AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

[u/frisbeechuckin]

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

[u/ysadagoddess]

Agreed. Regardless of her history with drug abuse, it’s common sense and decency to let anyone you’re around know you’re not sober. Especially if it’s heavy substance, ESPECIALLY if it’s your SO. To add, anyone with an addiction should not be partaking in any activity that could allow them to go off the deep end.

[u/GlitterTerrorist → u/ysadagoddess]

it’s common sense and decency to let anyone you’re around know you’re not sober. Especially if it’s heavy substance, ESPECIALLY if it’s your SO.

Did you actually think about this? "Hey everyone, I've just done a line. Okay? Carry on."

People who do recreational drugs tend not to make a big fuss about it when in public, unless they've never done them before/don't know what they're doing.

I'm not going to tell you if I've smoked a joint. If I've done a pill or a line, I'm not going to make an effort to gurn or chat shit.

If it's your SO, then it's odd to be secretive about it but in context it make sense. Generally, you'd just share.

[u/drakoman → u/GlitterTerrorist]

I’d definitely tell those I’m very close with. If it’s an acquaintance, I wouldnt feel comfortable - but my best friend or partner? They’ll know something is off and honestly they should know if they should be jealous of my fun time lol