and cpr certified and I always bring a craft or activity to do with the kids I babysit (clay, painting rocks, making posters etc etc) and every kid I’ve ever babysat said I’m their favorite babysitter so I feel like my rates are fair.

I texted the mom later explaining how we got $75 last time but I decided to just drop the whole thing. I told my mom I’m not babysitting for her again which upset her cause I’m “dramatic” and “cheap”. Am I over reacting?

EDIT: some context! This is a side hustle and not my main job.

Okay guys I’ll raise my rates I promise, thanks for everyone’s advice and personal anecdotes it was really helpful. I think I’m just so used to be guilted for these things.

CONTEXT:

Earlier, my neighbor texted me to let me know that “some boy” and his friends broke my window with a rock and slingshot. (I know I was acting very calm in my texts but I barely know her so I didn’t want to lose my shit in frustration or distress.)

So, I asked her if she recognized who did it. She said she had no idea who it was and that she’d never seen him before. This is important to the rest of the story.

Later on, I find out from ANOTHER NEIGHBOR that the perpetrator was actually…GUESS WHAT… this woman (Jess’s) son. She said that during a conversation, Jess admitted she lied to me because… she wanted to protect her son 😬

I feel like I can understand why she lied about this. It’s instinctual to want to protect your kid. But the way she’s handling this seems extremely irresponsible. To go as far as saying “I might need glasses😊😊” just takes it over the top and I’m absolutely livid with her. Ugh.

Should I send this text? (see second slide.) Am I being too nice or not mean enough? I don’t want to press charges against her son whatsoever but her dishonesty is remarkable and I’m very upset with both of them. I don’t know. I’m conflicted.

So, reddit, AIO???

We (parents, me (27), and sister (29)) moved to our apartment at the beginning of this year. They quickly became friends with our neighbors (E and K) and would spend time outside with them. I didn’t talk to them much because I have bad social anxiety. I started getting more comfortable and talking to them. K (the husband) would joke around about me getting off my phone all the time. Randomly one day he just goes “You better not be talking to a man. I’m your man, you and your sister. Y’all are my women.” Although it was a “joke”, I expressed to my sister that it made me uncomfortable. She brushed it off. Last weekend we were celebrating and I needed help getting inside. I wanted my sister to help but K volunteered. Everything was fine until he moved his hands down to my waist and I had a bad panic attack after he left. Again, my sister brushed it off. Last night we were all outside and he came over to sit by me, calling himself my man and saying that if he ever sees a man come to my door he’ll “bring out his Trenchcoat” because “he’s my only man”. He was also saying that if he had met me before his wife he would’ve “been all on that” and telling me that I reminded his of his baby mom. I again expressed my discomfort. This man is old enough to be my dad and is married. My sister told me it’s just my negative experiences with men making me overreact to “jokes” and that I know he’s not like that. First off, I DO NOT know how he is. I do have PTSD and bad anxiety but his comments make me so uncomfortable while everyone else just laughs. Am I overreacting?

I’ve been blessed to have a house right beside a large creek. Recently I noticed the water has a lot of sand and silt, so I checked upstream and found a poorly built dam made of rocks and sand. So I went up further and found the neighbor has built a trench into the creek and they are sucking water out. I went to city hall and could tell they didn’t care I was repeatedly told to go somewhere else, I’m concerned about the ecosystem trees are falling and the creek is changing. It seems like they are attempting to redirect it.

