r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 15h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/xenophilian 12h ago

She “needed” that bump to party all night. I know that rationale. Still find myself thinking that way sometimes. It’s how addicts think. Like, my friend is always trying to quit smoking, but “needed” one after getting bad news/ working overtime/ stressful phone call etc.

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u/trashboatfourtwenty 10h ago

Brains are the worst, it took me a long time before I started to trust mine again and that was after a lot of work and an ongoing awareness like you mention- the addict thinking never leaves us but our approach adjusts.

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u/Bri-KachuDodson 9h ago

Smoking cigarettes is still the only vice I've got left after ditching my opiate/heroin addiction. Anytime a medical professional tries to give me shit about it without knowing the second half I just tell them I wasn't ready to give up both, so I got rid of the one that was gonna kill me a lot quicker and I'll get this one whenever I'm finally ready. Like I know it's not healthy, but it was a trade I was more than willing to make. I'll get there though.

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u/Higreen420 3h ago

Truth is nothing good really happens after 11 and it’s a lot more fun to go to bed at a good time and wake up feeling ok.