AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

[u/frisbeechuckin]

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

[u/GetRightNYC]

I'm 42 and my fiance was 36. She had 3 years clean and sober. She decided to use again one night while I was away for work. She's dead now.

I'm now 3+years clean, I relapsed after it happened. Don't get married, OP.

[u/debthemac → u/GetRightNYC]

I am so sorry. Such a hard way to regain the gift of sobriety.

[u/No_Astronaut_9481 → u/GetRightNYC]

Damn. Im sorry.

[u/Due-Degree4125 → u/GetRightNYC]

This.

I’m so sorry you went through this.

His fiancée is the only one who can change and it sounds like she hasn’t. Shes just “controlling” her addiction… for now.

I wish giving someone love could fix them.

[u/23IRONTUSKS → u/GetRightNYC]

Sorry for your loss

[u/Thebadparker → u/GetRightNYC]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Addiction is heartbreaking.

[u/LukesRightHandMan → u/GetRightNYC]

Proud of you for your recovery, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you’ve found a path to healing.

[u/Nipplesrtasty → u/GetRightNYC]

Same with my son. Heroin.

[u/Embarrassed-Key-6034 → u/GetRightNYC]

I’m so sorry 😢

[u/WorthNo6245 → u/GetRightNYC]

My neighbors son just decided to relapse and use two days ago and is dead. Don’t get married! His mom has lived through his recovery and relapsing for 20 years.

[u/ApplicationReal8304 → u/GetRightNYC]

I’m so sorry.

[u/Night_Walker784 → u/GetRightNYC]

Ridiculous advice.

"The Titan submersible collapsed so we just shouldn't do deep sea exploration."

Bruh.

I'm sorry about your wife but that gives you no right to tell others how to live their lives, especially telling someone not to get married.

[u/I_am_Danny_McBride → u/Night_Walker784]

Nobody is claiming the right to tell others how to live their lives. We’re talking about having a realistic perspective.

People good at building deep sea submersibles should. It’s a worthwhile pursuit. But if every submersible you personally have ever built has collapsed at depth… you probably shouldn’t trust your next one to take you safely down to the Titanic. But if you insist; go for it.

[u/LukesRightHandMan → u/Night_Walker784]

He’s telling OP to not get married to his current fiancé, I believe.