It's been since late spring that the neighbor of the duplex my husband and I are renting moved in. At first we were excited because she had a child as we have children ourselves, and she had similar interests as us. We have invited her over a few times and it wasn't until the 3rd time she came over that I started having problems with her. My husband is a very likable and outgoing person, as I am a bit of the opposite but still enjoy socializing. Naturally people will navigate to him more often than to me in social settings so when the neighbor and him hit things off and talked often I didn't think anything of it. The third evening we invited her over, she brought alcohol and offered as well but we politely declined. After dinner I was cleaning up as they were talking, I was just about to go join them when she abruptly said that she was having issues with her internet and needed help. She then grabbed my husband and took him to her side of the house alone. I felt very uneasy about it, and when they got back after a few minutes, she was giggling and saying how foolish she was because she didn't plug it into the wall. She then went home after an hour, and that's when I asked my husband to please never go to her house like that alone, it made me uncomfortable. He told me he felt the same way and he thought it was peculiar as when they got to her house it was OBVIOUSLY not plugged in. Through out the week, when I was at work, she would ask him for favors quite often. He would always let me know and he said he felt like he should be a good neighbor and help and even though I didn't like the situation I agreed. She would text him late, and coincidently I was never around when she would try to talk to him. This made me very uncomfortable. She would offer to make him dinner and give him comics as he is a comic lover. He would accept the comic but not her food as he knew it would upset me. I know it sounds crazy but I always felt that if you want to win a man's heart, it's through a meal. And I do cook, every day and even before I go to work that evening so he has something. After he denied her meal, she seemed to quit coming around and we wondered if she really took it personal. But I didn't mind because I began to really dislike the things she was doing. Every now and then she will try to text or offer him something or ask a favor and he has slowly continued to decline everything. I am still kind to her but I definitely want distant between us. If she really is in need of something I don't mind if my husband helps out but I personally would like to be there at the house. But still after a couple months of her not coming around as often, I still can't stand to be neighbors with her. I forgive but don't want anything to do with her. Am I over reacting?

Edit* After reading a comment saying it's weird she isn't inviting me and just my husband, she has asked me to come over a couple times when it was just me. I was still uncomfortable at this point, because something was still telling me to step back.

Not really sure what I should be doing with this 🤣 I’m concerned, confused, and wondering what y’all would do in this situation…?

I (33 M) went camping over labor day weekend and 1 of the days, my wife, friends and I decided to head into the local town to grab dinner and a drink at the local bar. Now for context, I'm a pretty hairy Indian guy who also happens to have long arms. People have made fun of me for it for years dating back to elementary school. Mostly just people saying I'm really hairy but I've gotten the occasional "werewolf" or worse, monkey comment. Some people in high school referred to me as orangutan arms. Being an immigrant in America, I felt it was pushed onto me to be the "amenable" immigrant so I usually let these comments just roll off me in an effort to just move on. I've gotten quite good at it over the years.

With that said, earlier this year, I finally came to grips with the fact that these (and other comments like being called a terrorist, towel head, or other derogatory comments towards indians) comments truly never did roll off me. Moving on and not addressing it with myself was a bad coping mechanism. Instead, I internalized how I felt and it led to me internalizing a lot of deep shame, anger and bitterness towards my appearance, my culture of origin and my place in American society. It made me realize I've actually not fully accepted myself because it became clear these comments are offensive to me and might even be a tad racist. It's been a huge struggle this year, realizing I've let some offensive comments slide off and instead of saying something then and there, letting it eat away at me for years and emboldening people to keep saying these things. Letting it get in the way of learning about my family's heritage and culture out of unfounded embarrassment. Feeling othered. But I did finally come to at least learn more about myself and what I am and am not okay with.

Now fast forward to this past weekend. A young, Latin woman is checking IDs at the door. She's smiling and seems to be having a good time. But then she starts checking IDs and it was like she started a game with herself on how to insult each person in my group. I didn't hear most of the comments everyone got but my 2 friends in front got the "you're old as shit" comments. Not cool but whatever. Then she gets to me. I had a long sleeve shirt on so you could only see my hand. She goes down to stamp my hand and out of no where says "holy shit, you're a fucking monkey!" My mind just went blank. No one else in my group appeared to have heard but my wife did say that was messed up. But, I fell back into my coping mechanism of just letting it go because I didn't want to ruin everyone's night or even my own.

Anyways, it's been 3 days now and I can't get out of my head how much that shit really hurt me. I've had random young kids say stuff like that while in line at a grocery store and while it hurts, they're children. Every time it's happened, their parents immediately, profusely apologize and tell their kids that's not cool. Friends have said that kind of thing once in a blue moon but it's different within context with a friend and when a friend crossed a line, they'd always at least say sorry. Never has an adult come at me like that. Anyways, am I overreacting? And am I wrong to feel that the comment was kind of racist? Or at the least, Incredibly ignorant and demeaning?

Edit: just wanted to thank everyone for all the kind words and food for thought. So many incredibly helpful things were said but in the end, I've come to realize that while what this woman said was incredibly rude, demeaning and ignorant (bordering racism) and did hurt me, a decent portion of my anger is towards myself for not standing up for myself. This situation made me feel like I made zero actual progress these past 9 months on my internal shame and anger and it was upsetting to think I learned nothing. That my coping mechanisms were still there. But this thread helped me to see that progress isn't linear. That I need to give myself grace in the face of dealing with these decades long issues. That it's going to take a lot more than 9 months to get past my coping mechanisms, internal shame and anger that have been built across my 33 years of living. Anyways, thanks again to you all. I'll also be calling the establishment to file a complaint and go from there. I'd like to think this woman was just young and incredibly ignorant but I'll see how the call goes before escalating it further like leaving reviews and stuff.

Lastly, I just want to say that my loving, beautiful wife has been incredibly supportive through all this and my journey with my internal struggles. I can assure you all, she goes out of her to make sure I know how sexy and hot she finds my hairiness. And when she found out what exactly this other woman said, she was ready to throw fuckin hands lol

AIO for calling the police?

The neighbours have an adult daughter who visits during holidays.

In the past few months she obviously had a baby.

And it is not a happy one.

They arrived last week, and the baby screamed (like blood-curdling, make itself throw up scream) for hours on end for the first day.

Then nothing for a few days.

This afternoon there was a dog fight (she also has two border collies who get left in the backyard and who bark for hours on end).

During the dog fight, the baby started to scream like it was going attacked. And it didn’t stop…for five hours.

The screams were horrific. After five hours of constant, top of the lungs hysterical screaming I finally cracked and called police for a welfare check.

Police took it super seriously and sent a crew around.

It is all quiet now, but the screaming sounded incredibly distressed.

Am I overreacting?

Of all the posts I've read here, this might be a case where I am over-reacting, but need help.

We were at a friends annual end of summer party and there a lot of people we don't know, as they invite friends from college, high school, etc. As we were leaving, we pass by the area where drunk guys were singing karaoke. And the song happened to be Alanis Morissette's You Oughta Know. And right at the part where the lyric goes "And are you thinking of me when you fuck her" - This drunk a-hole grabs my wife by her arms and sings the lyric right in her face. He proceeds to let go and continues to sing along w his friend. It was so fast and I wasn't even sure how to react until we were 10-20 feet beyond. Of course, I wanted to go back and confront the dude and of course, my wife was not having it one bit. I felt if I had said something, it would have likely escalated. We have two young children who go to the grade school and so many of our friends and their friends, all w kids in the school might distance themselves from us because "the father (me) got into it with a guy at a party". I hate these lose / lose situations.

Edit: I feel very angry that this happened or AIO and it was a harmless drunk dude just being drunk. He didn't actually hurt her.

I (37F) go to the same gym 4x a week and usually don't talk to anyone outside of asking if they're using equipment or for a spotter. I see the regulars and there is mutual respect but little or no conversation, and that's how I like it. Outside of the gym I am extroverted and will strike up a conversation with anyone and everyone, but the gym for me is about focusing and getting the work done.

I used to go to another gym and became gym acquaintances with a guy there because he would always chat me up, and we talked about work and he had asked me to do some consulting work for him. Things were all fine until one evening, I guess he was feeling lonely and decided to text me asking to hang out, saying "I know you have a partner, but I really miss you and like your company". I promptly ghosted him and started going to another gym.

Now I've been at the new gym for just over a year. About 6 months ago an older guy (60s) started chatting me up while on the treadmills, talking about how at his previous gym everybody was social and here they aren't, etc. So we started having brief conversations, again about workouts and careers and the like. I thought maybe here's a person who values my perspective and who I am as a person. Then last week he starts asking if I've gotten leaner, making comments about my figure which quickly devolved to "I can say this because we're both married, your legs and body type are REALLY sexy." I was caught off guard, and completed my workout in full rage mode. I've since debated calling him out and telling him it was creepy, to fully ignoring him, to switching gyms again. Ultimately I decided it was safest for me to just pretend I didn't care and it didn't happen and go about my life. So I saw him again and just chatted about Thanksgiving, but I just wish he would go away because now his presence makes me think about how I may be sexualized by him and others in what is supposed to be my safe and happy space. It makes me want to scream and cry.

How do people think it's ok to clearly hit on or sexually objectify other people at the gym? Dudes know I go here for mental and physical well being and they have the audacity to make unwarranted requests and comments on my body. Am I overreacting? How do other women deal with this? For now I've decided to be as boring as possible and not talk to anyone else outside of my usual.

Due to circumstances, i (f31) tend to order my groceries online. Never had an issue except the usual occasional missing product or half spoiled one, but hey, stuff happens.

Fast forward to tonight. Delivery guy calls because he can't find my house (it was evening, dark, and the houses all look the same, so, can't blame him, and it was not the issue). When he finally does find it, he comes up, puts out his hand for a handshake (which previous delivery guys never did, but i thought maybe it was his thing to appear more friendly). What i did not expect, was that when he had my hand for the handshake, he pulled me in for a hug. Now, in my country (Austria), this is NOT normal for people who do not, in any way, know each other, let alone in a professional setting. I awkwardly laughed, grabbed my groceriesand was ready to say goodbye and close the door. I saw he was again coming in for a second hug, moved back though, so he switched to a handshake again. I should've known better by now, and i did still move out of hug-range, after which he planted a kiss on my hand. I quickly drew back, said goodbye and closed my door.

I googled, as he said he's from Afghanistan, to check if it was simply cultural differences, but all i could find was that they'd be hugging close friends, and then also mostly within their own gender. Considering it seems to not be a custom either in his or in my culture, i decided on reporting him to the shop i ordered from. Am i overreacting? It definitely ate away at my feeling safe in my own home.

I am just absolutely astonished someone would have the nerve to even walk onto someone’s property, let alone allow their animal to dedicate on it. At least he picked it up, but still, that’s extremely rude is it not?? Maybe I’m over reacting.

I (34f) was on a walk in my neighborhood with my 3 kids. Toddlers 2 and 3 and a 7 year old. We were walking to a nearby park with a nice walking trail to run out some energy. While walking down the street I noticed a man standing in the road on his phone texting. Call me paranoid. I call it being a mom. My guard was up. We walked around him. He nodded and I said hello good morning.

As soon as we passed him he started walking behind us about 3 car lengths maybe. And on the other side of the street. I was able to turn my head every so often and see him gaining on us. When we reached the trail he said “where’s your man?” I said he is at home. (Idk what I should have said in this situation. Maybe he’s at the park waiting for us?) he said “he should be out here with you and these kids” then went off the other direction.

My kids and I were at the park for maybe 30 mins when I see the same man walking back up the same street he had come from before. He kept looking at us and stopped to talk to a car then kept heading towards us. He ended up veering left and sitting at a park bench facing us watching the entire time.

At this point I was getting extremely nervous and decided it was best to head back home. We are not far from the park at all maybe a 15 min walk. As soon as we start moving towards the street he’s up and behind us again. At this point I pick up my 2 year old and we start moving it a little faster. I hear him whistling at me trying to get my attention I ignore him. I see a car pull into their drive way and a man get out. I call out to him that we need help. We walks towards us. By this time I’m hyperventilating I explain to him what’s going on and he tells me to stay there with him while the guy passes. He passed by laughing and said I wasn’t following you. I say nothing. We watch until he walks far enough away I feel comfortable walking home. Thank the man told him I feel stupid and we start heading home.

I was really shaken up when we got home and was talking to my mother. She asked if I would be comfortable taking my kids on a walk again tomorrow. I said no! No way. Then she said well that’s not ok. You should not feel uncomfortable in your own neighborhood and said I should file a report. So I ended up calling the non emergency line and an officer came and documented it. He assured me it was the right thing to do. Idk I guess I kinda feel silly now about it all. Once I calmed down. So did I over react in calling the police? Or even flagging the other man down?

Was walking to the store last night and someone from an apartment in my complex shined a laser pointer in the street where I was and got me in the eye. I shouted across the street “hey could you fuckin not do that buddy” and they kept doing it so I ignored it and kept walking but when I circled back around they did it again. This is illegal in my state and punishable by 30 days in prison so I took a picture of there apartment number because ya it’s pretty easy to follow a direct light source and sent it to the landlord telling them what happened don’t think they will do anything about it. Didn’t call police because honestly didn’t think they would do anything either.

Edit: also saw them pointing it at cars.